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My best friend was disfigured by acid! How can I comfort him?
Now, what he needs most is not comfort, not pity. You are his friend, aren't you?

I know from your statement that you want to help him. So, I want to ask you, to what extent can you help him? Or in other words, did you help him realize? How deep is consciousness?

If all you want is comfort and pity for him, please stop looking and think of "sweet words" yourself!

But if you have the consciousness to help him, and this consciousness is not too small to almost nothing, then please listen to me. ......

He, in this "disaster", must have suffered extraordinary injuries. No matter physically or psychologically, general comfort is useless. You (or someone close to his peers) can only start from life and let him regain hope.

First, the "energy" of body and spirit is the key to cheer him up. At this point, someone must cook for him in a forced way, you can "force" him to eat (of course, voluntary is better), and even force him to exercise (even if it is only "three laps left")

Let him pay special attention to sleep.

The above is just an external "must".

Secondly, someone needs to be with him all the time (of course, not every minute, but also doing his own thing, such as going to school and going to work). People who stay with him should not just say something comforting. Sometimes (Saturday and Sunday), they stay with him silently all day, and sometimes, they don't say anything. But let him know or feel the care and respect of those who accompany him. Sometimes, we should make eye contact with him

Also, remember, he is very sad and scared, so don't take off his disguise, because then he will feel that there is no hiding place and he will hate the person who did it.

Third, find him a person who is most trusted and dependent, and let him have a center (you can try to be such a person). With a center (whether friendship, love or affection), then he will have the hope of recovery or even stronger.

Because if he doesn't survive this time, his life will be almost over, at least it will be harder to cheer up later (this is by no means an alarmist). But as long as he gets through this, he will not recover, but will become fearless (provided that he is completely refreshed and has no negative emotions such as inferiority). If he works harder, hehe ... then he will be invincible.

His "center" must support him, accompany him (at least mentally), and sometimes make him alert and stay away from depravity, even if he fights with him (remember to tell him not to fight back, hehe ...)

Here, I have to say an unkind piece of advice. I'm sure some people won't like it, or some people will say I'm fooling around. I don't care what they say, but I hope you can take it seriously. In fact, the probability that this so-called "suggestion" will be implemented is almost zero, so I say "reference".

That is:

The best person to do the above things is a girl (because the opposite sex is more friendly to "ordinary" people), and the best condition for this girl is "girlfriend" or "female friend" because it can break the psychological defense. But this girl can't do it just because she feels sorry for him, can't be a little "disgusting" about his appearance, and can't have the "sympathy" of "fearless" spirit.

And if it must be a boy, it must be a "life-threatening" brother.

Think about my words. If you think you can't do it, but you still want to help him, then show my words to those who can.

Also, if you have any questions, you can come to me. I have added you as a friend in Baidu. If he is well, please tell me. I hope to share this joy. )

I wish him a speedy recovery! ! ! ! You need not worry too much. Leave the rest to time and himself! You should have confidence in him.