People, there are always times when it is difficult to satisfy. I also know that life now is very comfortable and convenient, both materially and otherwise. Compared with the past, it is a world of difference. But if you live, your desire will be higher and higher, but your happiness and inspiration will be less and less. When I calm down, I always feel empty, as if something is missing. So there is a sense of anxiety, sometimes I can't tell, so I cook time to live and try to adjust myself to the best state. However, sometimes the tune is out of tune and always repeats. Recently, I have been anti-enlightenment, and I am also deeply recalling and cherishing the women of our mother's era.
? At that time, they had many excellent qualities and good virtues worth learning now. They don't have much desire. What they want in their hearts is a good life. Being able to make a big family happy is their greatest pursuit. They can enjoy their life in the most difficult days, and they can get along well with the old people and their neighbors. They are simple-minded and plain-dressed. But you can feel the gentle and kind side of women from them. You will see that they are very comfortable, and you can feel warm love and full smiles from them. Although they can't dress up, you can see the feminine brilliance in them. Especially for my mother. At that time, because there were many children in our family, although mom and dad were both dual-employed, life was still very hard, but mom still lived a colorful life. In summer, she will choose the best tomatoes with sand and mud and buy them for us to eat. She always takes it out for me to eat in the cool at night, so that every day's meal is especially delicious. Mom and dad also had quarrels, but her feelings were greater than quarrels. Every day, mom. When dad comes back, I will accompany him to drink a few glasses of the cheapest "88 cents" bulk wine at that time and talk to him about the shortage of work and parents. Now the scene is warm. She worked hard at that time, but that's all. No matter how busy she is at home and outside, she is clean. During the Spring Festival, both her relatives and mother can cook good dishes. Children from relatives love to come to our house, because they all like her and prefer to eat her cooking. The neighbors next door also like her very much, and I am quite attached to and fond of her. How old was I at that time? As long as I saw that she hadn't come back from work, I would run to the side of the road and wait for her anxiously. But one day, she left, leaving too early, leaving me unresponsive for a long time. Really, in those days, many women, like my mother, admired them from the heart.
What about us now? Because the conditions are getting better, you can dress up and maintain yourself, or spend a lot of money on micro-shaping your face to make yourself more beautiful. You can put countless sets of clothes, bags and shoes in the closet, wear different clothes with different shoes and bags every day, draw exquisite makeup on your face and have a charming smile. Like men, you can go to social occasions to socialize and enjoy the seemingly happy feeling. Girlfriends get together to talk about gossip between men and women, which plastic surgery is not bad, what brand of bags and cosmetics are easy to use and so on. It seems that every day's life is full and rich, but when a person calms down, is our heart real? No, my heart is empty and confused. We always think that this is the life we want and this is the life of our modern women. Actually, it's not. What we need more is a kind, pure, pure and full heart. We also need to inherit the fine traditions of women in the last era and join the intellectual beauty of modern women. That would be great.
? All along, I like the word petty bourgeoisie very much. I also think that being a woman, being a petty bourgeoisie woman is the happiest, and I also like dealing with petty bourgeoisie women who know life very well. What is a petty bourgeoisie woman and how to be a petty bourgeoisie woman? The word "petty bourgeoisie" has always been talked about by people: I like drinking red wine and coffee, wearing brands, eating well, painting exquisite makeup every day, having a peaceful mind and earning more than the previous one. Even a petty bourgeoisie sounds true on the surface, but in fact, my personal feelings are not all like this. I have always felt that petty bourgeoisie women are like this: first of all, I can see what is engraved in her bones. Even in the hard days when there is no money, it will keep your life in order. With a calm smile on his face, he couldn't see anything at all. What you see is her fragrant smile. Without money, she can wear the simplest clothes, but the colors must be well matched, and there is no need for delicate makeup on her face. But she must have a confident and gentle face. She doesn't need to eat every meal well, but she will definitely turn simple coarse grains into delicious food. Let yourself and your family have a pleasant meal. Even if life is hard, you should keep your home clean and full of laughter. Even in the worst environment, you should dress neatly, behave gracefully, try to smile, stick to the pursuit of life, face what happened calmly and find a new life in the worst environment. For the elderly, she knows that all virtues and filial piety are the first, so she should be filial to her parents and parents-in-law. She knows the minds of the elderly and treats them well from the heart. She dotes on her children to a certain extent, so that they can be grateful and care for others when they grow up. I not only have full love for my husband, but also care about him. I will give him positive energy guidance from time to time and be his lover, relative, confidant and friend. I will give him enough face on any occasion, and there will be no indecent behavior on any occasion; Don't gossip in front of your friends, don't complain about others, and don't be jealous of your friends. She is happy when her friends are happy, and she is sad when her friends are sad. She will face life optimistically every day. And if one day, her marriage comes to an end and she has to live with someone, she will not be stubborn and accept everything calmly; For feelings, even the deepest feelings, in the face of loss, she will choose to believe in fate, because she knows that fate is endless, and she can't stay if she wants to. She will choose to find a place where no one is there, cry, then dry her tears and smile to face the new day. Choosing to forget is her best way to heal. When I spend the weekend alone again, she will be warm and comfortable. She will cherish herself very much and will not indulge herself for fear of loneliness. She will always restrain her desires and make herself simpler. She will often empty herself, reflect on herself and make herself more thorough and ethereal. She will be kind and helpful. She will not bring too much sadness and negative energy to her friends and family. She always likes to look on the bright side. She may not be beautiful, but you will be comfortable looking at her. Her eyes will be gentle and clear, making you want to be with her. She loves labor, and she knows that women will be more attractive if they work hard. I like to get up early on the weekend morning, comb my hair, put on gloves, put on comfortable household clothes, turn on music, clean the house with concerts, make the room smell of washing clothes, and then make a cup of tea and taste fragrant tea. Let the soul be completely empty; She will not blindly follow the trend, keep up with others, or spend too much energy on face maintenance or plastic surgery. She won't buy a lot of clothes, only what suits her. She knows that frugality and life should be minimalist. In fact, inner sublimation is more important than anything else. Hehe, this may be what I subconsciously think of as a petty bourgeoisie girl.
The beauty of a woman is really not the blunt beauty you bought at a high price, nor the beauty you deliberately put on makeup, but the temperament you cultivate internally. I think, as a modern woman, we really don't have high power and knowledge, and we can make a lot of money. We are the so-called beautiful good women, dressed in fashion and exquisite in appearance, and we will live happily. Today's women should have excellent traditional qualities. They will not only go to the elegant palace, but also wash away the lead, simply go into the kitchen, wash their hands and make soup, and do their work vividly. It seems a little difficult to live a wonderful life, full of love and heartfelt kindness, and make their eyes clear and simple, and their faces full of soft luster. ? Women, get rid of greed, anger, ignorance, slowness and doubt, learn the gentle virtues of lotus, and always keep a happy and grateful heart. In spring, they can enjoy colorful flowers, while in winter, they can enjoy the transparency of ice, the whiteness of snow, and love sunny days and rainy days. Only with a clear and quiet heart and constant cultivation and understanding can they realize the true beauty and see the majestic beauty of the chaotic light of nature. ? It is not easy for a woman to be born in this world, so a woman should never embarrass her. When she meets someone older than you, she should be respectful and modest. When she meets someone younger than you, she should cherish it. When she meets outstanding people of her own age, she should learn to appreciate them. When she meets someone who is not as good as you, she should learn to help and learn to tolerate. I like women like Lin. She is successful not only in her career, but also in her life. Liang Sicheng loves her so much, and another man loves her so much, but she is neither arrogant nor impetuous, still pure and transparent, a faint little woman with a fragrant soul and aura. This kind of woman will not be eliminated by society at any time, and she is still a model of women. Even after a hundred years, the beauty of women's appearance is really short-lived. Therefore, to describe a woman as a flower, bloom every year, bloom every season. When the soil is good, they will bloom more vigorously and beautifully. This year will be better than last year, with a long flowering period, but the soil is not good, which may be meaningless. Women, if they want to stay beautiful, have to cultivate themselves from the heart. We should not be afraid of getting older. We should stop complaining and sighing about the years. If a woman's looks are given by her parents before the age of 20 and by herself before the age of 40, then after the age of 40, it is given by years. No matter the beauty at that stage, there will always be a time to die, but there is still a kind of beauty that can accompany you all your life. This is the smell of women: the smell of women will make the 20-year-old youth more vigorous and the 30-year-old lush more elegant.
Atmosphere is a person's mind and tolerance. The ancients said that her attitude and direction towards life were determined by her mind, her vision and pattern, and her pursuit of life. The vastness that slowly permeates from her heart will change your appearance and temperament. This kind of atmosphere is sometimes very specific: for example, a woman is considerate, amiable, sunny with a smile, casual in temper, sincere and kind, and will not show it when she is sad.
? Therefore, women really shouldn't think that plastic surgery is to keep young and beautiful. In fact, it is self-deception. They not only have to spend a lot of money, but also suffer from flesh and blood. There was no plastic surgery business before. At that time, women were still beautiful as long as they were properly maintained. Look at Sister Song and Miss Song. Lin, Zhang Ailing, etc. I recently read an article about Nian Cheng. The old lady is over 90 years old and still very beautiful. That temperament is really speechless. Her life and experience are admirable. Therefore, woman, no matter how beautiful your facial features are or how delicate your face is, if you don't practice hard, your facial expression will be stiff. Woman, as long as your heart is kind and pure enough, you should be diligent in your daily life, sweat more and exercise more every day, keep up with basic care and maintenance, go to bed early and get up early, don't drink too much wine, pay attention to your diet, be calm and control your emotions and desires. In fact, men are normal. They don't like to see a whole face. Although they are exquisite, they are a little stiff. Instead, they hope that their beloved woman can accompany him calmly and gently through the lush years, feel the ups and downs of the years together, and grow old together ~ ~ ~.
? Recently, I like watching TV series (Love Courtyard), which tells the story of our mother's time. Qin Huairu is an ordinary woman, but she is full of the flavor of a woman, who dares to love and hate. She is particularly kind-hearted, with the innocence and tricks of a little woman, the tolerance of a big woman, and the fine tradition and atmosphere of a virtuous woman, so no matter whether she wears makeup or not, how she looks, whether she is comfortable or not, so. Woman, you should learn to cultivate your heart frequently, and cultivate it into a crystal clear, soft and perfect heart, and a woman full of atmosphere, aura and fragrance. Look at the world with a clear heart, live with a happy heart, make love with a normal heart, remove obstacles with a soft heart, and don't deliberately dress yourself up. True beauty lies in the simplest essence. Lin Qingxuan, a writer from Taiwan Province Province, wrote a book (in this difficult world, a soft heart has been cultivated), which is well worth reading.
? Come on, let's study like flowers and plants. If it is a rhododendron, it should have the beauty of a rhododendron. If it is peony, it should be as rich and charming as peony. If it is dandelion, it should bloom completely like dandelion. If it is not blown away by the wind, it is the grass that grows as tolerant and tenacious as grass, growing a soft and dense grassland and setting off the blue sky. Be a woman with fragrant flowers in bloom all the year round!