Talking about this matter with my friends, a friend who studied "Economics" and "has a clear mind" said:
"Isn't it always there to exchange" beauty "for money? Those young girls who are rich, girls who are mistresses and young models, and the concubines who entered the palace in ancient times, were not realized by "beauty"?
and from an economic point of view, "beauty" is a scarce resource, and it is reasonable to be chased by capital.
I said, "That's the truth, but you can't challenge public order and good customs and objectify women.
I have always felt that in a mature and rational society, everyone has the right to choose the life he wants. Unless you touch the law and you are a law enforcement officer, others have no right to comment. You can despise it, but you have no right to interfere.
therefore, I don't comment on the phenomena of "three mistresses, big money and naked loans". Because only you are the "ferryman" in your life, and others can't help you. Whether you are comfortable or not, only you know.
with the growth of age and experience, I know more and more that "beauty" is a resource and can be realized.
Not only I, but also more and more young girls understand this truth. Words such as weight loss, make-up and micro-plastic surgery frequently appear in the media, and words such as "Beauty is justice" and "This is a society that looks at faces" on Weibo WeChat are flooding.
The era we live in is the best and the worst.
We are encouraged to pursue ourselves. We are told that "everyone has the right to pursue happiness". As long as you want and have the ability, you can live the life you want, which our parents did not have.
However, it is also the time when desires are the most extravagant, and everyone is encouraged to pursue their own desires. In the past, we divorced because we were unhappy, but now, we divorce because we can be happier. "online celebrity" economy, small flow and small flowers are all products of this impetuous era.
As Mama Meow said, "beauty" is definitely a resource, and it is a resource with its own aura. If we can seriously develop it, it will be a very good boost to our cause.
When you see this, you may frown and accuse me of objectifying women. In this regard, I just want to say that if you want to solve any problem, it must be the best policy to fight blindly, which is time-consuming and labor-intensive. Instead of this, it is better to analyze the advantages and disadvantages rationally and make reasonable use of the power, so as to gain the right of equal dialogue.
But up to now, there are too few girls who know how to make full use of "beauty" and give full play to its greatest value.
Most girls only know how to exchange "beauty" for petty profits in the decade of 2-3, but they don't realize that "beauty" can create "compound interest" just like "time" and "knowledge".
Especially beautiful girls from ordinary families often don't realize that "beauty" for them often ends up as "every man is innocent, but he is guilty of carrying a bag".
"Beauty" is indeed a resource, but it is definitely not a "scarce resource". Because there has never been a shortage of beauties in this world, what is lacking is "intelligent beauties".
Unless you are in an art college, in a general college, beautiful girls are always very eye-catching. They are always surrounded and sought after by boys. If they study better, they will become what we call winners in life.
but in fact, this is not necessarily enviable.
Ordinary girls use this time to constantly enrich their inner life, but most of them are tired of dealing with invitations and interference from men. If their parents are not wise enough, don't know how to guide them in time, or lack rich materials to keep "people with a heart" out, the future of these girls is often in danger.
And "beauty" is time-sensitive. No matter how good you are at maintenance, once you are over 35 years old, traces of your years will naturally climb on your face. At this time, the rich life you exchanged for your youth and beauty is naturally in jeopardy.
Lu Xiaoman is a typical example of "breaking good cards". She was born in a noble family, pampered since she was a child, proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. The appearance is also excellent, and it is known as "a rare sight in Shanghai". But because she is the youngest child in the family, her parents only know how to spoil her, which makes her develop a self-centered temper.
Therefore, after falling in love with Xu Zhimo, even though she was pregnant with Wang Geng's child at that time, she still had an abortion and married Xu Zhimo, and she fell ill from then on. After being with Xu, she didn't change the habit of lavish spending, which made Xu tired of teaching between the two places. Finally, Xu's plane crashed and she was silent from then on.
Looking at Lu's biography, I saw that she said to the younger generation in her later years, "My first half of life is like a nightmare. My mother died, Weng Ruiwu has a new love, and I am childless and lonely. It's really as bleak and lonely as the sea, unlike others who have children, women and husbands. How beautiful it is!
after reading Lu's biography, I am deeply moved. If we don't make proper use of this resource, we are likely to be plundered by "people with a heart" and break a good hand.
what are those really smart beauties like?
The truly intelligent beauties must be sober and self-possessed. They both know the attention that beauty brings to them and know that beauty is a poison wrapped in honey. They only borrow money from beauty, but they don't rely on "beauty."
Michele Monique Reis is a typical case. There is no doubt about her beauty. Even the meanest Hong Kong media describe her beauty as "rock-breaking". She is a typical poor and beautiful girl, but she just uses her wisdom and beauty to make the giants bow down to get married.
She knows that her greatest strength is "beauty", but she doesn't want to be just a social butterfly. She knew exactly what she wanted. Lu Yu asked her what kind of man would be her ideal type. She said frankly that she needs to be successful in her career, be single-minded and be able to control her family.
In several relationships, you can't see her haggard for feelings. She will always be radiant when she appears in front of the media. Once she finds out that this man can't give her what she wants, she will immediately pull out and stop loss in time.
what makes people gasp in admiration is that unlike many young couples nowadays, they tear each other up after breaking up, and they will never contact each other. She has a very good relationship with her predecessors. Even though she was with Xu Jinheng in 26, her predecessor, Liu Luanxiong, still packed a full-page newspaper and gave it to her as a birthday present.
Michele Monique Reis once said, "Love is great to me, but I don't have to.". Her calmness and sobriety finally enabled her to achieve her goal-to find a single-minded rich and powerful son, and the other party also went to great lengths to get her nod.
Throughout her love history, you will find that she is not only beautiful, smart, calm and decisive, but also ambitious and discerning, which is why she can deal with many rich people. However, no one blames her for watching Zhiyun Dinner before, only to know that she has achieved excellent grades and excellent language skills since childhood, is proficient in six foreign languages, can draw and taste wine, and also studies psychology.
I have always felt that most of the real "goddesses" are hermaphroditic, act like a lady, think like a man.
Huang Tongtong paid an in-depth visit to Li, and one of them was very interesting. Let me briefly describe it. Huang asked her, "Why do you think many beauties of your generation are not as good as you?"?
She said, "Many women want a man to save her, but the more they think about it, the less they can get it. I later realized that instead of relying on a man to save themselves, it is better to let themselves give themselves the life they want. It is often seen that many girls are proud of their age, their collagen and their vitality, but in fact this is not such a proud thing.
Zhang Ailing has long said, "You are young, and in a few years, you will be old. Everyone is only fresh in these years.
So is there any way to make "beauty" appreciate instead of depreciate?
of course, "beauty" is a double-edged sword, depending on how you use it.
first point: you must understand that when you have a treasure, but you don't have the corresponding ability to defend it, it will lead to disaster.
So, after you have the resource of "beauty", you must make every effort to improve your other talents.
If your family background is awesome, you should make persistent efforts, make good use of your natural advantages "beauty" and "background", maximize resources, and continue to upgrade the social class.
But except those beauties with their own backgrounds, the beauties of ordinary families must not hold the idea that they can marry into a rich family just by their beauty.
Because no rich man just wants to marry a beautiful wooden woman and go home. After marrying into a rich family, you need to be able to handle the social, family and company well. If you can't, your position is not firm at all.
For women with ordinary family background, my advice is: study hard and work hard. Enrich yourself as much as possible, earn as much money as possible, use money to shield some obscene men, and use money to make your love open and equal.
point 2: at any time, you should give full play to your "beauty" advantage and give extra points to your career and works.
Learn how to make up, how to wear, how to keep fit, and how to dance, so as to make your appearance impeccable, and make your manners elegant and charming. You don't want to be Michele Monique Reis, but at least you should be the best-looking yourself.
if your career is already good, you can spend 7% of your time and energy on improving your appearance. but if your career is not good, it is recommended that you spend at most 4% of your time and energy on improving your appearance.
remember: you must spend your main energy on your weakest place.
third point: read as many books as possible, and dabble in many kinds of books
The reason why we emphasize the importance of "reading" is that reading is the most cost-effective way to acquire knowledge, and on the other hand, because after entering the society, women are easily attracted by older men, who are mature, wise and attractive. Once you don't grasp it well, you will only lose your mind.
The girl who insists on studying is relatively independent in spirit, and will gradually build up her three views and thinking ability in the process of reading, so it is not easy to be cheated.
What needs to be emphasized is that the books mentioned here are best philosophical, speculative, financial and business books, which will help us to "think like a man". As for novels, romances and other books, it is best to just entertain ourselves. After all, we have read enough books at ordinary times, so we might as well read some books that open our minds.
point four: travel as much as possible to broaden your horizons.
The copywriter Tianhou said: "Tourism is a hybrid, and the climate, customs and residents on the journey all impact our original narrow thinking, so that we can constantly update our iterations.".
We can't choose our innate background, but we can make ourselves more attractive through acquired efforts, and tourism is the best way.
As for the remarks that you can't travel without money (time), I can only say: "According to your own situation, people are rich and frugal. If you want to go, you will definitely go by all means.
finally, if you ask me for any more advice?
Then I'll borrow the words of the evil meow daddy: make money, make money, make money.
that's enough.
Finally, a message from Wendy Wang.
Wendy Wang said: I think men who are capable, responsible and confident will like such women:
Forget gender at work and remember it in life.
me too, and you?
PS: I didn't intend to talk about this topic today, but I happened to see an article entitled "A Guide to the Correct Survival of Beautiful Women" written by my ugly daddy, which analyzed how a beautiful woman from an ordinary family could reasonably use her "beauty" to survive in society with dignity. His point of view is analyzed from the perspective of adult men, and I think this question should also be supplemented from the perspective of women, pretending to be this article.