There is a saying:

Love often starts with appearance, falls into talent, and is loyal to character.

Good looks seem to have unknowingly become the first condition for love.

Many girls will say: You must marry a good-looking man. Even if he has nothing, at least you will be happy looking at him every day.

But in fact, this is not the case. You will find a very strange phenomenon: those good-looking girls are often surrounded by average-looking boys, while some ordinary-looking girls can attract male idols. Level boys.

This is probably what is called "you are just ugly enough for me to like". After all, no matter how good-looking a person is, there will eventually come a time when he gets tired of it.

In love, is appearance really that important?

In fact, men who meet these three conditions are the most worthy of marrying.

Be responsible in your heart

Love is actually an elusive and unfounded thing.

If it is not implemented, it is just an empty shell.

A man can have no money or a house, but he must be responsible for major events.

Ruan Wan, who is the most distressed in the movie "Youth", has a boyfriend Zhao Shiyong who has been in love for many years. The love between the two people was once sweet and happy, but his accidental cheating made another woman pregnant.

His first reaction was not to solve the matter, but to find Ruan Wan, kneel down and cry. He even left all the mess to Ruan Guan and stayed out of it.

I thought that after this long love journey, they would eventually get married. But when he heard that Ruan Guan was pregnant, he was not surprised, but panicked and didn't know what to do.

She finally understood that the man in front of her was not only unable to provide her with a stable life in the future, but also did not have the responsibilities and responsibilities that a man should have.

No matter how beautiful love is, it is useless without responsibility.

He will always be like a child who will not grow up, and the enemy will only hide behind you.

Zhang Xiaoxian once said this:

Don’t just love a good person, don’t just love an excellent man, don’t just love a talented man, please love a A responsible man.

Respond to everything

What girls need is not a lot of promises, but a practical response.

Girls often say that what they really want is not the instant reply from a boy on WeChat, but that you remember to tell her after you are done: I am done.

In fact, some of her complaints and complaints are not to let you give her some advice, but to let her know that you are listening to her carefully.

Just like the "responsive to everything" boyfriend who was very popular on Douyin.

The girl said: There is a XX movie released today.

The boy’s answer was not how the movie was, but “I’ll take you to see it.”

The girl said: I heard that hot pot restaurant is not bad.

The boy's answer was not to discuss time, but "I will take you to eat."

Compared to those promises with no deadline, what girls want more is "response for everything".

Sanmao once said this:

If love does not fall into the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will not last long. of.

In fact, many people always think that girls are pretentious and have a bad temper, but they are really very satisfying creatures. When two people are in love, if one party's efforts are not responded to, they will be disappointed.

Responding to everything is the best respect for love.

There is wisdom in the brain

Good-looking skins are all the same, but interesting souls are unique. Marriage is a lifelong matter, and no matter how good-looking you are, it will eventually be lost to time, so marrying a smart man will last long.

Of course, the so-called smart refers not only to IQ, but to knowing the correct way to get along with others.

A fan once complained to me about her marriage:

That was the man she chased for two years, and she got married to him as she wished. At that time, she felt that her life was too lucky. She was obsessed with his appearance from the first moment she saw him.

But life after marriage is not as happy as imagined. He always seemed to have work that he couldn't finish, and occasionally when she wanted to lose her temper, he would only become more impatient and accuse her of being unreasonable.

Every holiday she wanted to celebrate, he felt was a waste of time and energy. To put it bluntly, he didn't seem to know how to love her at all, let alone how to manage this marriage.

The greatest wisdom of a man lies not in how much money he can earn or how good his career is, but in whether he can run a family well.

I can’t help but think of Chen Yihan. Everyone’s first reaction when seeing Xu Fuxiang is that this man is not good-looking. But it turns out that good looks really can’t be eaten.

Everyone who saw the way they got along was envious of Chen Yihan's choice.

A man’s outlook on life and how he loves you are the foundation for a long-lasting marriage.

Only a smart man will know how to love you.

Every time I ask a girl: What makes you decide to marry a man?

Their answers were the same: because of love.

If you have to get married every time you love, then you have too many people to marry.

On average, as adults, each person falls in love two to four times, so love is not the reason.

Many girls are confused. Why did you marry this person? You are very good at dating. Why did you marry this person? She said, because this person is handsome, or because he is good to me, or because he is rich.

But in fact:

Is a handsome person the reason why you marry him? No, that's why you chose him.

Is it because a person treats you well that you marry him? That's wrong too, that's why you accepted him.

Whether it is choice or acceptance, it only comes from external factors. Maybe it's his appearance, or maybe it's his condition. And these will only become the reasons for your heartbeat.

Marriage and love are actually two different things.

When you like him because of his external conditions, you just enter a state of love. But when you decide to marry this person, you must feel his continued warmth and love for you. By that time, your only reason is: trust him.

Therefore, this is an era where appearance is important, but marriage is not a choice based on appearance.

All external conditions can only be a plus, and marriage can only be due to a firm and rational choice.

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