One day, I was wandering in the library, and among many books, I caught a glimpse of a book with an old and simple cover, which was printed with a vigorous and powerful "dullness". I have heard the title of this book before, and the cover is rather shabby. I thought it was a good book, so I borrowed it.

The so-called "insensitive power" can be well understood from the cover "insensitive power"-"insensitive" means "insensitive, indifferent and insensitive" and is a kind of "power". From the beginning, the author emphasized that "dullness" is a kind of talent, and those who finally achieve something have "dullness" behind them-insensitivity and fragility; For example, Mr. O in the book, the author thought that he would be more successful than himself in the literary world (which was true at that time), but only because his works were later rejected, depressed and failed to cheer up, and finally disappeared from the literary world. In the process of the professor's operation on the patient, a doctor S served as an assistant. Professors like to talk endlessly and swear, and other assistants will also be affected, unhappy or embarrassed. The doctor only used "passive Nuo Nuo" to answer "yes, yes". He is never at ease. In fact, he seldom listens to the complaints and reprimands of professors. He just learned the operation points at close range, which is good. From these two examples, we can see that passivity is very important, especially for the development of one's career.

Let's analyze the role of "insensitivity" in all aspects of life.

A. dullness makes blood flow smoothly.

Popularize medical knowledge first. The author graduated from Sapporo Medical University with a doctorate in medicine. As a lecturer in plastic surgery, I have been teaching medicine for many years. Abandon medicine and join literature.

The absolute condition for all animals to keep healthy is to keep the blood flowing, and this premise is that the blood vessels should be kept relaxed. Blood vessels are controlled by "autonomic nerves", including sympathetic nerves and parasympathetic nerves-the functions of which are opposite. Negative emotions lead to narrowing of blood vessels and increase of blood pressure; Relax, dilate blood vessels and lower blood pressure. The "insensitivity" that is not easy to get angry, nervous and stimulated can make the sympathetic nerve static and the parasympathetic nerve dominant, thus being healthier;

B. Insensitivity and cancer

Cancer is also related to the "autonomic nervous theory". A carefree attitude and a dull and strong nerve are conducive to cancer prevention, treatment and recurrence.

C. dull facial features are beneficial to physical and mental health.

We ordinary people don't have this trouble. For example, people with extraordinary vision are prone to visual fatigue, and people with extraordinary hearing are prone to interference. ...

D. People with dull senses have good "sleeping ability".

This ability refers to the ability to "fall asleep easily and get up quickly". Getting up quickly doesn't mean acting quickly, but getting into work quickly. Whether you have this ability or not has a great influence. The author only analyzed the reasons, such as thinking too much, overwork, excessive dependence on sleeping pills, bad living habits, depression, etc., but did not give detailed suggestions.

Based on my health knowledge and personal experience, let me answer. Exercise helps you sleep, but it seems inconclusive whether it is better to exercise in the morning or at night. Soak your feet before going to bed, and then go to bed after the foot temperature drops slightly; I won't explain this. I have seen a documentary about sleep before, so I have to explain it in detail. You'd better not eat before going to bed. You can eat bananas or drink a cup of hot milk about 1 hour in advance if you want to eat. Others should know, for example, listening to soothing songs instead of watching movies that stimulate humor or violence ... These can make people "fall asleep quickly"; Get up quickly, I only have one way-hot water is strictly alternating warm water and cold water to wash my face, and my body will soon wake up; Of course, eating breakfast and eating well is also very important for waking up quickly and entering the working state.

E. a healthy body itself is a good sense of dullness.

Take me to lift chestnuts. When I was a child, the people I was most familiar with besides my family were my uncles and aunts in the hospital. Next, I became familiar with the figure of my mother stewing Chinese medicine in the pot. Well, Chinese medicine also has bitter taste. But since I entered the university, I often run and play ball ... all kinds of exercises, at least three times a week. I haven't caught a cold for several years, and occasionally sweating or catching a cold is not very good-my body is slow!

A. for praise, "push your luck, get carried away"

For others' positive comments on themselves, whether consciously or unconsciously or in line with the facts, simply understanding that they are really better is "pushing your luck", working hard because of praise and motivating yourself to become better.

In this regard, the author only talked about the positive role of praise, and some people may think that it has a negative role. I don't think praise is good or bad. It varies from person to person, so we should treat it rationally and not "make full use of it". Many times, encouragement is really an encouragement to others and an exploration of one's own potential.

B. respond to jealousy and irony with blunt feelings

Everyone knows that "jealousy" is due to differences between the two sides. Low-level people envy high-level people.

The author gave two words to give an oral response:

The psychological analysis of "jealousy" is that only when the level gap between the two sides is not too big, poor people will be jealous of the strong side, just as ordinary people will not be jealous of Jobs and Bill Gates. Just as Venus said in "Hit the floor-the true energy of Venus' life":

Therefore, it is the last word not to pursue the harm of jealous villains behind them, not to deliberately fight back, and to improve themselves.

Regarding satire, the author's point of view is to ignore it whether you understand it or not.

It also makes sense, because if you understand and act unhappy, others will say that you can't take a joke, and sometimes people who satirize others will always find a reason to point out other people's problems. So at this time, if you are a little dull, your life will be carefree. But I want to say that sometimes other people's satire can make us see our real problems, just like the commonly used "heavyweight" means that people are too fat. For other people's satire, we should respond with "blandness", don't get angry, and don't overreact, but I think it should be more rational behind it: Does his satire really reflect my shortcomings? If this is the case, it should be changed in the future, not completely ignored. But there is no need to thank the satirist. "Satire" is disrespect for others, just ignore it.

C. tolerate people's differences and shortcomings

This is most obvious for sensitive people.

The book tells the story of a female colleague, whose delicate voice chatters endlessly and likes to wear strong perfume, which makes the male colleague sitting next to her unbearable and asks her superior to change her seat. The reason for her waywardness was passed on by her superiors. Maybe only Japan can be so capricious ~

Before going to class with a classmate, she said that the teacher was very annoyed, so she took headphones to class. Ask why. It turned out that when we were doing our homework in the assigned class, the teacher kept talking and bored her to death. I had never noticed this before she said this. In the next class, I actually paid attention to it consciously and found that the teacher did remind and repeat a lot of things when we did our homework. At first, I thought the teacher was a little wordy. I find that people are easily influenced unconsciously by people around them.

After reading this book, I realized that these complaints turned out to be lack of "insensitivity", and I realized that "conformity" is indeed ubiquitous in social psychology and occurs invisibly. When I understand "insensitive", I will not be easily influenced, because I find that many people's complaints and complaints in life are mostly caused by being too sensitive.

A. In the aspect of love, the author thinks that boys should have perseverance to the girls they like.

That is, the author said, don't be sensitive and fragile, feel deeply hurt after being rejected once, and be "tough and brazen". I don't entirely agree with this. Be rejected once, don't give up, but don't "pursue hard". Sometimes it's because they don't have the "conditions for love". The love condition I am talking about here refers to a certain personality quality that girls refuse to place their hopes on the opposite sex, so it is futile for boys to pursue it again. For example, friend A always says that he wants to find a male chauvinist boy. If a person who is not "male chauvinist" keeps pursuing her, I don't think she will agree to associate. If you finally agree because of this persistence, there is no guarantee for a long time.

B the author believes that in the process of love, men should also have times when their stomachs are stuffy and their rooms are messy.

The author analyzes that men who are picky eaters or eat too little will make women feel bound. "a big appetite and a strong stomach can reflect masculinity, which will make women feel admired and dependent"; At the same time, too well-organized room will make people feel that he is neurotic, and messy room will also make the woman gush out the idea of "should I do something for him?" For these, the author may have some experience ~ I think it varies from person to person. Men who are too picky about food are not very pleasing, but the room should not be messy ~

C. Both love and marriage should have a passive attitude: tolerance, forgiveness and compromise.

The author said, "whether you have a sense of dullness will determine whether the marriage can last long." This sentence is so right!

The author tells the story of toothpaste tube. A friend of 4 1 year-old has always had a habit: the toothpaste tube smoothes the fingerprints after squeezing toothpaste every time, and rolls the toothpaste tube up a little from the back. Where's the wife? She's never like this. She is very casual. Because of this, he broke out, and then his wife scolded him for having more minor problems and talking more than him.

We are two different individuals, but in the end we have to live closely together, and the two sides are different. They are too sensitive and will only lead to quarrels and complaints. So don't care too much about small things that have nothing to do with right or wrong, and rely on personal feelings and habits.

I still remember an episode in Desperate Housewives in which Carlos said to Gabriel, "Marriage is like this-compromise", which makes sense.

A. one of the advantages is "not afraid of bleeding."

The textbook says that "when the amount of bleeding reaches one-third of the total blood flow, you will die", which refers to men, and women can save their lives even if they lose half of their blood.

The author's analysis is correct, which is the special power given to women by the creator, because women shoulder the reproductive task that determines the survival of mankind.

B. The second strength is that you are not afraid of cold and pain.

Women's subcutaneous fat is thicker than men's, and even thin women have a considerable layer of fat. So it's cold, so boys take off their clothes and give them to girls. Now it seems too wronged for boys ~

The author who is not afraid of pain compares the pain of childbirth to the most painful gallstones and kidney calculi. I think it's not that I'm not afraid of pain, but that I have to endure it. The author said, "How brave and strong it is for women to put forward' I want to have another child' after enduring so much pain." I don't understand why anyone wants to endure the pain of childbirth again. I can only say that women are so great!

C. Motherly love is the climax of boredom.

1. In public, you can breast-feed topless.

2. Contact the child to change diapers and tolerate the child crying.

3. "Cute stain": The child eats at sixes and sevens, and the mother feels cute.

No matter what the child does, he will forgive.

The author says that there is a decisive gap between people with children and those without children, and these gaps will have a great impact on their future lifestyle. Look at my cousins who are new parents. They have really become more patient and insensitive. This is also a way of growing up.

"Passivity" is not "dullness", but a powerful weapon, which enables us to adapt to the environment and social survival, become an "insulator" when necessary, be unaffected, and become tough and powerful when necessary. It's a gift that you and I have to practice!

End.

After watching "Insensitivity", or if you have different ideas, you are welcome to collide ~

Finally, end this article with Mr. Junichi Watanabe's kind smile ~