Not long ago, the actress Zhao, who just mentioned the Golden Eagle Award and was loved by the audience, immediately cooperated with Yibo to shoot the TV series "The Legend of Flying" shortly after her postpartum comeback. Whether it is a new drama spoiler or a live photo of various programs, Zhao's face value is still very eye-catching, and even praised by netizens. Yingbao, a mother, is more calm and atmospheric.
Angelababy, Yang Mi, Liu Shishi and Tang Yan. These female stars also come back immediately after giving birth, so it is as simple as a child playing house when a female star is pregnant. But in real life, is it really that easy for women to get pregnant and have children?
In fact, the moment most women get pregnant, it means that their lives are about to change dramatically. They will no longer have their own time and space, and some people will give up their careers and quit their original jobs for their children. However, in contrast, it is not these that really make women collapse, but various problems that need to be faced for a period of time after childbirth.
Pregnancy will last for several months, so you need to avoid eating. I still need to go to the hospital for various tests countless times. Many friends around me have said that the pregnancy test is not to draw blood, nor to rush back and forth, but to wait for the torture of the test results. Every examination is afraid of children's problems. Once the results are not satisfactory, further examination is needed, and inner anxiety and anxiety are the most uncomfortable.
In the process of delivery, laceration and knife-edge pain are unbearable, no matter whether it is a natural delivery or a caesarean section, no matter which mode of delivery is chosen, it will face great risks. Several friends have postpartum placenta adhesion and have to curettage as a last resort. There is still massive bleeding after curettage. Fortunately, the rescue was timely and there was no serious problem. Even if childbirth is so difficult, friends around me say that postpartum is a hundred times more painful than giving birth to a child.
The wound recovered pain, and some parturients suffered from severe hemorrhoids after natural delivery, and the pain was unbearable during breastfeeding. A friend has a terrible pain every time she feeds. It takes several people to press her legs to ensure that she can continue breastfeeding. She was sweating and cold with pain. Even so, every time she tried to suck it out with a breast pump and feed it to the children, her mother-in-law stopped her. The reason is that everyone is like this, so speechless.
There are still many problems, such as wound care, urine leakage and so on. These questions are women's privacy, even difficult to say, even stars. Ella Ella Ella once wrote a post after delivery, talking about her postpartum uterine and bladder prolapse, sneezing, running and other slight strenuous exercise will lead to urinary incontinence.
Open the comments, it is not difficult to find that many women have the problem of leaking urine more or less after delivery, but few women can face this problem correctly, especially many mothers. Most of them are ashamed of these problems and dare not tell anyone or actively treat them. Most women are out of shape after delivery, their breasts droop, and they can't sleep for months or even a year or two, which leads to great mental stress. Hormonal disorders make women sensitive and fragile.
Husbands don't understand, and even cheat during pregnancy and postpartum, which further aggravates the psychological problems of women after childbirth, and postpartum depression occurs frequently. I watched a program the other day, in which my wife cried. On the way out of the hospital after giving birth, my husband didn't hold the bag firmly, and the cup in the bag fell to the ground and broke. It was her husband's fault, but he didn't feel at all wrong. He also accused his wife in public, saying that she fell to the ground because she didn't put it away properly, and because of this, her husband kept cursing his wife, even when he got home, still cursing in bed.
The so-called "revenge of the moon", a seemingly trivial matter, has brought great mental harm to his wife. Men can't understand, or they can't empathize, but what many women do is even more incomprehensible. Why should a woman embarrass a woman? Whether it is the words of the mother-in-law's elders, "Who hasn't been here like this" or the words of relatives and friends, "Other people's daughters-in-law are all milk", these words are undoubtedly stinging women's hearts.
These days, Yuan Hongfa basked in the vest line of Zhang Xinyi in Weibo, and netizens praised Zhang Xinyi for her good figure and perseverance. However, the Internet has memories. I still remember that Zhang Xinyi participated in variety shows after giving birth, and was called dog blood by netizens just because she didn't recover to the thinnest state after giving birth. It can be seen that this society is harsh and unfair to women. Physical problems can be recovered, but psychological damage can't be repaired. Many women have completely lost their dignity after becoming mothers. Breastfeeding is the most disgusting problem for many pregnant women.
Once, in the process of visiting a friend who just gave birth to a baby, it was just after giving birth to milk. A roomful of relatives and friends kept watching and pointed out their opinions from time to time. It was a great shock to me at that time, and it was hard to imagine how my friends felt at that time. In the hospital, although doctors, nurses and prolactinists are all working, no matter how many people are in the room, it can be said that mother has no dignity when she lifts the quilt to check.
When I get home, the child is hungry when he cries and needs to be fed immediately. Relatives came to visit him. Not only do they not avoid feeding, but they also tell me what to do. Many friends say that they feel like a cow and a feeding tool. Another friend told me that her sister had been having trouble with her husband's family since she gave birth. The reason is that during the time when she lived with her in-laws, her father-in-law often opened the door and mopped the floor in the bedroom, and she never avoided it. She quarreled many times for this, but her husband told her father that it was not intentional. Besides, she opened the door to clean.
After listening to this story, I said, then why not explain it? My friend told me that I didn't say it, but I didn't understand it at all. Fighting is useless.
Before the baby was born, people seemed to treat women as human beings. But after giving birth, I always say that you are the mother of the child. What's the matter? It seems that the woman who gave birth to the child is not a person. Everyone's life is not easy, especially for women to have children. Give more care and tolerance to the women around you and give them more respect. The child's mother is the child's mother, but she is also herself.