"You want to be beautiful! If I don't give this money, people won't come. If you give it today, people will come. See you at the Civil Affairs Bureau tomorrow! "
When Lin Jie repeated this conversation with her husband to me, I once thought that Lin Jie was too serious. Old people have no obligation to look after children for young people. They have been tired all their lives, and they should have their own lives in the next year, either dancing in the square dance or traveling. Since you can take good care of your daughter-in-law and make clear your selfless contribution to your body, it is normal for the younger generation to give some material compensation.
But later, Lin Jie's words made me fall into deep meditation. Lin Jie said: "Before we got married, we agreed that the bride price was 50,000 yuan, but when we got the marriage certificate, my mother-in-law turned her face and refused to recognize people, saying that she could not get this 50,000 yuan. My parents, afraid of the son-in-law's embarrassment, offered to say no, but the dowry was a lot, 65.438+10,000 yuan.
The purpose is to make my mother-in-law pay attention to me. Unexpectedly, on the grounds of buying a house for her brother-in-law, my mother-in-law took 65,438+10,000 into my hands with tears in three days. So far, she hasn't bought a house for her brother-in-law, but introduced him to a door-to-door son-in-law.
When I was pregnant with my first child, my mother-in-law came to my house with something and was asked to take care of my baby, but she not only wanted the salary of my husband and her son, but also ate the nutrients brought by my family.
Because she is my mother-in-law's face, I didn't take it seriously and didn't care about her. I just hope she will stop interfering in my family, treat her son like a puppet and leave me alone. As long as she stays away from me, we will be happy with each other. How dare you talk openly about taking care of my children! It is almost disrespectful and shameless to the elderly. "
After listening to Lin Jie's words, I can understand her resentment. It's not just about money. Such an old man sucks his son's blood like a leech. These old people never care about their children's lives, but they are selfish. When they get old, they want to suck their son's blood.
It is natural for a son to take care of his parents, and a sensible child will not ignore his biological parents, but when parents take such measures, even if the children have the heart to take care of them, they are unwilling to give them more love.
Although Xiaoying's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are very harmonious now, they leave two big men to travel from time to time like sisters. In her last marriage, she had a quarrel with her mother-in-law.
Xiaoying's ex-husband is a mother-in-law As a single mother, she was obedient to her mother since she was a child. When I first fell in love with Xiaoying, I was a little frank. Xiaoying was very careless. I didn't expect my obedient boyfriend to be a mother-in-law man.
Before getting married, Xiaoying chose to get married naked. She doesn't think it is necessary for the other party to spend money on anything. She married in the past and was not bought. She doesn't want marriage to be mixed with any money. But naked marriage, she didn't have a chance to see what kind of family the other party was.
After marriage, her mother-in-law said that she was dissatisfied with Xiaoying. She boasted from time to time that my son's last girlfriend was a rich man. Every time she comes to their home, she brings a lot of good things. The family is very kind and filial, but they have no fate. Xiaoying usually has ordinary conditions, and getting married is her blessing. She must serve their family well.
Xiaoying didn't resist when she heard this, but she didn't want to share common sense with the old man and didn't say anything. After pregnancy, her mother-in-law's behavior made her unbearable and made her family fly around like a dog.
For a whole month, her mother-in-law cooked three meals for Xiaoying, stewed cabbage, stewed tofu and scrambled eggs. But outside, my mother-in-law told others that it was thankless to send it to her daughter-in-law every day. Her daughter-in-law is really too hard. One minute she puts too much salt in her dishes, and the other she hates rice without nutrition. As a mother-in-law, she has no status at home, even worse than a nanny.
Xiaoying knew that her mother-in-law had arranged herself like this outside and lied like this. She is angry. Let her husband talk to her mother. If this continues, don't blame her for turning her face. My husband, used to listening to his mother's words since he was a child, felt that he was wrong with his mother and kept obedient, just not talking to her.
Looking at this situation, Xiaoying directly tore her face and told her all these things that her mother-in-law did. My mother-in-law not only doesn't cook for her, but also buys food with my son's 2000 yuan every month. I haven't seen the food, but the money is gone. Everyone knows whose pocket this money belongs to.
After the torn face, her husband's face hung up, and she was constantly at odds with Xiaoying. Xiaoying was not used to it, decided to divorce and left with her children and her own money. She said, "If my mother-in-law doesn't go home and make trouble, she would rather give her money to keep her safe. Although my usual practice is definitely a bit, I really don't want my children to live in such a family in the future. "
Fortunately, after Xiaoying remarried, her mother-in-law was very kind to her. Not only did she not ask them for money, but she also provided them with subsidies. Xiaoying, who is sensible, has never let her mother-in-law suffer losses, and she is also good to her mother-in-law wholeheartedly. In the long run, the two talked about everything and simply became friends. Xiaoying's current husband is also poking fun at Beijing and Korea, as if he were a son-in-law. Xiaoying came to this home, and his mother never said a word to him!
Xiaoying often sighs that this is a family that loves each other. Even if one day my mother-in-law needs someone to serve her when she is old, she will not hesitate and have no words!
Everyone's heart is fleshy, especially between family members. If they haggle over every penny, their feelings will gradually change and eventually dissipate. And if we all think in the right direction, be kind and sincere to each other, why worry about a bad relationship?
The more relatives care about money, the more they care about interests and despise feelings, and sooner or later they will fall apart. Advise those mother-in-law not to get any benefits from their daughter-in-law. As long as you take good care of her, she will not fail you in the future. Also advise those who are daughters-in-law not to expect their mother-in-law to help you. It is mutual affection for them to take the initiative to help, and it is normal not to intervene!