Please read this article: it is quoted from the weakness of human nature.
One night a few years ago, we visited Yellowstone National Park and sat in open-air seats with other tourists. Facing the dense forest, we expect to see the appearance of the forest killer grizzly bear. It went to the garbage thrown out by the forest hotel to look for food. Rangers on horseback told us that grizzly bears are almost invincible in the western United States except bison and Alaska bears. But I found an animal, and it was the only animal that walked out of the forest with the grizzly bear, and the grizzly bear tolerated it. That's a smelly weasel. Of course, the grizzly bear knows that it can be destroyed with only one hand, so why doesn't it do so? Because experience tells you it's not worth it.
I found it, too. Growing up on a farm, I once caught a skunk in a fence. In new york, I also met some two-legged skunks on the street. The bitter experience tells me that neither is worth touching.
When we hate the enemy, we will overwhelm us with greater strength than the other side, giving him a chance to control our sleep, appetite, blood pressure, health and even emotions. If our enemy knows how much trouble he has caused us, he will be very happy! Hatred can't hurt each other's hair, but it turns their days into purgatory.
Guess who said the following sentence:
If a selfish person takes advantage of you, delete him from your friend list, but don't think about revenge. Once the inclination angle is retaliated, it will definitely do more harm to yourself than others.
This sounds like what an idealist said. In fact, this passage appeared on the bulletin board of new york Police Department.
How can revenge hurt yourself? There are several ways. Life magazine records that revenge may ruin your healthy life. The magazine said: "The most important thing for patients with hypertension is hatred. Long-term indignation has caused chronic hypertension and caused heart disease. "
Jesus said, "Love your enemies." He is not only preaching, but also preaching the medical skills of the century. When Jesus said, "Forgive them 77 times," he was telling us how to avoid high blood pressure, heart disease, gastric ulcer and allergic diseases.
My friend recently suffered from a serious heart attack. The doctor ordered her to stay in bed and told her not to get angry no matter what happened. Doctors know that if the heart is weak, any anger will kill people. Will people really die? A few years ago, a restaurant owner in Washington died of anger. A police report said: "William Faber used to be the owner of a coffee shop. The cook died in a rage because he insisted on drinking coffee from a plate. Because he was so angry, he grabbed a revolver and chased the chef, resulting in heart failure and falling to the ground. The autopsy report claimed that the cause of heart failure was anger. "
When Jesus said, "Love your enemies," he also told us how to improve our appearance. I've seen it, and I'm sure you've seen it-some people's faces are wrinkled or deformed by hatred. No matter how good plastic surgery can save you, there is a forgiving, gentle and loving face.
Hatred makes us even tasteless now. The Bible says, "Love is better than hate."
If our enemy knew that he could consume our energy, make us nervous and ugly, and let us die of a heart attack early, wouldn't he clap his hands and snicker?
Even if you don't love your enemies, at least love yourself more. We should not let the enemy control our emotions, health and appearance. Shakespeare said:
Anger of hatred will burn you.
When Jesus asked us to forgive our enemies 77 times, he was also talking about business. For example, I have a letter on my desk from Mr George Rona in Uppsala, Sweden. He worked as a lawyer in Vienna for several years and didn't return to Sweden until World War II. He is penniless and badly needs to find a job. He can speak and write several languages, so he wants to find an import and export company to do paperwork. Most companies wrote back that they don't need this service at present because of the war. But they will keep his information and so on. One of them wrote back to Rona and said, "Your imagination of our company is completely wrong. You are really stupid. I don't need paperwork at all. Even if I really need it, I won't hire you. You can't even write Swedish well, and your letter is full of mistakes. "
Rona flew into a rage when she received this letter. How dare this Swede say that he doesn't know Swedish! What about himself? His answer is full of mistakes. So Rona wrote a letter that was enough to anger each other. But he stopped to think for a moment and said to himself, "Wait, how do I know he is wrong?" I have studied Swedish, but it is not my mother tongue. Maybe I made a mistake and I didn't even know it. In that case, I should study harder to find a job. This man may have done me a favor, although he didn't mean to. Although his expression is not good, it can't offset the favor I owe him. I decided to write a letter to thank him. "
Rona erased his letter and wrote another one: "It's very kind of you to take the trouble to answer my letter because you don't need a clerk at all. I'm really sorry for my misjudgment of your company. I am writing this letter because when I asked, I was told that you are a leader in this field. I don't know that my letter made a grammatical mistake. I'm sorry and ashamed. I will try my best to learn Swedish well and reduce mistakes. I want to thank you for helping me grow. "
A few days later, Rona received a reply and asked him to define the meeting. Rona arrived as promised and got the job. Rona found her own way to "drive away anger with gentleness"
We may not be sacred enough to love our enemies, but it is wise to forgive them and forget them for our own health and happiness.
I once asked the son of General Eisenhower if his father ever hated anyone. He replied, "No, my father never wastes a minute thinking about people he doesn't like."
There is an old saying that people who are not angry are fools, and people who are not angry are wise.
William Galen, the former mayor of new york, took this as his principle in politics. He was shot and nearly died. When he was lying in his hospital bed struggling to survive, he also said, "I will forgive everyone and everything before going to bed every night." Does that sound too idealistic and naive? Then let's listen to Schopenhauer's philosophy in Germany. In pessimism, he compares life to a painful journey. However, in the abyss of despair, he still said: "If possible, no one should harbor hatred."
I once asked Baroque-he was an adviser to six American presidents, including Wilson, Harding, Coolidge, Hoover, Roosevelt and Truman-whether he was bothered when he was attacked by his political enemies? "No one can insult me or bother me," he replied. "I won't allow them to do this."
No one can insult us or disturb us unless we allow it.
Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can't hurt me.
For centuries, mankind has always admired people who don't hate their enemies. I often go to Canadian national parks to enjoy the most magnificent mountain scenery in the western United States. This mountain was named to commemorate the martyrdom of British nurse Edith Cavell in the German army camp on June 19 15 12. What's her charge? She took care of some injured French and British soldiers at her home in Belgium and helped them escape to the Netherlands. On the morning when she was about to be executed, the British priest in the army visited her in the Brussels barracks where she was imprisoned. Carville murmured, "I understand now that patriotism is not enough. I shouldn't hold a grudge against anyone. " Four years later, her body was sent to England and a memorial ceremony was held in Westminster Abbey. I once lived in London for a year and often went to Cavell's statue to read her immortal words: "Now I understand that patriotism is not enough. I don't forgive anyone for holding a grudge or resentment. "
To truly forgive and forget our enemies, the most effective way is to resort to a force stronger than us, because we can forget everything, and of course the insult is insignificant. Let me give you another example.
19 18, Jones, a black teacher and missionary in Mississippi, is about to be executed. A few years ago, I visited the school founded by Jones himself and gave a speech to the students. Now it has become a famous school in the country, but the story I want to tell is a long time ago. During World War I, there was a rumor in central Mississippi that Germans were behind the scenes to instigate black rebellion. Jones is accused of sedition and will be sentenced to death. A group of white people heard Jones say in the church outside the church: "Life is a battle, and black people should take up arms and fight for survival and success."
"fight!" "weapons!" Enough! These excited white youths rushed into the church, tied Jones with ropes, dragged him a mile away, put him on the guillotine, lit firewood, and prepared to hang him and burn him at the same time. Someone shouted, "Tell him to talk! Talk to me! Say it! " So Jones stood on the platform, with a rope around his neck, and began to talk about his life and ideals. He graduated from university of idaho 1907. He talked about the personality, degree and musical talent that made him popular in teaching. When he graduated, he was invited to join the hotel industry, and someone was willing to pay for his music education, but he refused. Why? Because he is keen on an ideal. Influenced by Booker Washington's story, he decided to educate his poor brothers. So he went to the most backward place in the southern United States, that is, a secluded place in Mississippi, pawned his watch for $65,438 +0.65, and he began to set up a school in the wild forest. Jones faced these angry people who were going to kill him and told him that if he struggled, he wanted to train these dropouts into useful farmers, workers, cooks and housekeepers in order to educate them. He also told these white people who helped him in the process of his education-some white people gave him land, wood, pigs, cattle and money to help him complete his education.
Afterwards, someone asked Jones if he hated those who dragged him to hang and burn him. His answer is that he is too busy telling things more important than himself to hate. He said, "I don't have time to quarrel, and I don't have time to go back on my word. No one can force me to hate them. "
When Jones was so sincere and touching, especially when he defended his mission instead of himself, the mob began to soften. Finally, an old man said, "I believe what this young man said is true." I know all the people he mentioned. " He is doing good deeds. We were wrong. We should not hang him, but help him. The old man began to pass hats among the crowd and raised $52 for those who wanted to hang Jones. Because Jones said, "I don't have time to quarrel, and I don't have time to go back on my word. No one can force me to hate them. "
Before19th century, epiktetos pointed out that what we harvested was what we planted, and our fate was never spared, so let us pay for our crimes. Love because ted said:
In the long run, everyone will pay for their mistakes. People who can keep this long in their hearts will not be angry, resentful, slanderous, censured, attacked or resentful.
As can be seen from Hudson's Biography of Lincoln, Lincoln "never judges people according to his own likes and dislikes. He always thinks that his enemies are as capable as others. If someone offends him or treats him badly, but he is the most suitable person, Lincoln will still ask him to take this position, just like a friend ... I don't think he will change someone because of personal disgust or political enemies. "
Lin Biao appointed quite high positions to those who insulted him-including Crane, Schwartz and Stanton. According to Flue-cured Tobacco Deng, Lincoln thought: "No one should be praised or blamed for his actions, because all of us are influenced by educational conditions and environment, and the habits and personalities we have formed have created our present and future."
Maybe Lincoln was right. If you and I inherit the same physical, psychological and emotional characteristics as the enemy, if our lives are exactly the same, we may do exactly the same things as them, because we can't do anything else. Let's remind ourselves with Indian prayers: "Great God! Please help me not to judge and criticize others before I put on other people's buckskin boots for two weeks. " So instead of hating our enemies, we should pity them and thank God for not letting us experience the same life as them. Instead of cursing revenge on our enemies, why not give them detailed explanations, sympathy, assistance, tolerance and prayers?
I grew up in a family that read the Bible every night and prayed before going to bed. I also seem to hear my father recite what Jesus said in a lonely Missouri farmhouse. As long as people still attach importance to this ideal, they will continue to quote this passage: "Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, be kind to those who hate you, and pray for those who persecute you."
My father has been saying these words of Jesus all his life, and these words have given him inner peace, which many powerful people in this world have no chance to enjoy.
To cultivate inner peace and happiness, please remember the sixth principle. Never retaliate against the enemy's heart, because it will hurt yourself more than others.