The landlord is also very powerful. I haven't seen my father-in-law since I got married. I admire you! From your description alone, it seems that your relationship is not very deep. And your ideas are too far apart. One wants to break through and the other wants to be stable. If you love her enough, go to Beijing with her. If she loves you enough, she can sacrifice the opportunity of graduate school for you and go back to her hometown to find a stable job. If there is a real conflict between career and family, one party must give in, otherwise there is no way to live together. As for the old father-in-law's idea, it's really hard to guess. After all, I don't know this person, so I dare not talk nonsense. If you want to know my father-in-law's real thoughts, then find someone he respects and let this person ask for you, and everything will be clear. Shenzhen Huayi Tiancheng wishes you good luck!