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Let me tell you my own story. My boyfriend is from Busan. Speaking of how we met, it was actually fate. When I was in college, I was always in an international exchange club. There were quite a few Korean students in our school, but the school did not have a Korean language department and there were even very few Korean students. I'm Han Chinese. When I was in high school, I followed Korean stars and I could speak a little bit of Korean. This club was just established after I arrived at university, and there were no students who could speak Korean who could help Korean students with their daily lives. From that time on, I used my three-legged cat to chat with them in Korean. We have been chatting like this for more than three years, and my spoken Korean is really 6, so much so that others think I have learned Korean for many years, but in fact I am a typical illiterate. There are very few boys in my foreign language department, and I don’t really like to be in contact with boys, so I have never had a boyfriend. I whispered that I still feel that I am a good-looking girl and it’s not because no one is chasing me. It is probably because of this club. Eight of the ten boys who chased me in college were Korean. But I always felt that there would be no results. I just chatted with them for fun. After returning to China, most of them lost contact and didn’t want to have serious relationships. Later, when I was a junior in college, I actually met a super handsome Korean boy. He looks a lot like the actor Nangong Min, who has some evil buffs. He doesn't talk much, has a good figure, and has tattoos. At that time, he had already indirectly confessed to me, so I refused out of self-preservation. After he returned to China, the more he thought about it, the more he regretted it. He decided at that time that if he met someone he liked again, he would not miss it. Then fate came, when my senior year started. Met my current boyfriend. I've talked a lot of nonsense before, so I won't go into details anymore. Anyway, we two will get along well. The Korean pronunciation of the two characters after his name is very similar to "Hu Shui", so I called him Hu Shui. We didn't say that one of us confessed to the other, it just happened naturally and it felt right. We didn't even say "you be my boyfriend/girlfriend". In fact, many people think that Koreans are very chauvinistic and strong. In fact, they are not. There are some macho men, but not all of them, at least not me like Hu Shui. He is the same age as me, a 180-year-old boy who prefers to act coquettishly and be cute. It all depends on personal preference. Some girls like to be more mature and find boys with this kind of personality unappetizing. In fact, I really like boys with this kind of cute personality. I usually don’t like the angry type. He pesters me every day. I acted angry for him. This is very different from the character of Chinese men. As for his image, he takes two baths in the morning and evening every day. Before going out, he will bring out a lot of clothes to match and let me see what looks best on him. When he goes shopping, he will not say he is tired and sit down to leave me alone. Walking around or following behind quietly but with me in high spirits. I really like this attitude towards life. It doesn't mean that boys have to be careless about their image. The two of us rarely quarrel. I think the biggest tacit understanding we have now is that we never quarrel overnight. Whether we are together or in a different place, as long as we are dissatisfied with each other or have any conflicts, we will not quarrel until they are resolved. There will be no sleep at all, and the result is not a unilateral apology from one person, but both parties analyzing their mistakes and apologizing to each other, without allowing one party to compromise. The highest record is that I once talked from 10pm to almost 4am, and my eyes were swollen when I woke up the next morning, haha.

The most difficult thing about transnational love is probably the language. It's not okay for a couple to be together if they don't understand each other in the same language. If they don't express their opinions to each other properly and keep silent, problems will eventually arise. But it doesn’t require a complete proficiency in the language. Just like us, I speak Korean unilaterally, but as I said before, I have never learned it at all. I can communicate very well with spoken English. Although there is no big problem, it is impossible to completely communicate with Koreans. He can express whatever he wants to express, and his Chinese is almost perfect. In this case, over time you will find that the tacit understanding between the two of you will form a new "language" that only you can understand. The picture below is what I wrote about this matter

Now let’s tell our story. I dated him in October 2016, when I was a senior in college. I have a fearless mentality that when he returns to study abroad in a year, I will graduate and be over. Later, when he chatted with me, he also told me that he had the same thoughts as me at the time, haha, what a scumbag couple. But who can control things like feelings? After we started dating, many people around me would tell the truth and thought that I was just "showing off my skills" and either dating or having fun. No one believed in the relationship between us. There are a lot of them around. Hey, did you find a Korean oppa? Really fed up with this. How difficult is transnational love? It is really not easy to manage it well. At that time, on Valentine's Day, because it was winter vacation, I was in China and he was in South Korea. He had been in a foreign country for two months and wrote this paragraph.

"Suddenly greedy."

(Update will continue tomorrow night)

The issue of national relations is actually quite interesting. In fact, it is best to avoid this kind of problem if possible. It is not something that can be joked about. At that time, we had Park Geun-hye stepping down and the THAAD issue. I couldn't help but ask him what Koreans really thought. About Park Geun-hye, he said she was a crazy woman.

We have also talked a lot about THAAD. The attitude of their people is actually very opposed to the deployment of THAAD. Once THAAD is deployed, it means that their country will also be monitored by the United States. However, the government will make profits for it and they are powerless. In fact, most of Lotte Group's shares are sold in Japan under the banner of Korea. Even if it did not support THAAD, its reputation in Korea was bad. In short, his final attitude was, can you please stop hating me because South Korea deployed THAAD and I am Korean?

We went to Shanghai for a trip in May this year, and the time we stayed did not count. The main reason is that we both want to go to Disneyland

If there are no big quarrels or conflicts of opinions when traveling, it should be a good match between the two of us. After I went to Shanghai, I confessed to my family about my boyfriend and they didn’t object and expressed their understanding.

This is a group photo taken in New World. Just show your face. It’s only mine and it’s not anonymous. Haha.

I’ve experienced a lot since I came back from Shanghai. When I was very busy preparing for the defense of my graduation thesis, he was suddenly informed that he was going back to China. The original plan to return to China in July was suddenly brought forward to May, which caught me off guard. At the same time, I was under a lot of pressure during that time. At that time, I decided to go to his home in Busan for a week after my defense in June, but I was still very poor before I started making money, so I could only decide to go shopping and at least earn enough to travel back. But I don’t have many customers, most of them are college students like me. However, unexpectedly, I left my wallet in the first taxi I took as soon as I landed at Busan Airport. There were RMB cash and bank cards in it. The card was full of money and there was no way to use it. Although he still had some money, he couldn't support us for a week. At that time, I really tried all possible methods and even checked all the surveillance cameras at my door. I went to apply for rescue funds with UnionPay, but they said they didn’t have this business. I went to the Chinese Embassy and they said they didn’t care. In desperation, we had no choice but to go to the police station to sign in as lost and found. However, I met a very nice police lady at the police station. When she heard that we were traveling, my wallet was lost and I was about to become a beggar. She was very dedicated and called more than ten taxi companies in Busan one by one to ask if anyone had found it. wallet, and ended up calling for an hour and finally finding my wallet and all the money in it in one place. But during this period, he had already asked for money from his family many times. When we were having dinner on the last day, I said that I would pay for this meal, but he insisted on using his last bit of money to pay the bill. After that, he told me, I felt that I was too Sorry for you. You came here to play, but instead of letting you enjoy the good things, I made you feel so aggrieved this week. When he took me to the airport to go home, he couldn't even get the money to take the light rail, so I gave him all the change I had left before going home. At that time, I felt that although Korean boys were not as good as the Chinese in showing off openly to let you know how good they are to you, they instead silently gave you their best and the best they could. At this point, I suddenly want to say that many people think that Korean boys will be stingy and go out to eat or go on dates with their girlfriends on an AA basis. In fact, this is not the case. Most of the time, he takes the money for meals. At most, he takes the money for meals and I am responsible for buying coffee and snacks. I don’t accurately calculate how much I spent today and how much you have to give me. In fact, this method is still very simple. It’s true that one person doesn’t bear all the expenses and neither does everyone else.

Gamcheon Culture Village in Busan and the most famous Little Prince there

Night view and night view

In fact, socializing with Koreans is no different. We are all human, and as long as we love each other, there will be no problem. We have been together for almost a year now, and our current situation is in a foreign country. I have already started working, and he is working part-time in Korea while learning Chinese. When he passes the exam, his father will let him live in China for a period of time and then continue his university studies in China. Sometimes I think a lot about the future. After all, our identities are different now. I have started working but he is still a student? He has not been to the army yet, although he may do charity work because of his leg injury. There are still many uncertain factors. All I think about now is that today we are still together, today I still love him and he still loves me, and today I am still very happy. That's it.

It is really not easy to have a good cross-border relationship. It takes effort to maintain this relationship, and it also takes a process to accept each other's different cultural habits and ideas. There are also many people who say that Korean men love to play and have bad personalities. At the end of last year, I introduced a very good Korean oppa to a friend. Now the trend is that the two of them are about to get married. That boy is really interested in her. It's too good to be imagined, so you can't use your own inherent concepts to draw conclusions about all men in a country.

If there is any girl or guy who likes a Korean who wants to start a transnational relationship, or if you have problems in transnational love, you can come to me. I am happy to share my experience with you

Extended reading:

To be a teacher of Chinese as a foreign language/Chinese language in South Korea, the two mandatory requirements are:

1. Graduate from a four-year undergraduate program and hold an undergraduate degree Certificate

2. Foreign language ability reaches the level of daily communication

In addition to the above rigid requirements, teachers of Chinese as a foreign language/Chinese language also need you to:

3. Love Chinese culture , love the teaching profession

4. Always maintain a learning mentality and constantly improve and enrich your professional abilities

5. International world view and the ability to adapt to new environments

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