First of all, the core idea of this book

? First of all, the main idea of this book is to advocate that each of us should be self-disciplined and control ourselves. "People have more self-discipline and more freedom. The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a proactive attitude. The initiative includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

Second, what is self-discipline?

? The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a proactive attitude. The initiative includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

Third, why self-discipline?

? Why does one think of self-discipline? In this world, not everyone will choose self-discipline. In life, many people are eager for comfort and enjoyment, but this can't be said to be right or wrong, just a personal choice. The premise of self-discipline is that you have expectations for your future self, and you want to be a better self. Therefore, if you read this article written by me and are interested, it shows that we are all the same, and we are all self-demanding, positive and unwilling to be mediocre. And this book is only suitable for people who have requirements for themselves.

Fourth, the conditions of self-discipline.

? However, some gains will be lost. Stepping into self-discipline is equivalent to living an ascetic life. Just like the Monkey King and others, they embarked on the road of learning from the West. Self-discipline is conditional, but you need to give up, give up those meaningless desires, those vain things. But the beauty of self-discipline also comes from the benefits you give up, and what you get is a life of continuous improvement and enrichment.

The meaning of verb (verb's abbreviation) self-discipline

? The process of self-discipline may be a bit difficult, but in the end it can bring us many changes, making us more peaceful and no longer slaves to emotions; It makes us more focused and know how to improve work efficiency; It makes us luckier and lets us know that our time will be rewarded in the end. We must believe in ourselves in this process. Since I chose the distance, I only care about hardships. Be responsible for yourself.

If we choose self-discipline, then we are responsible for ourselves, our work, our lover and our family.

Elaborate in detail

1, how self-disciplined you are, how free you are.

? However, self-discipline is not achieved overnight. Taking crooked ways can only be said to be cleverness. The real cleverness is to accumulate step by step and stick to your beliefs. There are two kinds of happiness. One is temporary, and this kind of happiness is easy to get, as long as you satisfy your primitive and primary instinctive desires; When you do this kind of thing, you will feel relaxed, but such a short happiness will not help you in the future. There is also a long-term, in every moment, need to pay, need to accumulate, slow effect, it takes a long period to show the effect; But once you get it, you will benefit for life.

? Day after day, we should stick to some fine habits that are extremely slow to get results and extremely bitter to implement. For example: get up early every day, go to bed early, exercise, read books, learn a foreign language, develop a special skill and learn a musical instrument. Kobe gets up at four o'clock every day, Dong Qing reads for an hour before going to bed every day, and many Harvard students and Tsinghua students study until one or two in the morning. Behind a truly outstanding person must be the self-discipline of an ascetic monk.

? If you want to have more gains and achievements than most ordinary people, you must do what ordinary people can't do. Start with the subtleties, day after day, every little makes a mickle, and accumulate silently from quantitative change. Looking back a few years later, you will find that the whole person has changed qualitatively. Excellence has become your quality in a subtle way, and it has become a spontaneous and unconscious behavior, which will benefit you for life.

If you want to realize yourself and get the life you want, start now! Society will not leave too much time for you to grow up slowly, and it will only drag everyone down.

There will also be some people in life who choose to spend every day quietly and insipid. Of course, this is also a choice in life, but this choice will make the future lack of many possibilities. There will also be some people who choose to live a chaotic life every day, and they seek the happiness of "drinking today and getting drunk today". This way of life is like we overdraw our credit card, but what we overdraw is future happiness. I think, if you are young, you'd better not be so "Buddha". It seems to be an excuse to get rid of pessimism, but it is actually an excuse to escape pressure and difficulties. It is also possible to choose to spend every day quietly, usually the choice of retired people. As a young man who has requirements for himself, it is better to work hard. I remember Thoreau, the author of Walden, went to nature to explore life alone, but he didn't just enjoy himself, but was thinking about something in life. Our Li has also gone to the countryside, and now they are spreading China culture. In fact, they are also a kind of self-discipline.

? We all want to live a quiet life, but only if we have the capital to own it. There used to be a story about a rich man and a poor man in the same boat. The poor man said that he basked in the sun on the boat like the rich man. In fact, their fields are different. The poor man lives by fishing in a boat. Once there is bad weather, he has to wait, but the rich can have more choices. Like this coronavirus, didn't it make a large number of people unemployed? Therefore, people still have to be prepared for danger in times of peace, so that they can accumulate enough capital in the early stage so that they can take their time at dangerous moments.

2. Change: the weak refuse to change, and the strong are not afraid of turmoil. We should treat life with a positive attitude.

? Life doesn't go according to someone's wishes. Change may come at any time. When we are unhappy, we may complain, fear and even cry at the top of our lungs, but all this can't stop the change. What we can do is to sort out our emotions, accept everything after this change, and then try our best to find a solution to the problem.

? However, there are a few people who actively seek change in their lives. They can force themselves out of their comfort zone and continue to improve their ability to stay outside their comfort zone. So, if you feel confused, anxious and confused, you might as well make a change. One cannot be knocked down by difficulties. Only by overcoming all negative emotions and situations can you grow better. Although this process will make you unhappy, you must believe in yourself and get better. As the book says: "The weak refuse to change, refuse to take risks, and refuse the possibility of upgrading and correction. The strong know the meaning of self-discipline and how to escape from the comfort zone. All the processes of change are necessarily painful, but this is the price of transformation. Change is a short-term pain, and complacency is a long-term pain. Who hasn't bitten his teeth and swallowed blood in his stomach? Only after experiencing all kinds of entanglements and pains can he stand among thousands of people and enjoy the envious eyes. Jade is not a tool, you carve yourself fearlessly, and you can live your ideal life. "

3. Self-love: Only self-love can lead to self-discipline.

? It is always right for a person to love himself in this world. The education we received from childhood told us to care about others, to understand others, to be selfless and so on, but it didn't teach us to love our own texts. In fact, people should love themselves first when they are alive. To love yourself is to be responsible for yourself and others. Only by loving yourself first and taking care of yourself can you take care of others without worrying about you. However, there are too many people in this world who give their lives to others. In order to make others happy, constantly pay for yourself. Sometimes you feel wronged when others don't appreciate it. Such people are pitiful and unwise.

? So how can we love ourselves? First of all, let yourself have a good figure. Health is the capital of revolution. The shepherd would rather lose the wool than the sheep. Eat well, sleep well, exercise well, be in a good mood every day, work and rest regularly, and don't stay up late to eat tempting junk food. To be honest, this is a bit difficult, but if you are responsible for yourself and love yourself, you should do it. Don't wait until something goes wrong with your body to learn your lesson. Of course, I know that sometimes it is difficult to keep self-discipline and relax for a while, but only occasionally, most of the time, I still have to be self-disciplined and strict with myself.

? When you finally learn to cherish your body, stop doing things that you know are harmful to you, and stop torturing yourself with negative emotions, you will find that your life has entered a new era. Every transformation means that you have abandoned a poor self and taken another step towards a better direction. Only self-love can save people from all darkness, and those who love themselves can maintain self-discipline and self-discipline can have more possibilities and a luckier life.

4. Behind success: Behind happiness and luck is invisible self-discipline.

? Life is an excuse for the weak, and luck is the humility of the strong.

? People should believe in themselves, don't believe in fate, and don't make any excuses for their failure. They must believe that they can revolve around Gan Kun and achieve their goals.

5. Know yourself: You must think carefully about what you want.

? Sometimes, it is easy for us to understand others, but we don't know ourselves and can't see ourselves clearly. However, the most important thing for people is to know themselves and figure out what they want. We can't always look outward, but also think inward, explore our true hearts and don't be confused by the outside world. Many people are in a daze and don't know how to wake up all their lives. By the time they wake up, it's too late, so think about what you really want!

? If you have thought, if you have built a huge world in your heart, you'd better realize it now and practice it to the extreme.

? If you want to live a meaningful life, you should do what you want. People who don't know what they want are undoubtedly poor, and passively accepting fate is a very boring lifestyle.

No one can live for you. Only you can decide your life. Those who forcibly interfere in your life choices will not be responsible for your happiness in the rest of your life. They are used to telling people what to do. Every choice you make, whether the result is good or bad, is directly borne by you.

? When you stick to what you want to pursue, burn your bridges for it, and finally achieve something, all the opposing voices will disappear, and even your relatives who oppose you will be proud of you. Your life should not be left to others to decide. The only hero who can change your destiny is yourself.

? If you are an idealist, then you do something you don't like. No matter how good the salary is, no matter how harmonious the company atmosphere is, it is impossible to stay there willingly. Instead of wasting time in the entanglement of going and staying, it is better to get rid of it as soon as possible and pursue the career that you are really obsessed with. It is difficult for a person who likes tossing to stay in a nursing home-style enterprise for a long time, and a person who longs for stability is not suitable for a company that pursues a "wolf culture".

"You can't rely on anyone. In fact, there is no guide, no teacher and no authority. You have to rely on yourself-you and others, and your relationship with the world-and nothing else. "

? Each of us is actually lonely in this world. Although we have parents, lovers, children, friends and many spiritual and material things, you should understand that these things do not belong to you in essence, and they will gradually leave you with the growth of age. We should not only cherish what we have, but also live our own lives and make ourselves meaningful. Don't go with the flow, don't follow suit, and keep your own independent thoughts. Although this era is more money-worshipping, money is not the only criterion to measure a person's Excellence. At the same time, there are many prejudices in this world. You must have an independent mind and see the nature of the world clearly. Sometimes it is happy to live awake and understand. How do I know what I want? That is to talk to yourself more and analyze your heart, what makes you happy and what is most important to you. May each of us live the life we want through hard work. It is not too late.

6, control desire: life is originally a fish and bear's paw can not have both.

Each of us has desires. Living is a desire. Why a person lives is because he wants to live. Even monks in temples want to be quiet, which is also a desire. Desire is normal. If a person has no desire, he does not exist. This is what Shi Tiesheng said. Each of us should have a little desire. It is good to have desire, which shows that you still have hope and attachment to life. We should be happy for ourselves, but we should not have too many desires. People should not be greedy. When people are greedy, all kinds of bad things will come to you. There are so many corrupt officials and lecherous emperors in history, which is a lesson.

? All kinds of desires will make our brains bigger. At this time, we should learn to let go. Letting go doesn't mean not to pursue the beauty in your heart, but to take your time and realize your dreams one by one. These desires cannot go hand in hand, and the effect of going hand in hand is doomed to be unsatisfactory. Arrange a priority timetable for these desires, an appropriate and achievable timetable, let go of the heavy pressure in your heart, go into battle easily, and get these beautiful things in a planned and step-by-step manner. Don't worry, you can't eat hot tofu if you are impatient. You are quiet and far-reaching, indifferent to your ambitions. This is a fact.

? Avoid arrogance and rashness in success, don't deny yourself in failure, let him gain and lose in success or failure, be modest, be gentle as jade, and be indifferent to ambition. Only with enough patience and forbearance can we achieve our ideal career. Throughout the ages, anyone who can achieve great things has experienced great storms and can't hide his emotions.

? Everything depends on people's efforts, control your unrealistic impulses, control your procrastination, control your diet and exercise, and control your negative emotions. Your life can also be hung up.

7. Managing emotions: We should control our emotions.

? The ability to control emotions determines the commanding heights that a person can reach. Emotion is the most useless thing in the face of results and goals. In this world with too diverse views, it is inevitable that different people will have conflicts when they work together. It is difficult to judge who is right and who is wrong, who is black and who is white.

? If a person blames all his misfortunes on the outside, then he is likely to be trapped in misfortune forever. Our weak strength is not enough to make the world listen to us. When you feel negative energy erupting at some point in your life, you must adjust your mood. Give negative energy a time limit, an hour or two, a day or a week. There is always a deadline for the trough, so you must force yourself. There is no reason for you to sink or fall again within the agreed time limit. Not everyone in the world is your parents, and no one will wait patiently for your repentance.

Don't indulge in negative emotions all the time. To tell the truth, everyone understands this truth, but not everyone can get rid of negative emotions at once. This is related to human experience, and there are many other complicated factors. Just like some people have lost their loved ones in love, if you have deep feelings for them, once they are lost, it is really difficult to get out, and the degree of relationship between one person and another person is the degree of your reaction after he is injured. When we encounter such trauma, don't comfort others too much, because sometimes the inner pain can only be slowly calmed down by time. In the meantime, we should cherish ourselves and keep an optimistic, positive and strong mind, and never be enslaved by negative emotions. And people's minds often mature in this process.

? Appropriate emotional release is human nature, and we can understand that we should do the same; But if you overdo it, you can't get out of bad mood. In the end, you can only hurt yourself and your family who love you. Therefore, it is also important to love yourself and control your negative emotions. Sometimes your negative emotions beat you, so be strong and optimistic.

8. Seeking truth from facts: we should make an objective analysis in combination with reality and set practical goals.

? Sometimes it is difficult for some people to stick to their plans. Apart from inner laziness, I'm afraid it's unrealistic to make plans.

You can't eat a big fat man in one bite, and the meat accumulates over time. It took you years to gain weight. Why do you expect to return to normal weight in just a few months? In fact, the world is very fair, and all the gifts given to you by fate have been marked with prices in the dark. You always have to pay it back when you hang out. Since I didn't do it well, I can only hope to return it slowly and correct it slowly in the future.

? We should make feasible plans according to our own conditions. You just need to consider your current state, make a plan that you can adapt to immediately, and then adjust the intensity and plan bit by bit. There is no overnight success in the world. Only by following the feasible plan step by step and accumulating over time can the plan be effective.

Planning itself should not become a psychological burden on a person, nor should it make a person overly anxious. It's just a way to make you a better person. Methods People-oriented. As long as you work hard to do the things in front of you, everything will come naturally, such as money.

9. Deal with love: Only those who are self-disciplined will be free.

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? The best love should be: "I love you, you are free."

? Only free and equal souls can appreciate each other and move forward together in the long life.

? Self-disciplined people pay attention to self-discipline, start from themselves, improve themselves, and become the other half who can better meet the standards and needs of their partners. A weak and rambling person always wants others to love him for a hundred years, infatuate with him who has stopped, and tolerate him who is naive and has no bottom line. This is an unrealistic fantasy. The only way to keep your lover is to grow up with him.

Love is not that one person asks one person to pay, and one person orders one person to pay, but that two independent individuals have irreplaceable sound spirit. Two people collide, think, communicate, have the same hobbies or pursuits, support each other and move forward hand in hand. The two men are more like comrades fighting side by side than generals and soldiers. Only free and equal souls can appreciate each other and move forward together in the long life. Only by being yourself can you meet him who is evenly matched; Only by being yourself can we not be lonely on the way forward hand in hand.

10, Farewell: Let go of the past and welcome the future.

A person who can let go of the past can move towards the future. People who can come out of the past and be reborn from the ashes are all heroes.

Everyone should be full of expectations for his future and pay a corresponding price for realizing this expectation. If you want to age slowly, you need to take good care of your skin every day. If you want to be healthy, you need to take time out to exercise three to five times a week; To look knowledgeable, you need to make a reading plan from scratch and execute it on time; If you want to get the support of your family, you need to explain and communicate patiently in exchange for a new mode of getting along.

1 1. Work: self-disciplined, free and efficient.

Jobs said: "Freedom comes from self-confidence, and self-confidence comes from self-discipline." Freedom is not given to you by others, but by yourself.

? Restrain your emotions and focus on improving work efficiency, and you will have more free time to spend. You will find that such successful people have a strong sexual desire. They can strictly control their time, know how to control, and never indulge their instinctive desires.

12, material: not bound, give your eyes a little freedom.

? In life, too many people are immersed in the pursuit of material things, only looking for glamorous appearance, but not observing their own hearts. In fact, a person really needs very little material. In ancient times, Liu Yuxi lived in a humble room, but he was still satisfied, contented and never envied others. How many people look at the "exquisite" inner envy of others' circle of friends now? A person who is truly enriched in the spiritual world will not envy anyone, because he lacks nothing and does not feel inferior in his heart. And a truly confident lady will never tell anyone where she has been or what books she has read. However, I don't deny that sending all kinds of food and other people in the circle of friends may be a way for them to please themselves. As a bystander, just be respectful. We don't need to guess others with our own hearts at will. We should be ourselves and be full and happy inside.

? People controlled by matter often have some * * * characteristics.

One is the lack of control over one's own life.

Second, its own strength is insufficient.

Third, there is no self-confidence and security. When self-confidence is insufficient, material things become your only support.

? We must control our vanity and blind pursuit of material things. Moderate vanity is good, because it will be our driving force. However, vanity should not be excessive. Vanity makes people show off their wealth, while inner lack is easily covered up by grandiose appearance. When the tide recedes and the truth comes out, whose soul is nobler and whose vision is more far-reaching, it will come out. Therefore, no matter what you plan to achieve, your starting point should be to please yourself and achieve your life goals, rather than losing your original heart in the envy of others. Life is a marathon. When you are young, you will interpret your own ups and downs, but in the end, whoever is happy will live better.

13, form good habits: courage to go forward and confidence in choosing.

? Create lasting behavior habits and become the person you want to be. The difference between people's lifestyle and quality of life is actually the difference of personal habits.

The first little habit is to make a list of three things you must do every day.

The second habit is to list trivial tasks in priority order.

The third habit is to carry paper and a notebook or mobile phone memo with you.

14. Keep a good attitude towards life: How do you treat the world? How will the world treat you?

? Li Bihua once said, "When someone cares about your pain, you will suffer more. No one, you are not expensive, but you are strong and live up to expectations. However, I think it's good to talk to others sometimes if you have pain. Everyone has a trough, and everyone has pain. Most people in this world are still good people. Sometimes others will be more sympathetic and concerned when they see your pain. Moreover, in fact, most adults in modern society are very tired. Everyone hides their vulnerability and only presents their strong side to others for fear that others will laugh at your vulnerability. I don't think it is necessary to treat others so badly. In fact, people will be more considerate of you if you say it. After all, we all do. Occasionally showing weakness does not mean that you are not strong. I can only say that it is not always fragile, and it is not good to be like Sister Xianglin. Life is sometimes difficult, and people should cherish each other. Just like this coronavirus, isn't the distance between us closer in the face of catastrophe?

15, Perseverance: Perseverance leads to refinement.

? Chen once said that the highest artistic conception of human beings is moderation, not release. Release is easy, material release and spiritual release are easy, and moderation is rare.

Judging people by their appearances is absolutely scientific. Character is written on the lips, and happiness is exposed in the corner of the eye. Rational sensibility is put in the voice, and sincerity and hypocrisy are reflected in the pupil. Standing posture shows talent and tolerance, and gait shows self-cognition. There is a recent mood in the expression, and the past years are in the brow. Clothing shows aesthetics, and hairstyle shows personality. Career depends on hands, cultivation depends on feet. Poverty will radiate all over the body.

16, Realm: Looking Back and Climbing.

? The book "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" says: "People who are not self-disciplined are slaves to lust, desire and feelings."

? Every once in a while, we should have a macro understanding of the gains and losses in the previous period so as to continue to improve in the next stage. A period of experience, a period of time, always leave you something to make you feel something, so as not to spend it in vain. Looking back on the past is for a better future. Self-disciplined people can control their study, work and life, so they can control their lives.

? If you want to take the postgraduate entrance examination, you must plan the stage in advance, then examine your progress at each expected time node and adjust your plan and rhythm according to the progress; If you want to travel for a long time, you need to calm down and write your travel notes after the trip, so that you can prepare for the trip more fully and help others next time.

17, temperament: don't stop thinking and working while caring for your skin.

Lin Qingxuan, a famous writer in Taiwan Province Province, said: "If life is a three-story building, the first layer is body and desire, the second layer is culture and thought, and the third layer is spirituality and beauty."

? Being beautiful is not necessarily a blessing, which means that this person will accept far more temptations and choices than ordinary people in the process of growing up. Once there is no mature mind and intelligent mind, it is easy to take a fork in the road and life will stagnate. As a student, beautiful girls are easy to be pursued. If puppy love occurs under the condition of weak will, it is likely to delay their studies and change their later life. Young girls are easily targeted by some malicious bosses or middle-aged men. Once they can't stand the temptation of fame and fortune, they will easily go to the black hole of money and color trading.

This sentence is really reasonable. Everyone loves beauty, but beauty is a double-edged sword, with both advantages and disadvantages. If a person is not very beautiful, there is no need to feel too inferior and have plastic surgery everywhere. Generally speaking, this society is still superficial, which has caused the whole world to pursue the beauty of appearance enthusiastically. But the beauty of appearance can't stand the carving and baptism of time and years, and people's eyes should be long-term. Appearance is of course important, but you have to consider that people can't compete with time after all, beauty will disappear one day, and a person's inner temperament, cultivation and depth of spiritual world can last forever. I hope that people should pay more attention to the beauty of the soul while caring about the beauty of the appearance. As the book says: "Independent thinking and profound cultivation can enable you to master your own beauty. Just staring at the mirror and cosmetics may make you look good when you are young and be taken care of by many people. But in the long run, it is not a good thing. We should have a skill. With this skill, we can survive. The beauty of the skin is important, but it also needs a rich soul to match it. "

18, the future: be brave and diligent, and live to the fullest.

? Born in sorrow, died in happiness. Staying in your comfort zone is pleasant for the time being, but in the long run, it is unwise. The real iron rice bowl is the ability to live wherever you go.

A person who has requirements for himself is excellent, and he is also responsible for himself, which is the fundamental difference between him and other mediocre people (content with the status quo, complacent, ignorant of change and not enterprising). If you are a positive person like me, I hope we can encourage each other and grow together! I had a toothache and couldn't sleep this afternoon, so I sorted out the gains of the books on self-discipline I read these two days and wrote for more than three hours. In a word, I still find it very useful. I hope everyone can apply what they have learned, integrate theory with practice, take action, change from now on, constantly reflect, constantly sum up, keep moving forward, and strive for their own life goals! Live high to have a meaningful life, and you won't regret it!

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