My family went through a hard time. From the outside, it seems that everyone around you is quite happy. In fact, everyone has to make a lot of efforts for this. If you want to maintain a harmonious relationship with the people around you, you can't be too strong. You often have to knock out your teeth and swallow them in your stomach. In order to have a good family environment, there are some things to make him happy even if you don't want to. If your husband is a careful person, maybe you can go your own way. If not, you should be more patient.
Don't think that patience is unbalanced. Reasonable patience can help you avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles. Don't think that you are the only one who makes sacrifices. The prince must be patient before he becomes king. If he can't bear it, not only will the emperor fail, but he may also lose his life.
Finally, what you have done for your family, even if they don't thank you, you shouldn't use it as capital to justify yourself. It is right for the younger generation to do something, and let it be an example for your children. Besides, they are all old people. What else do you want from them? As long as they are happy and healthy, you don't have to worry about them or drag you down, which is the greatest help to you.