1. Observe carefully and prescribe the right medicine

Children are rebellious. On the one hand, children understand more and more things and have more ideas in their hearts. When the orders given by parents are different from the child's inner thoughts, he will not listen to his parents. On the other hand, parents are not aware of their children's bad emotions, and directly yell at them after discovering certain problems, which aggravates their rebellious mood and leads them to rebel against their parents. Therefore, if you want to cure your child's disobedience, you must first find the root cause and prescribe the right medicine.

2. Use other forms to replace beating and scolding

Although we are now a civilized society, when it comes to educating children, some parents still pursue the concept of "filial sons will emerge from the stick" . However, beating and scolding can have a short-term effect and can also cause children to have a rebellious mentality. Therefore, beating and scolding is not the best way to educate children.

For example: when a child is disobedient and litters, you can choose to let the child help with housework. On the one hand, the child can understand that doing housework is very hard and they cannot destroy the sanitary environment at will; on the other hand, you can let the child Realize your mistakes more deeply. When a child is disobedient, using other forms of punishment instead of beating and scolding will have unexpected effects.

3. Make good use of rewards rather than punishment

When children are disobedient and do not do their homework, parents can choose to use a certain reward mechanism to encourage their children to complete their homework, such as finishing their homework You can allow your child to watch cartoons for half an hour or play games for half an hour. This will make him more motivated to complete his homework.

If parents only know how to yell at their children or threaten them with punishment, they will gradually lose interest in learning. Therefore, for children, it is more effective for parents to make good use of rewards than to blindly use punishment.

4. Set rules

Children are curious about the world and even a little "bold", but they do not know what they should do and what they should not do. Parents are required to set certain rules for their children. There is no rule without rules, and the same goes for educating children. When children clearly know what behaviors they should not do and understand that they are responsible for doing wrong things, this will reduce their misbehavior.

5. Control emotions and listen to children’s ideas

When a child is disobedient, parents need to understand the reason for his disobedience and respect his ideas. Often when something happens, parents' first reaction is to blame, forgetting their children's inner thoughts.

As adults, parents have much better emotional management skills than children. Even so, there are still situations where emotions are out of control, not to mention a child with an immature mind. Therefore, parents must learn to respect and recognize their children's emotions, and take their children's feelings into consideration when rejecting their requests.

Children’s ideas cannot always be consistent with their parents’ ideas. When a child’s ideas are contrary to their parents’, parents should respect their children’s ideas and do not use “disobedient” to define their children. Parents, like their children, are also learning, but children learn how to get along with the world, while parents learn how to get along with their children. Educational concepts are bound to change with the times. If parents still stick to the old rules and don't know how to adapt, it will be counterproductive.

A child who "obeys everything" may not necessarily be outstanding, and if he only listens to the opinions of his elders no matter what the situation, he will gradually lose the ability to think independently. Therefore, when parents find that their children are "disobedient", they should control their emotions and view their children's resistance with a peaceful attitude. At the same time, parents need to communicate effectively with their children frequently. After all, only by exchanging ideas can parents and children make progress together.