For each of us, marriage is a happy and sacred moment. When we reach the legal age, we can choose our favorite partner to hold a wedding and spend the rest of our lives. There is no requirement that men and women must There is no standard answer to the age gap between marriage partners.

Generally speaking, due to the physical and mental development patterns of men and women, men will develop later than women, which means that women will start to age earlier than men, so in reality In life, boys usually choose women who are younger than themselves to get married. Firstly, it conforms to the laws of physical and mental development, and secondly, the two of them can get along more harmoniously. It is suitable for marriage after all.

But there are no absolutes. Emotional matters are the most mysterious and elusive. It’s like you don’t know what will happen tomorrow. Emotions are also unpredictable and have no rules. They exist in various ways. There are various possibilities, but as long as two people truly love each other, everything is so natural.

Generally, when a wife is a few years older than her husband, she is not favored by others and feels that the relationship will not go far. However, with the development of the times, people gradually begin to accept such a combination of couples, and some even As the saying goes, a female junior holds gold bricks to describe a marriage in which the wife is several years older than the husband. But what if the wife is more than ten or even twenty years older than her husband? I believe many people will find it difficult to accept this.

A 23-year-old man in Chongqing married a 46-year-old aunt despite his family's objections

The two have been married for five years now. How is it now?

This young man’s name is Xiao Tan. He is a chef in a hotel. One of his hobbies is cycling. As a young man, he really likes to enjoy the beautiful scenery of nature while riding a bicycle, so he When he is not working, he rides his beloved bicycle to travel around and take photos. It was this kind of hobby that made him meet his favorite other half, Aunt Li.

The 46-year-old Ms. Li has worked in hospitals for many years and is now the deputy chief physician of a hospital. She also likes cycling, and the two of them also joined a cyclist chat group together. Here, by chance, the two people started chatting. They both had many similar topics and ideas, so the more they chatted, the more they became more and more speculative.

Gradually, they became "good friends" who talked about everything. Although the two chatted happily on the Internet, they never met in real life, so as time passed, Xiao Tan felt very itchy in his heart. He really wanted to meet this "female netizen" who had such a happy chat with him online. So Xiao Tan proposed to meet.

How come Aunt Li, who is almost fifty years old, still doesn’t understand what Xiao Tan means? Although she is older, as a high-quality talent, she also knows a lot about things on the Internet. She feels that she She is married, now 46 years old, and has a child. She is afraid of scaring the child when they meet the young and energetic 23-year-old Xiao Tan.

So after Xiao Tan asked to meet, Aunt Li took the initiative to explain her situation to Xiao Tan, so as not to inadvertently hurt the young boy's sensitive heart. Sure enough, when Xiao Tan learned about Aunt Li's After the situation, I was really scared. Because he always thought that the opposite person was a sports-loving girl about his age.

He was silent for a long time, constantly fighting in his heart. Recalling every detail of the pleasant chat, Xiao Tan couldn't calm down for a long time, and finally he chose to still meet Aunt Li. He didn't care about age or children, he just wanted to meet the woman who touched his heart like this.

After the two people met as scheduled, they did not have difficulty communicating because of the age gap, nor did they scare each other away because of their appearance. Instead, the two people communicated smoothly like old friends who have known each other for many years. Neither of them mentioned what happened before they met.

As the saying goes, things get familiar again. After meeting for the first time, the two got along much more smoothly. They even participated in a cycling competition together. What happened during the competition made these two people get along much better. The two people's hearts have been tightly connected since then.

The hospital escorts sparked love and held hands smoothly

On the day of the competition, Aunt Li accidentally fell down due to brake failure. Xiao Tan, who was riding in front, looked back and saw this scene. Without hesitation, he turned the car around, gave up the race, and went to the hospital with Aunt Li in his arms. Later, the doctor said it was a fracture and required surgery and hospitalization. During this period, Xiao Tan was by his side throughout the whole process, taking care of Aunt Li.

The meticulous care during this period of hospitalization moved the 46-year-old Aunt Li instantly. After being discharged from the hospital, she confessed loudly to Xiao Tan. Aunt Li opened her mouth, but never said any more words of rejection. Not coming out, Xiao Tan finally agreed, and the two got together smoothly.

The man’s parents were firmly opposed and caused a scene at the woman’s workplace

But even if two people are together and want to get married, they still have to go through a very difficult hurdle, which is Xiao Tan’s parents. This way. Xiao Tan's parents were furious when they learned that their son had found a woman who was 23 years older than him. They strongly opposed the marriage between Xiao Tan and Aunt Li. After all, this woman was not much worse than Xiao Tan's mother. So they don't agree with anything.

But the two elders’ firm opposition did not make Xiao Tan back down. Regardless of his parents’ objections, he resolutely registered his marriage with Aunt Li. Even after they got married, Xiao Tan’s parents still found it difficult to accept it. , kept going to Aunt Li's hospital to make trouble, but every time Aunt Li patiently did the work of the second husband, and at the same time comforted her little husband, don't worry, she will handle it well.

Faced with such a sensible daughter-in-law, after the two elders vented their anger several times, they didn’t know where to direct their anger. As time went by, they gradually recognized this older daughter-in-law. Although Xiao Tan's parents sometimes still show their integrity in the face of everyone's disapproval, overall things have gotten much better and it does not affect their lives.

And they said that when they first chose to be together, they decided that their marriage would be a topic for everyone to talk about after dinner. Their family didn’t approve of it, so why did they expect no blessing, so they just accepted it. The other person's unique love and affectionate love are enough to support them in persevering. Don't care what others think.

Five years later, their love is still as fresh as ever

Now, five years later, Xiao Tan left the hotel shortly after getting married. With the help of Aunt Li, he started He opened his own car beauty shop. He also wanted to earn more for himself and his wife, and wanted to give Aunt Li a better and happy life. As for Aunt Li, five years have passed and she is now in her fifties. Time has left many marks on her face.

Although her little husband is less than thirty, Aunt Li knows that Xiao Tan’s love for her has not been shaken by the change in her appearance. On the contrary, in the past five years, Xiao Tan’s love for her has not been shaken. Tan has become more mature and stable, and the relationship between the couple has become smoother and smoother. The two still love each other deeply.

The two often ride bicycles together, exercise together, enjoy the beautiful scenery and take photos together.

Problems that "old women and young husbands" need to pay attention to

The age gap is really not a problem, meeting is fate, falling in love is understanding, although the wedding of Xiao Tan and Aunt Li did not Blessed by most people, but whether everyone is happy or not does not need others to evaluate, only they themselves know.

Although I believe that Xiao Tan and Aunt Li are very much in love, they also have problems that need to be solved in the process of getting along. I believe these are also issues that many families with "a girl who is older and a boy who is younger" need to pay attention to

1. Give birth to a child early

This is probably the primary demand of both families. Because if the woman is older than the man, then after a while, she may miss the best childbearing age. Therefore, after getting married, you must reach the consciousness of having children as soon as possible. If conflicts arise due to having children, raising the children together through marriage can allow both people to mature together, which is conducive to the stability of the emotional family.

2. Correct role positioning

Sister-brother love, or even mother-son love, although there may be a lot of age difference, when you are in love, you must put aside all the roles of the other person. In the back of my mind, I just treat the other person as an ordinary couple and communicate in the same way as a couple. I should not think that the other person has to play the role of a sister or that the other person is a younger brother and must listen to me in everything. This kind of love will last for a long time. Something will go wrong. In addition to good communication, you should also focus on accompanying each other in daily interactions to avoid emotional alienation.

3. Express your love romantically

The loss of novelty is a problem that every couple will face, especially in the relationship between sister and brother, mother and child, it is even more noteworthy. The problem is that the woman is older than the man, and it is more difficult to maintain her own charm. Therefore, in order to maintain the beauty of the relationship, you need to learn to create romance. Every day when you face each other, you have to tell each other that you are more likeable today than you were yesterday. Sister-brother love and mother-son love are actually very stable relationships, because the relationship between them is really much better than that of couples of the same age and brother-sister couples. Their families seem to be happier and more stable. At least rarely when it comes to divorce.