Huang Shujun said that she is very confident in her marriage. Age is not an issue. She has a teenage wife and hopes to become a teenage husband through micro-plastic surgery. Compared with ordinary peers, Huang Shujun's facial skin was really smooth on the day of the activity. A female fan wearing a miniskirt presented flowers on the stage, and Huang Shujun smiled happily, not afraid of his wife's jealousy and beauty's enthusiasm. From talented musicians to "non-stop" draft judges; From a 12-year-old "problem child" to a 46-year-old new nanny-parents, wife and children-gave Huang Shujun the nutrients of life, helped him successfully adapt to the new role at every important stage of his life, and had the courage to continue to advance into the unknown world.
My son treats me like a mother.
In March, my son came into this world two weeks before the due date. Huang Shujun was a little alarmed, but more surprised. He not only witnessed the whole process of "miracle" in the delivery room, but also personally cut the umbilical cord for his son. Previously, Huang Shujun had heard from many friends that babies were wrinkled and ugly at birth, but to his surprise, his son looked much better than he expected, and he "cried loudly". Even the nurse said, "Oh, crying so loudly, is this child going to be a singer in the future?" The couple are in an American hospital, and people around them don't know that Huang is a musician.
In order to reassure his wife, Huang Shujun simply took a month and a half off, and stayed up late to "confinement". "I have probably done everything you can think of to take care of children." . Although the family invited a professional lunar new year, most of the "fine work" was done by him personally, such as breastfeeding. No matter during the day or in the middle of the night, the new father personally "serves" his son at least two meals every day. "In general, it is a little more in the middle of the night. As long as the child moves, I wake up. " "In the past, when I was eating on a plane or in a restaurant, I would be impatient if there were children playing around," Huang Shujun recalled. "Compared with when I was young, I am more patient now. I am calm and willing to do these things." Perhaps because she didn't get married and have children until she was 45, Huang Shujun cherished the opportunity to be a father.
The moment the baby arrives, no one knows whether he or she is clever or naughty, quiet or noisy. Fortunately, Huang Shujun's son is a sensible child and doesn't like to be emotional. "He hardly cries inexplicably. If he cries, his diaper must be wet or hungry. Very easy to bring. " Huang Shujun affectionately called his son "Little Huang Zi". Now 8-month-old Huang Zi can follow his parents everywhere. What reassured the new parents most was that his son never cried in public, embarrassing everyone. "Maybe my children are more spiritual, as they say?" During the conversation, Huang Shujun's mouth couldn't help rising, just like "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". In the eyes of parents, their children will always be the cutest little angels in the world.
Little Huang Zi can't speak yet, but he can recognize people. "My son always reacts violently when he sees me, and he knows very well that I am his father." Even though Huang Shujun didn't come home because of work for a week, as long as he appeared at home, Huang Zi Jr. would make a "sigh" sound when he heard footsteps, and at the same time, he tried to break away from others' arms and lean toward Huang Shujun. He himself described this state as "rhubarb and yellow, sit up and take notice.
At this time, Huang Shujun's wife always complains like a spoiled child: "It's all because you always breast-feed yourself when I am in confinement. Maybe now the child thinks you are his mother! "
My wife is two rounds younger than me.
Huang Shujun's wife, Zhang Jingfang, is a Chinese American who is also studying for a master's degree in medicine in California. The acquaintance of two people can only be described by fate.
At the end of the year before last, Zhang Jingfang, 2 1 year-old, went to Fuzhou to participate in the draft competition on behalf of the United States. Before a song was finished, the judge Huang Shujun made a comment: "At first, the taste was quite distinctive, but there was something wrong with the rhythm. The whole process made me feel hope, disappointment, hope and disappointment ... "Teacher Shu Jun's comments were merciless, but Zhang Jingfang who was eliminated was still polite in the competition. Huang Shujun replied to her naturally after seeing it, and she replied to him immediately. "In fact, the venue is far away, and I can only see a beautiful figure, and then I think this girl is very polite." Who knows that after going back and forth on the Internet, both sides have a heart-warming feeling for each other.
After dating for three months, they got married by lightning. Huang Shujun said afterwards: "Obedient, simple, gentle and kind. If you miss this girl, you will never find her. Before meeting her, I didn't think I needed to live alone. It was wonderful after meeting her. She was born to be my wife. " The day before getting the marriage certificate, because Zhang Jingfang joked that Huang Shujun didn't propose to herself and she still had a chance to go back on her word, Huang Shujun took her around, and as a result, she proposed to her 20 times in various scenes that day.
Husband and wife need to be considerate when they get along.
There is no so-called generation gap between husband and wife as imagined by outsiders. From the taste of food to the attitude towards people and things, the two are always the same. "I'm afraid I'm exaggerating, and others think I'm bragging, but in fact, in the process of getting along with us, all age-related problems will become a pleasure." For example, my wife often accompanied Huang Shujun to make announcements after marriage. Every time I saw a star in the same period as Huang Shujun in the background, I couldn't help but admire: "Great, I can meet the ancients!" Huang Shujun not only won't feel disgusted, but also can't help asking her: "So your husband is also an ancient person?" Once, she pointed to Chyi Chin and asked him, "Is that the singer who sings' Little Bird'?" Later, when he met Zhao Chuan, he patiently explained to her, "Look, he is the one who sings' Bird'."
For Mrs. Huang, her past and her career are a completely strange world. She often asks him all kinds of questions. In the process of answering his wife's questions one by one, Huang Shujun seems to have experienced the first half of his life again, resulting in new insights.
When they had a disagreement, Huang Shujun's first reaction was: "Ask yourself, what were you like when you were her age?" Every time he thinks like this, he will give up his persistence and ideas without hindrance. "When I was her age, I was a mess. Although she is still so naive, lively and beautiful, she is actually much more mature than me at that time. " When Huang Shujun was young, he always associated struggle, pursuit and suffering, but at this stage, nothing is more important than happiness. He always asks her, "If you are happy, just do it." In his view, getting along between husband and wife is a process of understanding, and there is no desire to win or lose at all. "This has nothing to do with age. There are so many divorced couples who are similar in age and talent to others, but if they don't have that tacit understanding, they can't be happy together no matter how good they are. "
I have a teenage mother.
If you have met Huang Shujun's mother, you will suddenly realize why he chose his wife, because they are all "naive, lively and beautiful". Huang Mu is 72 years old and has been a housewife all her life. In Huang Shujun's words, "She is a girl who will never grow up, and her girlhood lasts for 60 years." In Huang Shujun's mind, her mother is a good mother who loves her children very much and takes good care of them. "But she never talks about anything big, only about some daily bits and pieces." Huang Fu is an ordinary civil servant, seven years apart from his wife. "He loved his wife all his life. He asked his mother to be a person who was not suppressed and pampered her like a child. "
Huang Shujun naturally thought that "mother" should be like his own mother and wife. It was not until he became a judge of the reality show Mamma Mia that his definition of "mother" changed-most of the mothers in the show had a bumpy past, and they sang songs on the stage, telling the disharmony with their husbands or unhappiness with their families, which made him discover that there were so many kinds of "mothers" in the world. What moved Huang Shujun most was, "They all have one thing in common, that is, they still pursue life."
Huang Shujun said, we always think that singing a song is very simple, but for the mothers in Mamma Mia, those short minutes are the export of life and an opportunity to prove their worth.
Father "can't ask"
When Huang Shujun 12 years old, he was already a "problem child"-there were endless questions every day, and in these thirty or forty years, Huang Fu tried his best to answer his son's wild questions every day, and he was almost never asked by his son.
In Huang Shujun's eyes, his father treated himself as patiently as his mother. For example, regarding "Do you want to drink milk", the father actually spent 10 years telling his son about the benefits of drinking milk; For example, when Huang Shujun was 30 years old, he still didn't know what he was doing. He asked his father, "How smart do you think I am? What can I do? " Faced with such an abstract question, my father can even answer very seriously: "The bigger you have to do, the later you will know what you have to do."
Sometimes, my father will take the initiative to "find" problems for Huang Shujun. He still remembers that year he signed a contract with a record company to be a singer. After returning home, his father magically took out a can of facial cleanser. "Brother, you should use this to wash your face in the future, which is good for your skin." In order to help his son, the father will silently care about the artist's maintenance secrets.
"Until three years ago, he finally couldn't answer this question," Huang Shujun was very sad. "Later, I discovered that my father couldn't answer many questions I asked when I was a child, just because he felt that as a father, he had to give his children an answer." Huang Shujun thanked his father for never letting himself feel depressed, nor would he perfunctory and say, "Don't ask questions!" Because for a child, the answer to the question is never the key. It is the key that parents choose to face their children's problems with a positive or negative attitude.
Huang Shujun will treat his children as parents treat themselves. "I have to be friends with children since I was three years old, not father and son. I won't force him to instill anything. In the future, everyone may go to work on the moon. What can we teach him? "
Happy marriage
On March 20th, 20 1 1, Cecilia Cheung and I got married in the United States.
As for Mei Jiao Niang, Huang Shujun commented: "She is the girl of my dreams, even beyond my imagination. She can be described as' beautiful and kind, smart and simple, affectionate and stubborn' by the lyrics in my "He De He Neng". I am very lucky to find her. "
Huang Shujun wrote a message on Weibo: "Yes, my dust has settled. Whether I cry or laugh, I thank everyone for their blessings and guidance. I hope that in the future, even if the road is long, I will not forget my sweet original intention. Thank you in chorus! " Give everyone a call, and he has since entered a new stage of his life.