And some of these "Mr. Dong Guo" will ask themselves how they were deceived by wolves. However, in fact, the "little people" who are rhetoric are often the people around us. They are not real villains, they just want to eat our hair and blood like "hungry wolves". Many years ago, there was a smash hit group "Parents are evil" on the Internet. The members of the group were outspoken about their parents' behavior, and many members spoke too much, which led to the group being banned later.
Why do close relatives make these people have so much suffering to say and so much heartfelt words? Perhaps, you really have to feel them in person to understand that some people have made a lot of efforts to survive.
Jingjing is a lively and enterprising girl in the eyes of her colleagues. Less than five years after I arrived at the company, I saved a down payment to buy a house. Everyone wants to know the secret of her earning money, but she just smiled and said that she was only used to saving money since she was a child and had no desire to spend money. When I first heard her say this, my colleagues still thought that she pretended to be lofty, but it was not until one day that her parents went to the office that everyone realized that the girl said that the clouds were light and the wind was light, but in fact she was under great pressure.
One day Jingjing came back from running a customer. She saw the girl at the front desk of the company coming in a hurry and told herself that there were two people waiting for her in the meeting room, saying that she had something important to negotiate with. The little girl at the front desk kept reminding Jingjing if she needed any help. Jingjing had already guessed who it was, because her parents had been calling for money some time ago, saying that their hometown was going to build a house. However, Jingjing has been refusing to allow remittance. It is estimated that her parents are waiting for her now, and she must have come to criticize.
"Dad, mom, why are you here ..." Jingjing has adjusted her state and smiled at them. "How did we come? I called you and kept saying we were busy. If we didn't come, would you have been avoiding us? " Jingjing guessed right. "I didn't avoid you. I am really busy these days. " Jingjing's father saw that his daughter had actually started talking to herself and stared at him. "What's the matter? It's bigger than building a new house in my hometown! I don't think you should go to this class, just come back to my hometown with me! "
Jingjing has never felt the love of her parents since she was a child. She has a younger brother who is one year younger than her, so she has always played many roles in the eyes of her parents. She is my brother's nanny, piggy bank and punching bag, but she is not my parents' daughter.
She didn't know about "son preference" until she went to college. She used to take this for granted, because her parents told her to make way for her brother everywhere when she was young, and she must think of her brother first. However, after entering the society, Jingjing realized that this deformed love of her parents has always been a kind of personality obliteration.
Parents have never recognized their success. My brother is ignorant and idle. In the eyes of his parents, he is still lucky, and he is eager to study and work hard. In the eyes of his parents, he is a "money-losing commodity that will marry sooner or later".
"The house in my hometown is not good. It's only been decorated for a few years. Why should I rebuild? " Jingjing still wants to discuss this matter seriously with her parents. "Of course, our neighbors have decorated and built two-story buildings around us. Only our home is still a bungalow, so how can your brother find a daughter-in-law? When the matchmaker comes to the door, he looks down on us. " Father is still talking about the benefits of building a new house, and mother echoes it from time to time.
Jingjing really doesn't listen to a word. In this future plan, there is not a word about her. Regarding the future of her parents and her brother, she has never considered her daughter and sister. Jingjing just feels chilling. Why is she born in such a family? Other people's daughters are princesses, but she is like dirt.
"No money, I just bought a suite myself." Jingjing originally wanted to hide it, but at this time, if there is no reasonable reason, her parents will be adamant and will not stop until they get the money. "It's useless for girls to want a house. It is better to sell it to your brother to build a house and get married! " My parents saw Jingjing actually buy a house and thought they were still rich.
"Impossible, I don't want to move around again, I want to have my own home." Jingjing almost cried when she said "home" because she felt that she really didn't have a home. "You want a house, find a man married. If you buy a house now, the money will not become someone else's when you get married. " Jingjing saw that her parents were still paying attention to her house. "My house has been notarized, even if it is married, it is pre-marital property."
Dad saw Jingjing and said it was a slap in the face. The dispute just now attracted the onlookers of Jingjing's colleagues, and the small conference room was instantly crowded with a group of people. Jingjing's mother suddenly burst into tears when she saw this scene. "If you have money, you don't know how to honor your parents and care about your brother. All you care about is enjoyment. You bought a big house in a big city, but no one cares about the broken house in your hometown. "
Jingjing saw her mother turn black and white so upside down, which was a moral kidnapping. Afraid of being misunderstood by her colleagues, she argued, "You are talking nonsense. The house in my hometown has just been renovated, and I took the 50,000 yuan for the renovation! "
"I have raised you so much that you don't want to pay for building a house. Your brother dropped out of high school to pay for your college tuition. Originally promised, it's all up to you to build a house and marry a daughter-in-law. As a result, reading and reading finally turned into this pair of six parents disowning. It' s really awkward. " Jingjing's parents echoed each other and vowed to discredit Jingjing's image in the company.
"He was expelled from school for fighting, and since I was an adult, have you given me a penny? I earned my tuition during the winter and summer vacations. And after work, I send money home every month. It should be enough for you to build a house after saving for so many years, but what about the money? As soon as I remit money to you, you will give it to your precious son. He is not in the mood to work hard until now. "
Jingjing's parents saw that importune was useless, so they planned to influence her with affection. "Daughter, it's useless to be a parent, but your brother is in his twenties, so you can't bear to watch him stay single?" In that case, where should my parents' faces go? "Say that finish, the old couple began to cry. Colleagues also advised Jingjing that no matter what she did, she was her parents and relatives whose blood was thicker than water.
Jingjing was really angry to see that everyone wanted to make peace with herself, but she also understood them, because she didn't know how much they had suffered in order to save money to buy a house. Add some salt to the fresh noodles, and she can eat them for months.
"You want me to sell you a house, never, never dream!" Jingjing's father saw her resolute appearance and raised his hand to slap her, but Jingjing dodged the slap. She suffered too much since she was a child. Now she just wants to have a home of her own and want to escape from her family. "I won't sell my house, ever!" Jingjing said this sentence categorically, as if the grievances of so many years had become the strength to support her. For so long, she defied her parents for the first time and refused to help her brother for the first time.
"You don't kidnap me morally again. Even if you make trouble again today, I won't promise. It is impossible to build a house. If you continue to make trouble, I will lose my job in the end, and you will never see any money again! Just point to your idle good son to give you a pension. " It is useless for parents to look at soft and hard means, and Jingjing's malicious words are also released. If the stalemate continues, there will be no result, and they can only fly away with their luggage.
After they left, Jingjing told me that she hid in the toilet and cried for a long time, as if all the grievances for so many years were in tears. No matter how hard and tired she is, she can bear it, but she can't stand her parents looking at herself with disgust. Because of the gender difference, she has to endure so many unfair treatments.
I also sympathize with Jingjing, sympathize with her experience and understand her grievances. But such a thing, Jingjing is not the first or the last. This kind of thing happens every day We once talked about how terrible it was to meet Voldemort when we got married.
However, every such person has a distorted parent-child relationship behind them, and they are also helpless. They have lived in such an environment since childhood, which makes them accustomed to paying everywhere and taking a back seat everywhere. But such false kindness forced us to become "Mr. Dong Guo".
Some people may ask whether this kind of thing is unique to us. In a civilized society in the west, will things be fairer and sincere efforts be rewarded? However, Aesop's fables in the west also tell the story of "the farmer and the snake". Different cultures and backgrounds tell the same truth.
Kindness should always be used on people who know how to be grateful. If there is no distinction between black and white, it is easy to be used by people like "hungry wolves" and "evil snakes". Good intentions also pursue "good deeds" rather than ignorant efforts. No matter whether this person is male or female, don't be "Mr. Dong Guo" who is kind and doesn't distinguish good from evil.