A truly happy woman is characterized by economic independence, which is the most important prerequisite for a happy life. This does not mean that you have inexhaustible money, but that when you lose your parents, husband and children, you have the ability to guarantee your most basic life. Therefore, the first thing Luo Zijun did when she divorced was to find a job to support herself. You have income, and you don't have to reach out to others for help, which means that you have basic freedom to do what you want and what you don't want to do; I can afford what I want to buy, such as clothes and skin care products that are out of season, eating out with friends, being generous with AA, and occasionally traveling to places I want to go without looking at other people's faces. Even better, you have your own small house. The famous writer Woolf said, "If a woman wants to write, she'd better have her own room." In fact, this is true not only for women who write, but also for any woman. So you have a place to go when you quarrel with your husband and a place to go when you want to be alone. A small house provides you with a sense of security, which is the most powerful backer that women can choose instead of choosing. Besides delaying economic independence, the most important thing for women is to be able to control their own time. A person's life is actually made up of countless days. Being able to live a good life every day is actually a good life. The best way I can think of to control time is to stop procrastinating. Try to think about it, how many things in our daily life are ruined by delay? Because of the delay, I postponed my candlelight dinner appointment with my husband on Friday night; I missed the train because of the delay; Because of procrastination, are those things that were originally intended to be completed and dreams that have been completed still lying in the drawer? Finish the work as soon as possible and get off work early; Get up early to prepare for the appointment; If we all do what we want, we should set aside something to do every day. Life will be much better if we can all do what we should do within the specified time. If you control your time, you control your life. Keep exercising. What are the best cosmetics and skin care products for women? Actually, it's sports. For women, beauty can be said to be a lifelong career. The best way to keep beautiful is not cosmetic surgery and expensive skin care products, but exercise. The benefits of exercise to people may not be much different in their twenties, but as time goes by, we can see how important exercise is to a woman. A woman who can keep exercising will keep her figure better and her mental state will be better. The older you get, the more obvious the benefits, such as less painful torture, more optimistic and peaceful mood, more positive attitude and so on. Insist on exercise, not to say how much exercise, but to have exercise habits. You can go out for a walk, play ball, climb mountains, run and even dance in square dance every week. If you want to look younger and prettier than your peers, start exercising now. Regularly tidying clothes often says that your state is reflected in the details of your life. In fact, there are many scientific evidences. Take women's wardrobes as an example. A messy wardrobe may show the owner's careless personality, but it may also show the owner's bad living habits, complicated mood and hectic life. Not only the state of people will affect the state of the environment, but the environment will in turn affect people's mental state. A clean and tidy wardrobe can remind women how beautiful an orderly and healthy life is. When changing seasons, you can wash and dry clothes that you don't wear for a short time and put them in a special storage box or bag, which can not only prevent clothes from falling, but also better maintain clothes and ensure the cleanliness of the room. Clothes that can no longer be used can be sorted out and put into the clothes recycling bin. At present, there are clothes recycling bins in communities of many cities in China, or there are similar places to recycle clothes in cities. I sometimes think that clothes are a woman's closest companion, your underwear knows your figure best, and clothes made of various materials help you to modify your figure and keep out the cold. They deserve to be properly placed with a gentle heart. A woman who treats her private affairs with a gentle heart is especially gentle. Read for half an hour before going to bed. If a woman is like wearing armor during the day, fighting with work and interacting with the world, then when she is washed, one hour before going to bed is the time for a woman to get along with herself. If a woman wants to be in good shape, she needs to spend a little time with herself every day. Let yourself return to the truth and ask you, are you happy? Happiness? Let the messy mood calm down. You can keep a diary and write down those touching moments, touching things and some feelings. You can also read books for a while-stories, essays, novels, fairy tales, picture books, to make yourself happy and gain something. Lin Qingxuan, a famous writer, said that he would read a book for a while before going to bed every night, and go to bed when he saw something that touched his heart, so that he would fall asleep with a sense of satisfaction. So the day ended happily. If work provides us with an economic foundation, then hobbies can create many interesting and beautiful moments for us in our daily life. Especially the hobby that I have persisted for many years and can bring. I have a friend who plays the guitar very well. Friends go to the seaside to watch the sunset and sunrise. In the dead of night and the sound of the waves, he took out his guitar and played a cantata. This is really a wonderful moment. At Christmas, he will hold a small concert at home and order songs he wants to listen to with three or five friends. He practiced in advance. With beer and cake, we had many wonderful moments, which were much more interesting than simply eating and KTV. A friend is good at making cakes. Every time a friend has a birthday, she will carefully prepare a small cake at home, which is completely different from what she bought in the market, with distinctive taste and shape. I hid my heart in this cake, and many friends were very happy to receive such gifts. Cultivate a good hobby by heart, add a touch of bright color to ordinary life, open up another world after work, and make like-minded friends. If you stay in an environment for a long time, you will always feel bored and feel that life is boring. In fact, what we need may just be a walk in the distance. Gao said that in addition to daily life, we also need poetry and distance. I have an experience that you will love your daily life more after going to poetry and far away. After traveling for more than ten days, I will miss my nest. As Chen Qizhen sang in "The Meaning of Travel": "You leave me, this is the meaning of travel", and leaving the present daily life may be the meaning of travel. Travel twice a year to see the natural beauty, or go around the city, experience the people in the market and see how others live in such a big world. Jiang Xun once said: "When you travel, you see different landscapes, different people and lifestyles, which will make you better understand your current culture and life and examine your own culture with different cultures." This can also explain why many people go out to travel when they are unhappy, and their mentality will improve when they come back. If you can't do it in a short time, reading, writing, chatting, accompanying, sharing, singing and drawing are all very good methods-as long as it can change your life and avoid mental rigidity and numbness. People with like-minded friends are gregarious animals, living in various relationships, relatives, friends and lovers. Among them, relatives can't choose, and friends can choose by themselves. What kind of friends you choose can determine your life to some extent. Love is hard to find. No matter how old I am, a group of like-minded and sincere friends is the most precious to me. Whether you are single or in love, especially after marriage, you should set aside special time for your friends. It can be a warm afternoon tea, open your heart, relax and chat, pour out your troubles, share your feelings about life, or share a list of useful things in life; Or travel together, get together regularly, do interesting things, and feel rich emotions such as happiness and passion together. Encouraging each other when you are young is the same as motivation and growth. In my later years, it is not a pleasure to have a sunset tour group and see the outside world together. A truly happy woman 2 The characteristics of a truly happy woman believe in love. No matter what emotional turmoil and harm it has experienced, it still believes in love and expects true love. They are smiling, never giving in, never persistent, and they are brave and firm when they love. With the right person, life is happy and satisfied. It is their greatest happiness to wake up and open their eyes every day, and their lover and sunshine are there. Women who know how to show weakness are made of water. A woman who is too tough will turn herself into cement and make people unable to cherish it. Knowing how to show weakness in front of the right person can make men cherish it more. Living requires skill. For lovers, proper coquetry is fun, which can not only exude your femininity, but also make the other person feel needed. When the other person feels needed by you, he will naturally love you and you will feel happy. Self-discipline is self-discipline at any time. Women who are always self-disciplined often achieve higher achievements and gain more happiness than others. A woman who is always self-disciplined, she will set goals for herself and strive to achieve them. The accumulation of achievements again and again will naturally bring more happiness. A truly happy woman A truly happy woman is not married to love, but to the right person. In fact, for a woman, the greatest happiness is to find a safe reliance. From beginning to end, two people are not afraid of any challenges, and they are guarding one person wholeheartedly. Few women really marry love for life. There are many women, and the one they choose is not the one they really love. That's what happened. There are too many reasons why you can't be with someone you love deeply. You can only choose another person and start a marriage. In fact, women should understand one thing. The person you love is not necessarily the best for you. Just this reason can make you not regret your original decision. -02- There are too many women who think that marrying love is like talking about a love that will never break up, and they can live happily for a lifetime. As we all know, it is impossible for two unsuitable people to be together again. It is better to marry a man who suits you than to marry a man who loves you. Sooner or later, you will know that those truly happy women are not married to love, but to the right person. If you marry the right person, you don't have to change your living habits for the other person. Xiaoqing and Wen Lin met on a blind date. They met for three months and got married. Everyone thinks they are a good match. They all have jobs and have been in love, but when they got married, they all got married hastily. People in China have always paid attention to matching families, but this is not an old concept, because you two have basically the same growth environment and education level, and it is easy to be recognized. The right person will be more suitable. Compared with blind love, marrying the right person does not need to change living habits. Xiaoqing and Gao Jiawen's married life is happy and peaceful. They seem to have found their missing half, and their lives are calm and warm. Married properly, two people will not divorce because of quarrels. As soon as Wen Lin came home from work, Xiaoqing and her sisters went out shopping. She bought a lot of things to go home, and it was useless. Wen Lin asked casually, but said nothing. Xiaoqing said she wanted to eat hot pot. Wen Lin ate something casually and went home, because she had unfinished work. Xiaoqing is very angry and thinks that there is no love between them, but their marriage is not accompanied, comforted, considerate or even concerned. Xiaoqing finally got angry, and then she ran to her best friend's house alone and didn't want to go home. The next day, Tianwenlin came to see him, brought a bunch of roses and said, because I wronged you, you missed Xiaohua when you came back, and Xiaohua missed you, too. Xiaohua is a stray cat they adopted together. When you marry the right lover, you don't have to delve into each other's faults, because you will work together for this marriage. Marry the right person and you will get love in the details of life. Like all marriages, Wen Lin and Xiaoqing have a lovely little daughter. When Xiaoqing was pregnant, Wen Lin accompanied her almost every day. He doesn't want stretch marks. He will massage her every day. He cooks breakfast for her every morning before going to work, and waits for Xiaoqing to go to bed at night. No matter how busy and tired he is, he will not bring pressure to Xiao Ai. On the day of delivery, he held the baby in his arms, and Xiaoqing cried miserably. She felt very tired, but Wen Lin didn't hold her back. Xiaoqing thinks he doesn't love himself, but only loves his daughter. Wen Lin comforted her: "Wife, don't be paranoid, you will be fine, I will always accompany you." Xiaoqing realized that the original two people, already unconsciously, had a love. If you marry the right person, you will slowly harvest love in the gap of time, and then you will love more and more. True love is not love at first sight, but long-term love. The true fate is not the arrangement of heaven, but your suitability. Sometimes, it is far easier to get happiness by marrying the right person than by marrying love. As long as you treat marriage with care, sooner or later you will cultivate deeper feelings than love.