Is it pitiful that a woman is ugly? Everyone has his own shortcomings and advantages. Looks can be changed the day after tomorrow, but bad looks must be pitiful? In this society, looks are very important, but they can't decide everything. Let me give you a brief understanding of whether a woman is ugly or poor.

Is it pitiful that a woman is ugly? 1 Choose between ugliness and stupidity. What do you choose?

I choose to be stupid. When you are stupid, others suffer. When you are ugly, it is you who are sad.

I brushed an old Korean drama "Let's Eat Together" these days.

Then he was taken out of the play by the lawyer played by Do-Yeon Lee countless times.

It's not that Do-Yeon Lee looks different from the popular aesthetic standards, but that she looks a bit like a classmate in my memory.

However, I remember that classmate because she is ugly.

The face is big, the eyes are small, the corners of the eyes are drooping, the corners of the mouth are drooping, the nose is flat, and there is almost no chin from the side.

Do-Yeon Lee is actually much more beautiful than her.

That female classmate and I have only been together for less than a semester.

I don't even remember her full name, only vaguely remember her surname Wang.

Teacher Wang probably transferred to our class in the second semester of junior high school.

Her arrival caused a sensation at the scene, and she won the title of the ugliest girl in the school.

What impressed me most was that after school, several foreign students blocked the school gate and said they wanted to see what the ugliest girl in our school looked like.

Then, some students in our school volunteered and waited at the school gate with a group of people.

When a classmate Wang, who was walking with his head down, walked out of the school gate, a group of people surrounded him with laughter.

Wang was so scared that he cried. He squatted down and buried his head in his schoolbag.

Then, there was a scene that I will never forget.

There is a boy in our school who grabs Wang's hair with one hand and holds her neck with the other, and cries for everyone to see.

Wang has not been to school since this incident.

We thought she had transferred to another school, but according to the teacher, she couldn't resist the endless humiliation of people around her and dropped out of school at home.

This incident gave me a great shock. I still remember that her hair was caught like an exhibit when she was showing it to people.

So helpless, so desperate.

At that time, she looked like an artificial monster in mary shelley's novel Frankenstein.

Ugliness has become a sin in her.

Among those who bullied her, ugliness became the slogan that everyone should punish.

The difference is that Wang doesn't have the power of a monster to strangle the person who humiliated and hurt her.

Think of one thing.

Zhang Qun, a graduate of Hubei University of Traditional Chinese Medicine majoring in Clinical Chinese and Western Medicine, obtained the qualification of 20 18 postgraduate re-examination of Huazhong University of Science and Technology with a total score of 335 (300 in the initial test).

Among the 22 students who took part in the re-examination, Zhang Qun ranked first in the initial examination.

However, two days later, the school called to inform her that the second interview was unsuccessful.

According to Zhang Qun himself:

"As expected, it's all because of this scar on my face (a big dark red birthmark)."

A 24-year-old girl, who won the first place in the initial test, achieved excellent academic performance, but was brushed off by the school because of her appearance during the second interview.

If this thing is true, it would really be a tragedy.

Not to mention whether the situation is true or not, but Zhang Qun's "expected" really makes people's eyes red.

Imagine how desperate a girl, growing up, must be to face many words and deeds, attacks, discrimination and injustice from others, so that she will have this unexpected consciousness of being brushed off after taking the first grade exam.

It is said that Zhang Qun, who failed in the postgraduate entrance examination, applied for many jobs one after another, and was turned away without exception.

Zhang Qun said:

Although the employer did not clearly state the reasons for rejecting her, she could feel that she was discriminated against by her appearance as if she had been brushed out of the postgraduate entrance examination!

I remember Jiang said such a passage:

For today's young people, the life that can be seen at a glance is a very secure luxury life. You must work very hard or be very smart to live a mediocre life.

However, if you work hard and are smart enough to live a mediocre life, you have to add a premise:

Not too ugly.

A person's appearance affects a person in almost all aspects, affecting your life, your social life and your career. ...

And because you are ugly, no one cares about your voice and no one can understand it. ...

People who don't look beautiful don't deserve sympathy and help.

But the hardest hit by looks discrimination is actually the love that everyone yearns for most.

I saw a girl posting on Zhihu that said:

The biggest bitter fruit of appearance is inferiority complex.

The sense of inferiority that you can't get rid of at all may last for a lifetime.

Especially in love, good-looking girls can be spoiled, and ugly girls can only be sensible.

Even jealous possessiveness must be careful not to be known by others. On the surface, it's nothing. I can't wait to delete all the girls who have relations with him.

Ugliness is the original sin, which makes your love full of suspicion, doubt and jealousy. ...

I have also heard a heartfelt joke: ugliness is a disease, otherwise how can a plastic surgery place be called a hospital?

Is ugliness the original sin?

Is ugliness a disease?

My answer is, neither!

But it brings no less pain and despair than the most terrible disease.

A person whose appearance doesn't conform to the public aesthetics has the same feeling of beauty and frustration in the face of the world as a mediocre person.

She must admit the last thing she wants to admit and bear everything she can.

There is no other way.

What if you are ugly?

In fact, people who have this kind of trouble, or have been troubled for a long time, still have to work hard on their mentality and actions.

Ma Yun and other big brothers were also brushed because of their looks.

Have you ever heard Hawking complain about his appearance?

In the final analysis, it is difficult to be ugly, but part of the reason why people are ugly may be that they work too little and think too beautifully.

If you want to change this situation, focus on what you can change, work hard where you can change, and try to shift your attention to your strengths and advantages!

For example, work hard on figure, talent and personal hobbies.

However, in this world, in fact, not many people will be very ugly, and not many people will be absolutely beautiful. Most people look ordinary.

Just like Do-Yeon Lee's lawyer in Let's Have Dinner.

In addition to moving people, it is more about giving people the power of "even if the whole world gives up on you, you have no reason to give up on yourself".

There is no denying that ugliness is an inherent disadvantage in this world of looking at faces. And outstanding looks, especially when a person is at the bottom of the food chain, can make most people feel good about you and give you more good feelings, even bread.

But what needs to be remembered is that appearance advantage is only a passive skill, representing a single value. Under such values, a person's production, creation and inner nature are easily overlooked.

Everyone with normal intelligence should attach importance to spiritual growth.

In addition, in order to stay beautiful, don't expose your birth defects. In fact, who has no shortcomings?

A cruel reality is that no matter how beautiful a face is, it can't stand growing old day by day.

To put it bluntly, it is to look at the face, but there are many standards to measure a person's value in this world, and appearance is only the least important one among all the standards.

Ugliness is never the opposite of beauty.

Ugliness is real, beauty is real, and focal length and aesthetics are different.

Is it pitiful that a woman is ugly? There are too many factors that determine the state of life itself, and your appearance is not big enough to decide everything. Take Wang Sicong as an example. Is it true that Wang Jianlin's son must be more dominant than handsome and ugly?

And for "girls are ugly, will it be very pitiful?" Let's break this problem down: "ugliness" is the cause, "bitterness" is the result, and the cause of this problem exists in reality, and the result is people's inner perception. Since the result is people's inner perception, the result of this question depends entirely on your own mentality.

I think the answers in many comment areas are very sad and pitiful, but in fact, it may not only be the appearance, but also the main problem.

You don't need to pursue absolute beauty, you just need to dress yourself up as a neat, clean and elegant person, you don't need to rely on your face to eat, and you don't need to be too beautiful (is Tang Jing tall in face or temperament? ) Then it is to beautify the connotation. Extraordinary talk will make people look up, and then you will find that you have an interesting soul, so you won't care too much about your appearance. Then you look at this question and laugh it off.

But one thing I think it is necessary to point out here is that some morbid psychology in the current society is also worthy of our deep thinking. People always attach more importance to the pursuit of certain materials or money and appearance than to the pursuit of self, truth and freedom.

In addition, I have also read some tragic stories about my brothers and sisters who are not as good-looking as cattle and horses at home. In fact, people who have this idea first of all, your thinking is not comprehensive. Appearance can affect your situation, but it cannot be a decisive factor. There are many factors that determine your present situation, such as the enforced traditional virtue of China, "You are older than your brother and sister". Perhaps your spirit of "Mr. Nice guy" makes you unable to refuse things you don't want to do. When everyone has taken your contribution as a habit and a matter of course, it has caused your current unhappiness.

I can only say that everyone's life is earned by themselves, and your parents gave you life. Besides, never take it for granted that others are willing to pay for you, which means you are worthy, and you should take it for granted that others are unwilling.

Don't complain, be yourself, you have to believe that all the people who appear in your life in this world are meaningful, even those who bring you pain are teaching you how to grow up and how to be strong.