Nowadays, many young people have different living habits from the older generation. Some old people know how to respect their children and know that their children have grown up and have their own way of life. And some elderly people impose their own thoughts and behavior habits on their children, which in turn means that their children are melodramatic and ungrateful. Square face thinks this is definitely wrong. With the continuous development of the times, young people have their own bottom line and forbidden area. Don't touch your own bottom line and forbidden area is what elders should do. Otherwise, constant testing and touching will only make the younger generation collapse, and the whole family will have cracks, which will no longer be as perfect and harmonious as before.
The older generation is poor, maybe a few people use a toothbrush, and modern young people should brush their teeth on time at night; The older generation sleeps in a bed at night, while the modern young people prefer to have their own independent private space. Various contradictions are more specific between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. According to the traditional virtue, a daughter-in-law should respect her mother-in-law, but if her mother-in-law regards this respect as a daughter-in-law's easy talk, it is pushing your luck and not respecting her daughter-in-law's bottom line. The result can be imagined.
There are many disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and some even fight for trivial matters. I don't know that this has become a talk after dinner in the eyes of others. Now when it comes to the way mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, they regard mother-in-law as their own mother and daughter-in-law as their own daughter. Actually, it's not necessary If the mother-in-law looks like a mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law will do her duty as a daughter-in-law, and the two will keep a proper distance while respecting each other. This is the best state. Unfortunately, few mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can do this in real life.
I went out to work hard in my early twenties and met Xiaomei, a city girl. They hit it off immediately and finally decided to get married. Xiaomei's parents also respect her idea. Even if her daughter, who is used to it all her life, marries a countryman, as long as she can be kind to her daughter, her parents will respect her idea and buy a house for two young people. The young couple live a harmonious and beautiful life. Xiaomei loves cleanliness and always keeps her home clean. Da Zhou has a good eye for children. She never destroys everything at home and cherishes Xiaomei's labor.
These days, due to the company's transfer, Xiaomei was sent to a foreign company for a month's business trip. Before leaving, she also specially told Da Zhou to remember to clean it every few days to keep the house clean and tidy. Da Zhou promised again and again that Xiaomei set off safely. Things are going well. Xiaomei booked a plane ticket in advance and sneaked home to surprise Da Zhou. Unexpectedly, it was not a surprise, but a shock.
Xiaomei heard a burst of baby crying before she entered the door at home. After repeatedly confirming that this is her home, Xiaomei opened the door in doubt. Everything in front of us shocked Xiaomei. Slippers are piled up in front of the house, and the broom is placed in the middle of the living room. On the sofa, my mother-in-law is eating melon seeds, and the ground is full of melon seeds. Mother-in-law obviously didn't expect Xiaomei to come back early, and immediately stood up from the sofa, looking a little wrong.
Xiaomei remembered what her parents told her when she got married, suppressed her dissatisfaction, but called her mother. Mother-in-law reluctantly agreed, holding Xiaomei's hand unnaturally, pulling her to sit on the sofa and let her talk about going out on a business trip. ? What is there to talk about? ? Xiaomei muttered, looking at the messy living room, Xiaomei just wanted to go back to her room to have a rest and ask what it was like to come back next week. But when she pushed open the door of her wedding room despite her mother-in-law's obstruction, Xiaomei's anger suddenly ignited.
A strange middle-aged woman was lying on her wedding bed, nursing the baby's diapers and clothes. The bedside table was full of maternal and child supplies, while her wedding photos were left in the corner. Smelling the unspeakable smell in the room, Xiaomei suddenly knocked on the door with her hand and asked rudely, who's calling, please? Why are you sleeping in my bed? ? Before the middle-aged woman could answer, her mother-in-law rushed in. This is your wife in the country. She just gave birth to a baby in a hospital in the city, saying that the hospital is too expensive to live in. Give her a bed on a business trip. Why? Don't be so rude ?
Xiaomei looked at the messy room and suddenly picked up those maternal and child products and began to throw them outside. Together with the adult clothes in her closet, the living room was even more chaotic and filled with all kinds of clothes. My wife also panicked, got out of bed with her child in her arms and began to please: Sister-in-law, what are you doing? If you have something to say, you can't sleep without this bed. If you think we are dirty, just say so. ? Xiaomei looked at his wife and said with a smile. If you don't go out with the baby in your arms, I'll kick you out, too? .
Hearing this, the wife immediately came to the living room with her child in her arms and winked at her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law's face couldn't hang any longer, cursing loudly: I don't know what you are being melodramatic about. Did you sleep in your wedding bed? ? He called Da Zhou and told him to come back soon. If you want to come to Dazhou, you must know that her mother-in-law only deliberately kept it from herself by letting outsiders live. If she doesn't come back early, she may have been kept in the dark. Xiaomei, who was getting more and more angry, came to the room, suddenly lifted the bed to the ground, took out the sledgehammer in the storage room and began to smash the bed, together with the bed board and bedside table. At this time, Da Zhou just got home, saw Xiaomei's behavior, and probably guessed what happened.
Before Da Zhou could explain, Xiaomei called the furniture company and ordered a better set of bedding in front of her cousin's mother-in-law and husband, so that they could send it right away. Seeing that things were more serious than expected, her mother-in-law began to complain to Da Zhou. Son, your wife is not an outsider. Mom just let her stay for a few days. Look at your wife. ? Looking at Zhou's dilemma in the middle, Xiaomei said directly, for Zhou's sake, can I call you? Mom? But we will always be just a mother-in-law relationship. I'm just being sentimental. Be a good person and let my relatives sleep in my wedding bed. I don't recognize anyone who touches my bottom line. Besides, my parents gave me this house. After all, this is my house. ?
My mother-in-law's face has completely changed. I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to say so. Da Zhou also began to beg: Xiaomei, we are all family. Let my wife live, let it go. ? Xiaomei sneered: that's my wedding bed, and you know that's my bottom line, and you know that I don't like it. ? Da Zhou also has nothing to say. After all, it has its own faults. She didn't tell Xiaomei, but wanted to hide it. Soon the bedding was sent home, and Xiaomei unequivocally asked the moving company to move the broken bed.
Looking at her mother-in-law's embarrassed face, Xiaomei didn't relent. She just said, Mother-in-law, I hope you will respect me in the future. This time, I'm going to drive people away and change places. Don't blame me for being cruel next time. ? My mother-in-law nodded again and again and left that night with her wife and luggage.
You see, if the mother-in-law could respect her daughter-in-law and tell her before taking her cousin to her daughter-in-law's house, things would not be so embarrassing. Even though the daughter-in-law in the city may have her own living habits and don't like her wedding bed being slept by others, she will agree to let her relatives sleep in the guest room out of courtesy. But like Xiaomei's mother-in-law, she directly thinks that her thoughts are the children's thoughts. When her daughter-in-law says that this has touched her bottom line, that her daughter-in-law is melodramatic and even wants to hide what happened at home from her daughter-in-law, it will definitely not work.
The most important way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to keep a proper distance. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not blood relatives, but are linked by the same lover? A woman's husband and her mother-in-law's son.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the guest relations formed around this man. Mother-in-law doesn't need and can't treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, and daughter-in-law doesn't need and won't treat her mother-in-law as her own mother. Two people respect each other, discuss everything, don't make decisions for each other or the whole family privately, keep a proper distance, don't appear to be out of each other's private territory, and don't let the man get caught in the middle. Only in this way can a family be harmonious, prosperous and happy.
On the contrary, if the older generation still thinks that their children should listen to themselves, have the same lifestyle as themselves, have nothing to discuss, and the younger generation has no private space, then, just like Xiaomei and her mother-in-law, they will be bitten by her mother-in-law when they see that their wedding bed is occupied by others without knowing it. In a rage, they will directly kick their relatives out, smash the wedding bed, waste money on new bedding, and make a scene in front of relatives.
Therefore, I hope that the elders can still respect the living habits of the younger generation, so that the family can live in harmony.