Overview of social etiquette
The meaning of social etiquette refers to the established behavior norms and procedures that people show in social communication to beautify themselves and respect others. The essence of ceremony is "respect", which contains the meaning of care, friendship, respect, humility and consideration, and is embodied in politeness, etiquette and etiquette.
Politeness-refers to people's use of norms to show mutual respect and friendship in their interactions, thus reflecting people's cultural level and civilization. Politeness can be divided into polite behavior and polite language. Such as smiling, shaking hands, clapping and bowing, are silent words. Polite languages, such as honorific words and modest words, are spoken words.
Etiquette-the rules of conduct for dealing with people. It is a concrete manifestation of politeness, including the way of treating people, the form of greeting and greeting, and the manners and clothes in public occasions.
Etiquette-a ceremony to show politeness, is a general term for social festivals and manners. Etiquette is tangible, such as celebration activities, foundation laying ceremony, etc., which is not only subject to the basic constraints of etiquette, but also influenced by material standards, folk culture and historical traditions.
principles of social etiquette
principles of respect. Respect is the emotional basis of etiquette. Respect and kindness to others is an important principle in dealing with interpersonal relationships. Only when people respect each other can they maintain harmonious and happy interpersonal relationships. There are some seemingly inconspicuous little things in life, but they show disrespect for others. For example, visiting others without contacting an appointment and making a surprise attack impolitely; Spying into other people's privacy and spreading gossip everywhere.
the principle of social etiquette
the principle of observance. One is to obey the law and etiquette, and the other is to keep the promise.
self-discipline principle. Obeying etiquette requires self-restraint, and the process of self-discipline is a process of perfecting oneself and improving one's overall quality. People with good manners can treat others with courtesy, and they are not out of line in their actions, rude in their manners and rude in their words.
principle of moderation. Distance is beauty, and mastering the emotional scale of communication can often achieve better results.
the principle of tolerance. In the process of interacting with others, be tolerant with a broad mind and learn to put yourself in the other's shoes.
instrument etiquette
instrument is a person's appearance, including appearance, posture, clothing and manners, and it is the basic factor that constitutes the first impression of communication. The beauty of appearance includes three meanings: natural beauty, decorative beauty and inner beauty. A person's good manners and image are like the cover of a wonderful book, which makes people feel that your background and values are trustworthy. Thus, it produces a "charm effect", which is conducive to the success of interpersonal communication and career development.
(1) Appearance and demeanor
American psychologist Obote Mai Rabian believes that the formation of people's impressions is such a proportion: 55% depends on appearance and image, including clothing, personal appearance, movements, gestures and other silent languages; 45% depends on the tone, intonation, the content of words and other audio languages. As a professional, the most important image is: communication, fluent eloquence, excellent writing; Excellent appearance image includes dressing, grooming, personal hygiene, hairstyle, nails, body shape, etiquette and so on.
hair modification. Attention should be paid to diligent grooming, proper hairstyle and moderate length. Good luck starts from scratch!
facial modification. Men's facial requirements: be diligent in shaving and shaving, trim nose hair, and keep teeth and mouth clean. Ladies' facial requirements: Beauty makeup is the most convenient and easy way. Beauty makeup is an important art in life and belongs to the category of life aesthetics. Changing oneself through plastic surgery belongs to the category of medical beauty.
make-up is a respect for others, but also for yourself. The shade and style of makeup should consider the specific time and occasion. Usually, the daily makeup is mainly natural, and a little powder can be used; Work makeup should also be fresh and elegant, reflecting the sense of professionalism; Dating makeup can make you look sweeter. Generally speaking, the style of work and social makeup is "elegance". Clean, refreshing and natural, in harmony with age, identity and environment, reaching the unintentional state after deliberate modification is the highest realm of makeup. On formal occasions, it is considered impolite for a lady not to wear makeup.
(2) Manner
Manner is also called posture and body posture. Different postures show people's different mental states. Using positive and graceful behaviors and manners to express etiquette makes people feel more real, beautiful and vivid, and its role is no less than that of audio language. It not only reflects a person's appearance, but also reflects a person's character, temperament and accomplishment. People can't choose their looks, but their manners and manners can be cultivated and trained with great concentration. A successful image shows people self-confidence, dignity, strength and ability, and through every move, you are full of the charm of a professional.
People's body posture includes standing, sitting and walking postures and gestures, facial expressions and corresponding actions. "Standing like a pine, sitting like a bell, walking like the wind and lying like a bow" has been the requirement of human posture in China since ancient times. The basic requirements of body language are: dignified, natural, generous and steady, and the harmony of sound, emotion and action.
stand tall and straight. The basic essentials of standing posture are: head up, neck straight, eyes straight forward, jaw slightly closed, mouth slightly closed, smiling, and peaceful and natural movements. Stretch your shoulders, sink your breath, feel upward, and breathe naturally; The body is straight, and the center of gravity of the body is between the legs to prevent the center of gravity from shifting, so as to hold out the chest, abdomen, waist, hip and jaw; Your arms droop naturally, your fingers bend naturally, and your palms touch the seams of your pants inward, or you can hold your left finger with your right hand in front of your lower abdomen, your elbows rest lightly on your hips, and your hands cross behind you. The soles of the feet stand in a "V" shape or a "D" shape.
When standing too tired, you can change your posture: one leg is supported, the other leg is slightly bent, the leg is relaxed, and the center of gravity shifts to the supported leg, but the upper body always stays straight. When a man stands, his feet are apart, shoulder-width apart, and he is microstrip with the word "eight", which can be placed in front of or behind his abdomen.
Taboo: necking, chest-holding, hunchback, protruding belly, and pouting. Listless and stagger. Put your hands in your trouser pockets or put them on your chest.
dignified sitting posture. The basic essentials of a good sitting posture: smiling, eyes looking up, mouth slightly closed, jaw slightly closed; Stand upright, stand tall, and stand upright naturally. Don't stick the table in front and lean back against the chair. Put your shoulders flat, your arms naturally bend on your knees or on a chair or sofa; Knees together, legs should not be separated, nor should they be crossed in front, or placed in front of each other. Guan, jaw and neck remain the same when standing. When sitting and talking, the upper body and legs should turn to each other at the same time and look straight at the speaker.
when a lady is seated in a skirt, she can put her skirt together with the back of her hand to prevent the bottom of the skirt from being "exposed". After sitting, put your legs together, with one side inclined, palm down, put your left palm on your leg and your right palm on your left palm. This sitting posture is more elegant. When a man is seated, his feet can be flat on the ground, his knees are separated by about a palm, and his hands are placed on his left and right knees respectively. In social occasions, whether sitting in a chair or a sofa, don't sit full. Sit in two-thirds of the chair to show respect and respect for each other.
taboo: bend your back and shake your legs. In particular, ladies should not separate their legs and cross their legs on stilts.
chic walking posture. Basic essentials: calm, steady and straight.
Both men and women should not shake their heads, shake their shoulders, twist their arms and splay their feet when walking. Don't look down or mop the floor with both feet. The greater the body twist, the more frivolous it appears.
graceful squat posture. Generally, there are three ways to take low-level articles: semi-squatting, high-low and cross-crossing. No matter what kind of squatting posture, don't pout your hips. This is a very unsightly action.
(3) Bad manners
Improper use of mobile phones;
chew gum in public;
Pick your nose or ears in public;
shake your legs in public;
clear your throat or spit loudly;
yawning in public;
littering.