There is no doubt that wedding gifts and dowry are required. There is no doubt that once the bride price and dowry are given to the other party, the party giving them has no right to deal with them.

There is never any reason to get back what you have given. Some women choose to leave the bride price at their parents' home after they get married, just because they are afraid that their mother-in-law will worry about these things again.

Some women will take it back to their husband’s house to give themselves an extra sense of security. No matter what it is, the mother-in-law has no say. But Mengzhen's mother-in-law was eyeing her bride price.

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Meng Zhen had just married Han Xu a few days ago, and the honeymoon had not even passed, when her mother-in-law came to talk to her about the bride price. She was still sleeping that day when she heard her mother-in-law calling the door outside.

My mother-in-law is a straightforward person. As soon as she walked in, she made it clear that today she was going to talk about the bride price. The mother-in-law asked Mengzhen: "Daughter-in-law, what did you do with the bride price?"

Mengzhen: "Put it at my mother's place. My mother and the others will save it for me. I will take it back when needed."

My mother-in-law said: "Daughter-in-law, I need to bring back the 20,000 yuan as a gift. You have a younger brother at home. You don’t want to bring this money back. Your parents will give it to your younger brother sooner or later. You are a girl. You want it." Be smart. Now that you are marrying into our family, you have to think about the future and distinguish between family members and people outside." Meng Zhen: "Mother-in-law, the bride price from our side is all. If the price starts at 60,000, you gave us 20,000. I’m embarrassed to ask for it. You want to get it yourself. Besides, my parents may also give us a dowry. When the time comes, do you think I should give it back or keep it? ?”

Mother-in-law: “Of course you keep the dowry given by your parents. You have to remember one thing at all times. You have a younger brother in your family. You have to fight for the property, otherwise the property will be lost.” , will be left to your brother."

Mengzhen continued: "Mom, I know you are thinking about me, and I know you are thinking about Han Xu, but I have already put the money in my hands. Mom, I don’t have any needs now. Han Xu and I earn enough money, so why do you need it? I just got married and I don’t know how to be a daughter-in-law. I don’t know how to deal with some things. Say, I'll let Han Xu discuss it with you, okay? As long as he asks for money, I will go back."

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The mother-in-law saw her daughter-in-law and said to her son. Make up your mind, thinking that your son will definitely listen to you. She told Mengzhen, OK, I'll cook first. Before Han Xu came back that day, Mengzhen told him everything about her mother-in-law's coming to the house and asked him to think about it in advance.

Han Xu was embarrassed when he found out. He never thought that his mother would do such a thing. After arriving home that day, he said to his mother: "Mom, I know you are doing it for our best, but since the bride price has been given out, there is no need to worry about it anymore, right? And my father-in-law and mother-in-law said that in a few days they will Just give us a car as a dowry. This car is much more expensive than 20,000 yuan." When my mother-in-law heard that the in-laws were going to give her a car, she was very happy, but she still did. Said: "There is a younger brother in Mengzhen's family. Now you are satisfied with a car. In the future, all their money will belong to your brother-in-law, which will require several cars. You are a good-for-nothing, and mom will give you a car." You fight for things, but you still dislike mom."

Han Xu was in a dilemma, not knowing what to do. He said to his mother: "Can I discuss it with Zhenzhen again?"

Han Xu felt that his mother was indeed good to him, but Mengzhen had to face him just a few days after marrying him. Regarding this, he was afraid that Meng Zhen would feel aggrieved. But he was kissed by his mother, and so was his wife, so he really didn’t know what to do.

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That night, Han Xu said to Mengzhen: "Wife, how about this? I will withdraw 20,000 from our savings, and you will get it back. "This way you don't have to go to your mother-in-law and father-in-law, and I can handle it for my mother." Seeing Han Xu's approach, Meng Zhen felt that she had married the wrong person. This is obviously the mother-in-law's fault. Why does she have a younger brother? Her parents will favor the younger brother.

Throughout the years their family has been growing up, their parents have never been partial. Moreover, it has been agreed that the dowry will be given in a few days and it will be a car. Is there anything else that mother-in-law is dissatisfied with?

If she gives in this time, life will definitely be difficult. So she decided to tell her mother-in-law that even if her life was difficult, she could not let herself feel wronged.

Mengzhen called her mother-in-law and said, "Mom, you've heard about it, right? My parents are going to marry me with a car. Now if you insist on forcing me to ask for 20,000 yuan, what will happen to that car?" There is no need for a dowry. It just so happens that my parents want to buy a new car. Since our family won’t suffer any loss, it’s only 20,000 yuan. Do you think I want this car or 20,000 yuan for you? My parents can take it, but I’m too embarrassed to go.”

The mother-in-law didn’t expect the daughter-in-law’s sudden toughness. She said, “Forget it, it’s up to you.” In fact, the mother-in-law was still dissatisfied. The daughter-in-law was not polite and she could not say anything else.

Since the bride price is given to the daughter-in-law’s family, it is the money of the daughter-in-law’s family, and there is absolutely no reason to get it back.

Mengzhen’s mother-in-law should not still be thinking about the gift money. Even if it is for the benefit of her son, she should be measured and not stretch her hands so long.

If her mother-in-law had not offered to get the money back, Meng Zhen would not have been so rude.

For the sake of the happiness of the children, it is better for the mother-in-law to take less care of things.