Don't give your money to your children.
Aunt's two sons, uncle and aunt, are almost 70 years old this year, but uncle never wants to rest at home for one day a year. As long as he has no job, uncle is anxious! Even on holidays, whenever my aunt hears that my uncle is going home, she will swear! It's nobody's fault, but their uncles themselves!
Both cousins are married and have three children, but if they earn a little money, they will give it to their cousins, and the crops collected in Lian Gang will be collected and sold. At present, neither cousin has a good life, let alone filial piety. What the two sisters-in-law saw was what their uncles and aunts gave each other's home.
Once I was harvesting crops, and there were only two people working on more than ten acres of land at home. Every time I come back, I am hungry and put my heart on my back. I asked my sister-in-law, can I go to her house to eat these days? Sister-in-law was accommodating and promised to cook for a few days! After all the crops have been harvested, my sister-in-law asked my aunt if I should also be paid for the cooking these days. There's food! In this way, my uncle and aunt gave my sister-in-law fifty dollars a day, and the rest of the money was divided equally between the two families!
Another time, my uncle went out to work and bought an electric car for my sister-in-law's house. My sister-in-law knew. "You bought an electric car for my sister-in-law, why not buy it for our family?" "Don't you have it at home?" "That line, how much is the electric car and how much will it cost us?" Finally, I gave my little sister-in-law 3500 yuan, and it was over!
But uncles and aunts are little things, and no one can tell her cousins! Parents think that the more they give their children, the less they pay, but sometimes they don't, which may be counterproductive! When you reach a certain age, you must have certain responsibilities. Parents do everything their children should do, but they make their children irresponsible and feel that everything is what parents should do! Therefore, the old people have money and save it for themselves. When they are old, they will use their own money to give their children less trouble and get along better!
Don't take sides with only one family.
My grandparents are the weirdest, especially my brother-in-law. Dad has many brothers and sisters, and my sister-in-law above my brother-in-law doesn't allow my grandfather to hate him. Every time my grandfather sees my aunt, he is cursing! Even if grandpa is old, after all, his son and grandparents are separated, and grandpa is still eccentric! Sometimes grandpa goes out and detours through other people's homes. As long as it doesn't go well, he can scold for a day!
Once, because my aunt and uncle were watering the land and my daughter-in-law was taking care of the children at home, the lights in the yard were not turned off. Grandpa stood in the yard and scolded her for two hours, and the daughter-in-law was directly scolded and cried by grandpa! But my brother-in-law and aunt have never been scolded! Grandpa laughs at them every time he sees them! Grandpa was ill last year, so he had to lie in bed and not move. He had to let each family take turns to take care of him. His brother-in-law and aunt worked in other places and could not come back to take care of them, so they gave some money.
Finally, whenever grandpa goes to his aunt's house, he will be told: Why doesn't your favorite child take care of you? Don't let us take care of you, okay? But grandpa can't help it, and he can't move himself. He really can only rely on them, can only endure. Sometimes when relatives come, grandpa will cry! I don't know if grandpa regrets his partiality or because his aunts say he is sad! Some people say that it is not easy to level a bowl of water, but when you are old, you must be fair to your children, otherwise there will be many complaints when you need it!
Don't expect too much of your children.
My sister is most proud of her cousin, and feels that her cousin has been admitted to the university, and she will definitely have a particularly enviable life in the future! My sister gets angry every time she sees her cousin's life! "Why are you so incompetent? What do you think you did? " "I don't want to. I didn't know he was like this before I got married! " "The girls who haven't been to school in our village are much better than you! You are my shame! I'll babysit for you and give you living expenses. I really don't know what is the use of raising a daughter like you. I can't walk any further. Can I rely on you? "
In this case, menstruation will not only say it in front of my cousin, but also say it in front of my cousin's husband. The relationship between them is also very tense! Sometimes my aunt will tell her relatives when she comes home. In a word, my cousin especially doesn't want her to look after the children now, but there is nothing she can do!
Cousin, I feel that my own mother doesn't understand me, but this life is not what I want, but what can I do? Can only blame the parents! As a parent, you can't do anything, but you often use these words to hurt your children!
Away from the children's families.
This thing should be the third aunt's most regret now! After my cousin got married, my third aunt just despises my brother and sister. In fact, there is nothing wrong with siblings, but I don't know why I can't get into the eyes of my third aunt. I always feel that my son should find a better one! "Send her away, mother to find you a better one! Like her, who wants it! "
Third aunt said so much, and cousin seemed to feel very good. Sometimes she ran away from her sister-in-law, and finally her sister-in-law really divorced! But two years later, my cousin has never found a girl, and no one has given my cousin a matchmaker! Some people say: others think Third Aunt is too powerful to be her daughter-in-law! In short, my third aunt really regrets it now, but there is no regret medicine in the world! Now my cousin can only wait like this!
When children reach a certain age, they have their own lives and responsibilities. No matter how much parents love their children, they should let go! Let them live their lives! Parents mind their own business!