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In 20 10, 23-year-old Yan Ling and her college classmate Bomou established a love relationship. Yanling's family is in the northeast, and Bomou is from Jiangxi, one south and one north, not to mention Bomou's family is not rich. It's just that getting married far away makes Yanling's father unacceptable. Father left a cruel word: choose him or me.
Affection and love, when defined as non-A and non-B multiple-choice questions, even Xue Ba Yan Ling is at a loss. Throughout the summer vacation, the atmosphere at home fell to freezing point. Black-faced dad and Lacrimosa's mom were caught in the middle all day ... In the face of his girlfriend's retreat, Bo vowed to be good to her and give her happiness.
In the game of affection and love, the balance in Yanling's heart leans towards her boyfriend. With the help of her mother, she went to Hangzhou with 200 yuan money and started her postgraduate career.
At that time, Bomou worked in Jiangxi with a salary of more than 2,000 yuan. After deducting five insurances and one gold, there is not much left. He often goes to Hangzhou once every half month, almost a moonlight clan, and borrows money from a credit card to pay for Western Wall. Ling Yan scraped by on the monthly subsidy from the school.
Men and women in love, though bitter and sweet, are romantic and affectionate, which will create surprises from time to time. At the entrance of Yanling's laboratory, I can see Bo holding roses from time to time, which makes the students envious.
An unforgettable scene for Yan Ling is that on the playground of Zhejiang University of Technology, Bo made a mood pattern with candles and roses and proposed to Yan Ling affectionately. Small and exquisite Yanling, wearing an orange skirt, stood in a heart-shaped pattern swaying by candlelight, with tears in her eyes, and readily agreed to her boyfriend's proposal.
Bo has no house, no car and no savings, but? Yan Lingtian, who was carried away by love, really thought that everything was worth it as long as she could be with Bo. When two people work together, they have a house and a car.
At the end of 20 12, Bomou quit his job in Jiangxi and came to Hangzhou, where they finally met. They rented a single room of 10 square meter, a bed, a table, a wardrobe, an open-air kitchen and a bathroom used by others. They were poor but happy.
Until Yanling graduated from graduate school, they went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate. From school uniforms to wedding dresses, they finally came together. In order to witness love, Yan Ling and Bo Mou went to the local photo studio to take wedding photos. Handsome groom and beautiful bride, such as the prince and princess in fairy tales, are enviable.
In Yanling's hometown, it takes at least100000 to marry a daughter, and the man has to buy a house first. Considering Bo's self-esteem, Yan Ling ignored her father's opposition and simply didn't want a penny for the bride price. The father said sadly that the daughter was raised for nothing.
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However, getting married is just another beginning. Bo began to show his love rat nature slowly. He loves vanity, loves leisure, hates work and spends money lavishly. He spends tens of thousands of yuan on clothes every year. Moreover, he never does housework. Even if he is at home on a rest day, he would rather wait for Yanling to go home and cook with an empty stomach.
Shortly after the marriage, Bomou proposed to buy a house when both sides had only tens of thousands of savings. And asked Yan Ling to seek financial support from her parents. Yanling had no choice but to ask her father for help.
The father who didn't get the bride price money was very wronged, and this time it added fuel to the fire. He was so angry that his father and daughter fell out. Thinking of her husband's urgent desire to buy a house, Yanling had to borrow money from her father.
Father said it was ok to borrow money, provided that Bo had to write an IOU. Finally, they borrowed one hundred thousand yuan from the old man. At this point, Yanling felt distressed by her husband and felt that her father's request for writing IOUs was too much.
In her mind, her husband's interests are above everything else.
They patched together and paid 300 thousand heads of state. After that, I used the money in my credit card to overdraw 300,000 to decorate the house.
Soon, Yanling became pregnant and gave birth to a lovely daughter. At this time, the family is heavily in debt. In order to work as soon as possible, Yanling reluctantly sent her child to her hometown in Northeast China when she was six months old.
With the house, Bomou asked for another car.
Yanling thinks the car is just a means of transportation, and a car of around100000 will do. Bo feels that100000 car is very shameful. In order to protect her face, Yanling asked her father for 60,000 yuan, borrowed 40,000 yuan from her relatives and bought her a car with180,000.
In order to pay off the debt as soon as possible, Yanling is reluctant to buy cosmetics and better clothes. In order to earn thousands more, I chose a job opposite Hangzhou. She got up early and longed for the darkness. She must get up after five o'clock every day At seven o'clock in the evening, she dragged her tired body home and had to buy food and cook.
Get up early every day, plus often work overtime and stay up late. Yanling is sleepy and tired, so she can only catch up on the subway and shuttle bus. It's only been more than a year, and she's getting old soon, even her white hair is coming out.
Yanling has always trusted her husband without reservation. She gave her monthly salary to Bomou, and Bomou paid off her debts as a whole. She spends every month on flowers and pays her salary next month.
Yanling is also a competent daughter-in-law She is always concerned about the life and health of her parents-in-law. When the seasons change, she buys them clothes and shoes. My parents-in-law often have backache, so she asked someone to bring a Thai plaster to show her filial piety to her husband.
On 20 17, Bomou proposed to start her own business, and Yanling expressed her unconditional support. She resolutely sold the newly renovated house and unconditionally supported her husband to start a business.
When she made this decision, just as she believed that Bo would bring happiness to herself, she chose to fall in love with Bo against her parents' wishes.
She is full of hope that her husband can appreciate her efforts, cherish this family, work hard to start a business and give herself and her daughter a happy future.
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At first, Bomou could stay at home for half a month.
Soon, things began to go wrong Bo's different style of dressing, the voice of a strange woman on the phone, the inexplicable place of business trip ... everything can be traced. Whether Yan Ling believes it or not, the truth gradually surfaced-Bomou cheated!
On a business trip, Bo met Tan, a female college student. Under the guise of being unmarried, he used the sweet words he had said to Yanling on this girl. He started his own business with the money from his wife's house sale, and took the girl to travel, go shopping and stay in high-end hotels. .....
For more than two months, the hotel's consumption records show that Bo stayed in five-star hotels such as Marriott, Hilton and Shangri-La, and often stayed for several consecutive nights. In addition, they also go shopping in the mall from time to time, spending more than 1000 yuan at a time, and bills of 3,000 yuan and 5,000 yuan are sent to the mailbox like snowflakes. Yanling this just a rude awakening, thoroughly see the man's face.
At first, Bo did not admit that he was cheating. In the face of hard evidence, he had to admit the fact of cheating. Yanling gradually forgave him from the initial shock and decided to give him a week to solve the problem.
Bo Mouxin vowed to sever contact with the girl immediately. He also said that he told the girl that he had a family. When the girl found out, she scolded him, and they deleted their contact information.
Yanling trusted her husband and took a credit card to lend 10 million to Bo Yuanxing to do business, but how did Bo do it? He didn't sever the relationship with Tan at all. He often takes her to play, accompanies her back to her alma mater and even meets her parents in the name of business trip.
2065438+In February 2008, Bomou filed for divorce. The reason is that Yanling is too frugal with her family, she doesn't dress up, she doesn't make progress, and she is old.
After a long time, Bomou didn't even bother to play, so he just broke the jar and broke it.
In order to look younger, Bomou dyed his hair colorful and moved closer to the post-Ninth Five-Year Plan. He also chats with San Xiao on WeChat in front of Yanling every day. When his parents were sleeping, he called San Xiao in the living room and didn't go into the house to sleep until two or three in the morning.
Once, my daughter was ill and had a high fever of 40 degrees. Yanling and her parents-in-law are going to send their children to the hospital, while Dad Bo is taking a bath, washing his hair, blowing his hair and waxing in the bathroom.
The child went to the hospital for an intravenous drip, and he stayed with him until three o'clock in the afternoon, so he found a chance to escape. At this time, Yan Lingcai knew that she was dressed up in the morning just to go out with Tan at night.
Piles of them, like straw, crushed Yanling's psychological defense. In the face of Bo Yuanxing's fickleness, Yan Ling suffered from depression.
Seven years of hard work, so it's over? She can't believe that the man she once trusted so much will become so heartless because of his abandonment.
She began to eat and drink, not talking much, lost more than ten kilograms a month, and often asked for leave. Even at the company, my eyes are empty and I can't get up.
On one occasion, Yanling ran to the top floor of the community. She put her feet on the railing and planned to get it over with. But thinking of her parents and children, she flinched. Later, I heard from my colleague that someone jumped from more than 20 floors and his intestines were exposed ... Thinking that he might die without a whole body, she ruled out the way of death by jumping off a building.
She began to look for all kinds of ways to die online: 100 sleeping pills won't die; Cutting the wrist is purely a show; Drowning and hanging are very uncomfortable ... I heard that taking medicine and burning charcoal is the most comfortable way to die. She immediately bought ten kilograms of carbon online.
A friend saw that she was in a bad state and dragged Yanling to her house in case she was upset. But there are also times when a hundred secrets are sparse.
One day in April of 20 18, a guest came to my friend's house. Yanling went to the coffee shop to read a book on an excuse, and went out with her mobile phone. When I arrived at the coffee shop, it was full of very much in love couples. Yanling was very sad when she remembered what had happened to her.
Unconsciously, she took to the road. She doesn't know where she is going and feels like a lost child. On the way, the driver kept honking his horn and sticking his head out of the window. He swore angrily, but she didn't seem to hear him. .....
I don't know how long it took before she returned to the sidewalk and took a taxi home. After passing the guard room, she learned that the carbon from online shopping had arrived, so she got the carbon. As soon as she got home, she taped up the doors and windows.
At this moment, Yanling has only one dead word in her mind.
She put the charcoal in the washbasin, mixed red wine, white wine and beer, drank the prepared medicine together, turned off the mobile phone, lit the charcoal, and lay quietly in bed, and soon lost consciousness. ...
When her friend came, she saw her head fall into the carbon basin and burned beyond recognition, unconscious. She was so scared that she cried, thinking that she was dead. She called 120, only to find that she was still breathing and was rushed to the hospital for emergency treatment.
When Bomou learned that Yan Ling committed suicide, the first sentence he said was: "Dead?"
In the elevator of the hospital, Yanling lies in the car and looks at the reflection of the ceiling. It was the first time she saw herself after burning. She lost an ear, her scalp was burnt and her skull was exposed. It is fierce and terrible. ...
Later, Yan Ling learned that when 80% of her head was burned and she was fighting death in the ICU ward of Zhejiang No.2, Bomou and San Xiao Tanmou took high-profile wedding photos. ...
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Yanling wrote her own experience in Weibo. Her portrait of Weibo is a work photo, a pretty girl. For this man, now I can't look straight.
After Bo derailed, he proposed a divorce to Yanling, which finally made Yanling completely collapse.
He said, "Let's get a divorce. Have you ever thought that you might be better off with your share of the money? " You turned your back on your loved ones for me, and you don't know how to go back to face your parents. This is your death hole, so you can't lose. "
"For seven years, you may not have thought about what to do to catch me. You usually pinch pennies and don't want to spend, but do you think our family really lacks the few hundred dollars you saved? You've aged a lot in the two years since you gave birth. I always said you couldn't make up. Besides, you always say you want to learn something, but you always give up. I don't think I can push you. I offered to sell the house because I felt that since I couldn't push you, I would push myself. Let's divorce, let's live together! "
Look! Your virtue has become your original sin! Someone will buy the clothes you are reluctant to buy! You can't bear to stay in an expensive hotel, someone will stay for you! Someone will tear down your heavily guarded home!
Yan Ling's Weibo has attracted numerous comments and reposts, and love rat and San Xiao have also been pushed to the forefront of public opinion. Now, her Weibo has been quiet, just like countless news, the heat will always pass, but the days have passed and her face has been ruined. Even if she spends more money on plastic surgery, it is impossible for her to return to her original appearance.
After her accident, her parents were the hardest hit. When the doctor saw her pain, they cried on the spot. What about Yanling's daughter? After the incident, she made a video request to her mother-in-law on WeChat, wanting to see her daughter, which was ignored by her mother-in-law many times.
It was this mother-in-law who stood on Yanling's side when she first learned that her son was cheating. With the development of things, she even suggested that if Xiaosan didn't mind his family's situation, she agreed to accept Xiaosan as a daughter-in-law.
So your mother-in-law will always be your mother-in-law. If you don't cherish yourself, no one will cherish you except your parents and relatives.
Yanling's mistake is that she regards love as the whole of her life and puts all her treasures on men. She loves Bo more than herself, and she is humble to the dust for love.
For Bo, she repeatedly asked her parents for everything. She wore old clothes three years ago, but let her husband wear famous brands. She was obviously exhausted to death, took on all the housework and worked hard like an old lady.
I wonder, can she get her husband's respect like this? The answer is no.
A man loves you not by what he says, but by what he does. A man who would rather starve himself than do some housework waiting for you, why should he love you?
Even if Bomou loved her at the beginning, it is a fact to cheat. It is wise to stop the loss in time, accept the fact and adjust the mentality.
Yanling used to be a white-collar worker in the workplace, with a monthly salary of tens of thousands, her parents settled in and a lovely daughter.
If she chooses to divorce and take the money herself, she can live a better life. But she didn't adjust her state in time and finally went to the point of no return. The final result is that the relatives are painful and the enemies are quick.
Think about it, love rat cheated on her and worried about how to get rid of the original match, but she chose to commit suicide with great cooperation. If she really dies, he doesn't even have to divide the property, and he lives happily with mistress directly. This ending will make love rat want to laugh even in his dreams.
Who is the most important person in this world? The answer, of course, is yourself.
In this world, no one can trust, only oneself can trust. Please, don't forget to please the most important person-yourself before you are busy trying to win the recognition of the whole world.
Learn to like yourself and accept yourself. Living seriously is the best counterattack against love rat.