Girls who "don't work hard now, they will get married in the future" and men who "want to get married in the future, but don't work hard now" are all promoting Pareto improvement in the marriage and love market. The efforts from both sides make the materialization of marriage more and more serious.
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Nowadays, people are not afraid to speculate on the influence and transformation of marriage on life with the worst malice. For young women, this feeling is even stronger. This group with the highest transaction value in the emotional market is naturally more emboldened to be picky in a country with a serious imbalance in gender ratio, and even take the initiative to suspend transactions. In Weibo's words-"Why do we have to get married by ability?" .
1992 Gary, Nobel laureate in economics? Becker initiated the concept of marital economics with the book Family Theory. Becker believes that the purpose of rational economic man's marriage is to maximize the benefits brought by marriage. If the benefits of marriage outweigh the benefits of being single, then people will choose to get married, otherwise they would rather be single.
However, today's society has given great weight to the single income of young women (especially in first-tier cities)-being single means a higher ceiling in the workplace, a group of heterosexual fans on social media, an unchanging figure and appearance, and freedom and advantages in various senses. On the contrary, some benefits of traditional marriage have been replaced by app, including heavy physical labor, computer maintenance, insurance financing, and sexual life solutions.
No wonder when a female blogger lamented that "nowadays girls are getting married if they don't work hard", she got tens of thousands of reposts on Weibo-1981-1991,and China ushered in the last baby boom after the founding of the People's Republic of China. In the subsequent process of urbanization and industrialization, hundreds of millions of only children gradually found that they didn't have to rely on it.
In 2007, when the youngest girl in the baby boom was about to become an adult, the gender ratio of college enrollment in China was reversed for the first time, and the proportion of female enrollment reached 52.9%. In the next nine years, female students firmly grasped the dominant position of higher education. In 20 16, female students accounted for 50.64% of graduate students, 52.53% of ordinary college students and even 57.76% of adult college students. Considering that there are 30 million more men than women in China, this ratio is enough to explain some problems.
After gaining the self-confidence and status that our ancestors never had, it has become a powerful promoter of low marriage rate, low fertility rate and high divorce rate. Even, this power is enough to blow a whirlwind of all-round criticism of men at any time and space. Two scholars from the Department of Sociology of Ohio State University published a paper on 20 14, pointing out that women's higher education in China will significantly reduce the possibility of marriage-it is impossible to find a boy with a lower education than themselves after studying hard for more than ten years, right?
Therefore, any negative news under the marriage system will become an all-round "anti-marriage and procreation science": domestic violence, infidelity, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ... When girls find that even an excellent woman like Li Yutong, who is rich in all aspects, will be hurt by the infidelity of a soft rice man, it becomes a more urgent choice to stay away from "penis cancer".
What was that sentence again? "Women don't want to get married, but men still want to marry nannies." This is the psychological basis of Joker Xue's collapse-he directly touched the feminist definition of intimacy.
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This situation is of course very unfavorable to unmarried men. So that someone adapted the above paragraph-"Nowadays, boys can't get married without hard work." A more malicious version is "May you walk for half your life and come back a virgin".
Kochi women are trying to increase their single income, so most men can only attract suitable partners in the emotional market if they work harder to establish their marriage income. This is also a manifestation of the cruelty of marriage. Whether you accept it or not, you must work harder to get a choice-for women with high knowledge, they will be forced to get married if they don't work hard; For the majority of men who want to get married in the future, if they don't work hard, they will continue to extend the unmarried age.
Age is a hard condition, which will always remind you of your ranking in society. The average age of buying a house for the first time and getting married for the first time in Beijing is 27 years old. People who are behind the average in these two aspects will inevitably feel anxious, especially men who provide more survival value in marriage.
And some men with excellent material conditions cannot avoid the risk of "adverse selection". After Su Xiangmao jumped from the building, the domestic PUA industry released a series of propaganda copies, such as "Su Xiangmao was forced to death by his poisoned wife, are you still an honest man silently?" 》
Sometimes it's ridiculous to think about it. PUA male customers with high income and scarce love ability, represented by Su Xiangmao, and ayawawa female customers with low emotional market value who want to gain higher value through marriage have become the most determined marriage supporters on social media.
The core essence of these two kinds of emotional training is to wake up the sleeping accountants of both sexes-"Teach you how to play hard to get, coax the man around, and always care about cost performance. Payout ratio, like a bookkeeper, will always be careful "or" Don't invest more than a woman, even if you like her again, let her think that you are her prize ".
Even people who don't believe in evolutionary psychology should understand or master these theoretical skills of emotional training in order not to suffer losses in the future marriage and love market.
The annual flow of these training companies has already exceeded 100 million yuan, and some even deteriorated into multi-level pyramid schemes.