People are multifaceted, we have defects, but we also have the characteristics of flash.
You don't have to grow into a rose. If you like, you can be jasmine, daisy, sunflower and Qian Qian.
As the founding partner of CreditEase Entertainment, Miss Yang Tianzhen said: "I think I am a very good-looking person, and I have felt this way since I was a child. No matter how heavy I am, I will dress myself up. "
We all know that the most important part of motivation psychology is power motivation, and we don't think that power = brute force, and all that can drive others is power. Therefore, there is no essential difference between letting men kill and men killing directly, and it is more exquisite and safe. Therefore, the gym where men show their strength is often achieved through women's plastic surgery/dressing/makeup.
So I have always opposed the view that "pleasing others" is only regarded as a weak feminist, because pleasing can actually be driven.
So we can see that most girls will say that dressing up is to make themselves happy. Why do they want to make themselves happy? In addition to aesthetics, it is more important that "the whole world will become gentle with itself", which is actually showing strength.
However, many people have a problem, that is, they must let others know their true self, otherwise they will feel insecure and feel that the other person loves an illusion. But Su Shi recalled the dress of his dead wife. Was she a beauty who loved to dress up, or a serious person who liked seek fortune for oneself? This is not clear, so I always think that liking appearance means liking a person. Similarly, the so-called mutual affection is also misinterpreted, but the truth is not rough. People who are not allowed to get fat or dress up according to their favorite aesthetics, their appearance is a part of their inner world, such as metal party, gothic girl punk girl, and they can't be cut.
Psychologically speaking, people with such needs are called "self-objectification" or "self-materialization". They think that the external self is only the object driven by the internal self, so there is always a feeling of hiding in their own bodies. Scientists do experiments, and their own heartbeats are much more accurate than those without this problem.
These people also often have unusual behaviors. For example, rich people may dress up as poor people and enter a circle to verify their "real" charm, while people who use their bodies purely as tools have higher acceptance of plastic surgery-anyway, it's not me who gets the knife, it's just the shell.
They always feel that their appearance is not strong, that they are self-destructive and complaining. While ignoring boosting confidence, enriching ourselves and building ourselves from other aspects. Let yourself look brand-new from the mental outlook, become more and more outstanding, win the appreciation and respect of others, so as to shine at the moment and sit up and take notice.
Never judge by appearances. It is very shallow to judge a person by his appearance. Even if it is plain, it is ugly. However, if they are confident, generous, rich in content, well-cultivated, enthusiastic, cheerful, lively and generous, good at talking, not autistic and good at communication, they will not worry about their appearance and will not suffer from anxiety.
Don't be too self-centered and care too much about yourself. In daily life and social occasions, don't think too much, don't worry too much, don't be too entangled. Give play to your normal level, show your normal state, be humble and polite, and fully respect others.