The popular American black comedy series Why Women Kill tells the story of marital infidelity with three women of different ages, which shows that even though women's social roles change with the times, women's attitudes towards betraying marriage have not changed. The three heroines are housewives in the 1960s, celebrities in the 1980s and lawyers in 20 19.

Beth Ann in the 1960s was content to be a housewife until she found out that her husband was cheating on her. She is kind, considerate and warm, but she actually wears a mask to suppress her pain.

Liu Yuling plays Simone Kopmajer, a fashion celebrity in the 1980s. She is always calm and elegant and has a happy marriage. She was on the verge of collapse when she learned that her husband was having an affair. One of her classic lines in the play: I always thought I was an extraordinary woman, but how extraordinary can I be if no one wants to love me?

20 19 Taylor, a modern strong woman, is a lawyer and has an open marriage acceptable to both husband and wife. However, when she and her husband fell in love with the same woman, the situation began to get out of control …

Why is betrayal heartbreaking and unforgivable? Everyone knows that there is a lie in the word belief, and the root of betrayal is "complete delivery". Those who feel betrayed are often the closest people, so let us deliver them completely. Only when we really deliver them will we feel particularly painful. According to the purpose, betrayal can be divided into unintentional betrayal and intentional betrayal. According to the situation and category, there are four kinds of betrayal:

1. Accidental betrayal: refers to a traitor who unintentionally hurts the other party, but unintentionally does something that makes the victim feel betrayed. There are two kinds of unintentional betrayal: "cognitive differences" and "white lies".

Cognitive differences: the cognitive structure of partner relationship is different. Take Fatal Woman as an example. Taylor is a lawyer. She has a threesome with her husband and another woman. A husband thinks that a physical relationship is not an affair, but a wife who falls in love with another woman emotionally is a betrayal.

White lies: In order not to hurt each other unnecessarily, I choose to hide something. For example, my best friend found out that her husband was cheating and thought it would be better not to tell her, but her friend felt that her best friend had betrayed me. Compared with intentional betrayal, unintentional betrayal can be solved through communication and understanding between the two sides.

2. Intentional betrayal: betrayal is a subjective behavior. Whatever the reason, traitors feel that they are more concerned about their own interests than the other party. Intentional betrayal can be divided into premeditated betrayal and speculative betrayal.

Premeditated betrayal: The betrayer originally wanted to betray the other party at some point in the future, and only established a relationship with the other party to achieve his goal. For example, in the recent news, a Japanese cherry blossom girl was ignored because of her ordinary appearance, so she became a beautiful girl with big eyes, approached a member of a men's group, and then published indecent photos with two members to achieve the purpose of revenge.

Speculative betrayal: it is the most common type. Traitors are influenced by sexual needs or money and can't resist the temptation to betray. In a word, the traitor is "I made a mistake that men all over the world will make." 」

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The reason for betrayal is not that you don't love?

When did the two people fall in love and promise each other, and when did they start to brew infidelity? The deep reasons of betrayal are "self-protection" and "unequal expectations". People who have been betrayed by others (not necessarily love, but family background, friendship or workplace) can hardly trust each other again. In the future, they will betray each other to protect themselves from harm.

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Unequal expectations may be that couples have different standards for filing needs, frequency of companionship and ways of getting along. When the performance of the other party always fails to meet their expectations, they will have doubts about their partners, lose confidence in their marriage and feel betrayed.