Indeed, many plain-looking girls are more confident and live better in this way.
But this kind of advertisement is even more worrying: too much guidance on women's external image will make them forget to pay attention to their own hearts.
Recently, I was reading a book about the growth and awakening of women, The Veil, written by British writer Mao Mu, and read a chapter about the awakening of the heroine Katie, which was very insightful since she began to pay attention to her own heart.
Katie, who pays attention to external image, cheated on her in marriage and fell in love with a tall and handsome married man, Townsend.
And Thomson's wife knows that the lovers attracted by her husband are also superficial people who pay attention to appearance.
Therefore, she despised these mindless women and called them "second-rate goods".
Perhaps this word is a bit harsh to describe modern girls.
But in real life, too many girls are addicted to external means such as medical beauty and micro-plastic surgery, and pay more attention to how to attract men better.
The vase is really attractive, but it is of little use and easy to break.
Men who are attracted by appearance are mostly just as superficial; You can't keep a man with real taste after all.
Just when Katie attracted a superficial lover, Townsend, a really good man because of her beauty, her wise and kind husband Walter decisively abandoned herself.
When Katie was in the monastery, she met the dean.
Although she wears a nun's robe, Katie thinks she is beautiful.
Her beauty does not come from gorgeous clothes, but may be that her voice, temperament and attitude are very appropriate, and her manners are kind and elegant, which has produced a special quality.
And the dean gave up his aristocratic life in France, and Wan Li came to China to preach. This dedication and kindness also quietly touched Katie's inner world.
Compared with the pursuit of gorgeous appearance, Katie strongly felt the gap.
Maybe it's like a high school reunion more than ten years later, where a girl who only pursues plastic surgery stands with a girl who keeps studying. A woman who only pays attention to appearance is beautiful, but she has no soul; And a woman with connotation makes people feel comfortable and beautiful.
1. Watch your heart
When Katie stayed away from complicated social situations and did nothing from morning till night, she began to fidget.
She wants to ask the mother superior to give her a job in a monastery. Mother superior's words made her pause:
Otherwise, even if your time seems full and busy, your heart may still be restless.
If you want to get peace, you should stop and pay attention to your heart and see what message it is sending.
Many women are busy now, but in the end they get nothing. Probably the illusion of being busy masks your inner information. You don't know who you are or what you want to pursue.
A ship without direction can't reach the right shore.
Looking for a spiritual mentor
Mother superior played a very important role in Katie's awakening, so I think a woman who wants to awaken can find a spiritual mentor.
It is recommended to read biographies of women, such as the stories of legendary women such as Dong Qing, Zhang Ailing, Yang Lan, San Mao and Jiang Yang.
As women, we can broaden our horizons and guide our lives through a glimpse of their lives.
3. Constantly add value to yourself.
Katie in The Veil, after helping in the monastery, found that her work refreshed her spirit.
This feeling is completely different from the energy I give off when I am with my lover Townsend.
The sense of work value she feels stems from her own intrinsic value.
Zhang Xiaoxian mentioned in his love essay "Women's Cultivation":
Visible, an unattractive woman, constantly add value to herself, will glow with different beauty.
If we ordinary women want to cultivate ourselves, we must constantly add value to ourselves and constantly improve our sense of value.
There are also many ways for modern women to add value to themselves, such as reading, writing, giving speeches and cultivating hobbies.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: A woman's life is a process of self-cultivation. As long as you are willing, anyone with any qualification can become a master.
Yes, if you want. * * * with everyone.