Cold violence isolates us with an unspeakable pressure, which makes people feel chilling. Going to work is like going to jail. Have you ever encountered cold violence in the workplace? How did you solve it? Shyness or violence? Even walk away? Now let's exchange experiences and give you suggestions! According to the Asia News Agency of India, a new study shows that if employees are subjected to cold violence such as persistent derogatory comments and colleagues pushing each other in the office, their psychological imbalance, anger and anxiety will become higher. Previously, Zhaopin also conducted a cold violence investigation in the workplace. Nearly 70% (67%) of the white-collar workers interviewed said that they had experienced cold violence, and the main implementer was the boss. Nearly 20% of the victims chose to leave their jobs. Interviewed experts Xiong Hanzhong, director of Beijing Youth Stress Management Center, Wu Yaxue, doctor of psychology, and Beijing huilongguan hospital psychologist were all turned away by the old employees. Newcomers who just entered the workplace always complained that their predecessors in the company gave them a bad look, obviously working together, but their predecessors always ignored their opinions and suggestions. After a long time, there is also a gap between the two generations of employees. They only form two independent circles with employees who come in at the same time. Experts dispel doubts: this phenomenon is very common in cold violence in the workplace. The source of cold violence comes from old employees. They have two attitudes towards new people. One is that newcomers are inexperienced, so old employees turn a blind eye to newcomers. Another reason is that old employees are not confident. Old employees are afraid that new people will overtake them, so they adopt an uncooperative and indifferent attitude. If it is not handled correctly, the frustration of newcomers will become stronger and stronger, and old employees will lose the respect of newcomers. If new employees grow up, old employees may be subjected to cold violence. White-collar workers take the initiative to seek advice from their predecessors (Hua Min, 24, a white-collar worker in a foreign company). When I first entered the workplace, I was left out by my predecessor, and my heart was very unhappy. As the saying goes, "a hot face sticks to a cold ass", which was really uncomfortable at that time. At first, I couldn't accept it. After all, she just came out of college, young and energetic, so she went against her predecessor. Later, I found that this could not solve the problem at all, but kept arguing, which made our relationship farther and farther away. Therefore, I take the initiative to consult the old employees, and the seniors will also give serious guidance. I will try my best to make every detail perfect, so that seniors can see the value of my existence. Later, my predecessors' attitude towards me changed greatly and their attitude was lowered. Constant criticism made me lose my enthusiasm. I once saw a resignation letter from a subordinate to a leader on a forum. In the letter, the boss took stock of the cold violence after one year's work. The employee finally left the company in anger, because the boss always blamed him endlessly, but did not praise his achievements. After a long time, if you are not enthusiastic about your work, leaving your job will become the last choice. Experts explained that the boss's dissatisfaction with his subordinates' work is based on the overall interests of the company. There is nothing wrong with this starting point, as long as you pay attention to the appropriate communication methods. It is impossible for subordinates not to make mistakes, but the number and degree of mistakes must have a bottom line, and the boss must encourage employees to give full play to their advantages when making achievements. Employees can talk to him alone after making mistakes, point out the mistakes and give suggestions, so that employees will have a sense of belonging to the company. When employees encounter criticism, don't stand up to their superiors, do more self-reflection, or take the initiative to communicate with leaders, express their confusion and seek help. White-collar workers empathize with their bosses (Yin Xiaohua, 30, sales manager). On one occasion, my boss criticized my work indiscriminately and completely denied my efforts. Even if my planning case proved to be all right in the end, my boss criticized me at the meeting, so I stopped trying to plan and my performance plummeted. Later, I took the initiative to find my boss and had a positive communication. I also understand the boss's difficulties. Thinking from different positions will change a lot, and mutual understanding and tolerance between superiors and subordinates is very applicable. No matter whether the boss or the employee finds the common ground of "for the benefit of the company", they can find a key to crack the cold violence. The more pampered a leader is, the more isolated his colleagues are in the workplace. Many colleagues who are valued by leaders often become targets of public criticism. Other colleagues tried their best to isolate him, but his partner didn't cooperate with his work and generally ignored him when he met. Experts dispel doubts: in the workplace, in fact, everyone subconsciously wants to be valued and appreciated by the leaders, but only one or two are valued by the leaders. So jealousy will grow in the hearts of others, and people who are not valued will start to form small groups and isolate those who are favored. At this time, the last thing the passive party can do is to let it develop. Otherwise, even if you do well, the leader will think that you have no spirit of cooperation. Therefore, you must take the initiative to help other colleagues when they need help and keep a low profile. It is good for white-collar workers to reward their colleagues (Li Wenjing, 32, administrative staff) for their strong working ability, but there will be different ideas between leaders and colleagues. Therefore, it is particularly important to coordinate the relationship between them. So whenever the leader praises my work in front of my colleagues, I always report my colleagues' contributions to the leader, which not only gives the leader face, but also allows my colleagues to be praised by the leader together with me, without excluding me and narrowing the distance between colleagues. At the same time, I will also share my work experience with my colleagues. Over time, my colleagues are willing to cooperate with me. The wrong behavior brought cold violence. The first element of survival in the workplace is to do your own thing well, and then to care about your colleagues. However, some people always break the rules of the game. For example, my colleague's computer is on, and people are not in their seats, but MSN and email are also on. Colleagues came back and found that the computer had been touched, the message that MSN had not had time to read was opened, and the unread mail in the mailbox was read ... it was hard for anyone to accept. If you have such curiosity to look at other people's computers, it is likely that your colleagues will drift away from you and be wary of you everywhere. Expert analysis: In the workplace, curiosity is sometimes the starting point of success, but it can also ruin your interpersonal relationship. In the workplace, peeking at other people's computers is just one of the manifestations, and some colleagues tell jokes to leaders in small talk to provoke the relationship between colleagues. At this time, there is bound to be cold violence between you and your colleagues, which will seriously affect the relationship between colleagues and isolate yourself from the interpersonal circle. At this time, we must first find the reasons from ourselves, put an end to such incidents, avoid fighting violence with violence, actively communicate with colleagues, and restore their confidence in you. White-collar workers should be less curious and mind their own business (Hao Yun, 29, secretary). Sometimes I ask my colleagues for information. He happened to be out, so I used his computer, even if his dialog box was open, I was welcome. After a long time, my colleagues ignored me, and I realized the seriousness. In fact, the solution is simple-mind your own business. Time is the best proof. After a long time, my colleagues will naturally forgive me when they see that I have changed. Recommend Weibo Dayu Health.

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