Marriage, like a career, requires careful management, and a happy marriage is even more so. In life, art makes people poetic, and love deifies people. Everyone shapes a person according to his or her inner desire, and then pursues it. What you often pursue is not the real person, but just the perfect desire created in your heart? Marriage does not mean lifelong commitment, and even falling in love at first sight does not necessarily mean that you will be able to grow old together. No matter how passionate the love is, it will gradually cool down. Some people will acquiesce to the cooled love and live a dull married life. Some people will hate each other after falling in love and choose to leave angrily... It was right for them to marry when they fell in love, and it was right for them to separate if they couldn't go on. Love is like a tree. Whether you love it or not, you can never return to the original state of being a seed. There are thousands of reasons why a man and a woman stay together for life, but among them there is definitely the factor of love or affection. Although in marriage, love is like a handful of salt thrown into the sea, which cannot be found or tasted, every drop of sea water contains a little bit of love. Really beautiful love is actually a kind of restricted and constrained love. Just like the progress of civilization in our society is not made by man-made progress but by constraints, so love is not progressed by love itself but also by constraints. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, you can be reborn three times in your life. The first time your mother is pregnant cannot and cannot be chosen. The second time is a marriage pregnancy, which is completely selectable and controllable. As for the third time the child is born, Shaped by oneself. There is no way to change the former, but the latter two can be realized through one's own efforts. The so-called destiny is in one's own hands, and one's own destiny must be decided by oneself. There is no complete dependence between marriage and destiny, but marriage is closely linked to everyone's life circumstances. People who live a hard and difficult life, are not well-educated, and do not have deep thoughts often have relatively stable marriages and most of them can grow old together. However, people who live a luxurious life and have deep thoughts and high demands for spiritual life are often fast-paced, and it is easy for them to undergo fission from within their thoughts. For the former, it’s not that they understand love, marriage, and the depth of love better. It’s their hard life that suppresses their love and marriage to a lower level. For the latter, it’s not that they don’t understand love, but that they understand love better. Is it because the luxury of life inspires them to have more desires for love, and the excessive demands for spiritual life ignite the desire for a higher state. Everyone hopes to reach a state, and living in a state is only not allowed by material resources? Nothing is settled. Love in times of adversity is very precious, but love that can overcome the test of a happy life is indeed precious. However, in life, love often disappears when adversity passes. In people's eyes, those who please oneself and one's heart may be love, and those who like to appreciate may be love, but often reverence and affection can easily be mistaken for love. Admiration is above love, liking is below love, and appreciation is beside love. Admiration is just a way of respect. They are not pure love, but once true love occurs, it will include it all. It is almost impossible for us to examine and see through whether a marriage is lucky or unfortunate with our beautiful eyes. A marriage contains all the splendor of the emotional life between two people, as well as all the trivialities in life. Therefore, again Superficial marriage cannot be measured with eyes, it can only be measured by long years. It is best for us to look at marriage with appreciation instead of using words to make superficial evaluations. The only one with the right to evaluate is It is marriage itself, and the only thing that has the right to arbitrate is time. Someone once said: "A couple is both a lover and a friend. If you see another lover from the perspective of a lover, you can always see the new one; if you understand another friend from the perspective of a friend, you can understand everything." Think about this. It’s true! Many couples are far less emotional than a lover, and far less understanding and tolerant than a friend. What is even more difficult to understand is that a considerable number of men and women were lovers before marriage and became friends after divorce. However, during marriage, they were neither lovers nor friends, but just a couple. It was caused by a marriage registration paper. Of? No! It is the love part that has undergone a qualitative change. Before marriage, love is the passion, temperament, ability and the beautiful parts that the two people intentionally show. After marriage, it is the housework, daily trivial matters, and life worries that expose all the ugly parts of the two people. A happy marriage requires normalcy. The tacit understanding is not the mastery of heavy makeup. The longer two people live together, the longer the marriage will be. At this time, it is not important whether the two people still love each other. What is important is that the two people have become accustomed to this kind of life. There is no love in the marriage, but only family affection. At this time, even if they hate, quarrel, and resentment continue, they will still hold hands together tightly. If they are separated, they will lose their real life. Although a marriage with only family affection is not the essence of marriage, it can still be regarded as a happy marriage! As long as you are used to it, there is nothing you can't endure; for people, there is nothing you can't get used to. A woman in a happy marriage must be a woman who is good at tolerance. Her character charm is much higher than her appearance. She uses considerate thoughts, a tolerant and generous good attitude, and rich and simple words in her daily life. Lian's language designs, manages, and renews marriages. Even if such a woman does not have youthful beauty, she is still beautiful and lovely. She can not only retain a man's heart, but also make him admire and appreciate her.

And what about men? In marriage, they are also calm, peaceful, yet romantic and manly. Although they do not regard women as treasures, they regard women as cups for drinking tea and never ignore the existence of women. They not only remember but also carry them often, no To show just to play a woman's role in life. Today, with the freedom of marriage, men and women who can enter into marriage still have the foundation of mutual liking and love, but how can a crystal bowl marriage still be vulnerable? It is we who use a magnifying glass to invisibly magnify the flaws and frictions in marriage and ignore or turn a blind eye to the happy details in life. Someone once compared marriage to a glass of clear water. A drop of ink is dropped into the glass. The ink soon sinks to the bottom of the glass, and the water in the glass remains clear. We can completely isolate the clear water from the ink, and the water in the glass remains clear. If The water in the cup was stirred vigorously, and the ink at the bottom of the cup rolled up and down. The water in the cup quickly became turbid, and it took a long time to return to its original state. Perfect people do not exist. Each of us has stains and everyone makes mistakes, but small stains and mistakes cannot hinder our spirit and courage to pursue perfection, just like cloudy days cannot hinder the blooming of roses. Marriage The ink in that glass of water is also accidental and unintentional. There are too many external environments and internal factors, as well as people's inherent human weaknesses. We can't stop the ink from dripping into the glass of marriage, but we can do it without stirring it. The ink in marriage is not terrible. The terrible thing is not to pour out the ink but to stir it vigorously, so that the glass of water will remain cloudy until it evaporates. . Of course, tolerance and tolerance are not expressions of cowardice and sadness. They are based on an emotion, which gives a man the courage to give up his relationship with her, and makes her admire your generosity and appreciate your forgiveness. Women must be tolerant and able to tolerate some stains and mistakes. Then women will master love and understand love. Only by loving what they love can they truly love, and by enduring what they endure can they be happy! (Transfer) I think the above point is a good one.