I read an article the other day, calling on everyone not to look down on people. Only two short stories are cited in this paper. The first short story says that in an episode of If You Are the One, a young man said that he was a chef and was very handsome, but because his job was to cook with his father, he didn't have a job, so all the female guests in the audience turned off the lights.

Finally, when the young people left, Murphy asked some young people's fathers what hotel they were in. The young man explained that his father had just invested in a hotel in New Zealand, and his family assets were about 200 million. When the female guests heard the crazy request for them to re-elect, they were rejected by the young man.

The second story is about a middle-aged man who is badly dressed. When he goes to a shop in 4S, he wants to see the car. Has been ridiculed by the female staff, and finally the manager came. The middle-aged man bought ten cars and demanded the dismissal of the female staff. Whether true or not, the logic behind these two stories is that everyone you look down on may be a hidden cow. Therefore, looking down on people will make you regret it.

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In fact, this is not the case. Most people are your opinion of him. You won't suddenly come out and tell you that his father is Li Gang just because you look down on him one day. This is a common routine in stories, but it is rare in life. Few awesome people will deliberately hide their strength, and most awesome people can't see through it, so there is no need to deliberately hide their strength.

Think about it. You saw a young man in a suit and tie in the street, driving a brand-new Mercedes. Guess he is either a rich second generation or a business elite. In fact, he is probably just the boss and driver.

You see a beautiful woman walking down the street. Guess she is either white or a senior white-collar worker. In fact, there is a great possibility that she is just a delicate woman with no particularly strong background. These glamorous people are just ordinary people in life.

Do those people who look ordinary really have any background and strength that you regret once provoked? Of course there is, but it is really a minority, and this probability is similar to winning the prize. I can't think of anyone in their right mind who would deliberately pretend to be a weak B, just to become a great person and hit you in the face when you look down on him.

I think, because everyone you look down on may be a hidden awesome person, so don't look down on others. This logic is hard to convince. Why do we think that a person wearing ordinary clothes has no money? Because experience tells us that people wearing ordinary clothes are basically ordinary people. Of course, there are always some rich people who don't care about this detail.

This empirical judgment is correct in most cases, and it saves time and effort. You said that two people came to the 4S store, one was wearing a suit and tie, and the other was wearing big shorts and flip-flops, which was a bit sloppy. As a salesperson, which customer do you think you will be more enthusiastic about? I think the result is self-evident, of course, a good sales will not neglect every customer.

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Many people in life look down on some people. How many of them were punished for looking down on others? I think it is very few. I have been thinking the other day that looking down on people will not be punished, so why don't we look down on people?

I thought a lot, but I couldn't convince myself for any reason. However, when thinking about why not underestimate others. But I thought of a classmate I haven't seen for years. When he was a child, he loved to look down on people.

At school, I think every class has a hidden "strength" list. It is the classmates who commented on some students who can fight better, but not many people can really make the list. Most students are ordinary children. My classmate is also a very ordinary little boy. His grades are average, and he has little desire to learn.

However, he has a sense of superiority and often likes to ridicule and bully some weaker classmates. He is not tall, he is not good at fighting, and he has little courage. He never dared to take part in something risky, so naturally he couldn't play with his classmates on the Force list. Interestingly, he just loves to play with these people, follow them every day and bend his head to do some errands.

He is extremely servile in front of those classmates, but he is not always so humble. He looks down on those students in his class who can't play and have poor grades, and often bullies those students. He looks like a big boss in front of those classmates. And as soon as the students on the list came out, he followed them like a fart.

He is a classmate I don't know very well, and he is also a typical one I really saw when I was a child. I thought for a long time, why on earth did he look down on other students? He didn't get good grades and didn't dare to play. Where did he look down on others' superiority and self-confidence?

Suddenly I remembered a sentence in Ma Liang's Confessions and said to my classmates, "All my conceit comes from my inferiority complex, all my heroism comes from my inner weakness, and all my eloquence comes from my skeptical heart."

Yes, all his conceit comes from his inferiority complex. All "heroism" comes from his fragile heart. He likes to look down on people, so he is always looked down upon. He is very concerned about other people's comments, so he uses this set of standards to evaluate everyone who fails to meet the standards. He looks down on people who are not up to standard, and in fact he looks down on himself who is not up to standard.

Therefore, any student who is taller than him in this evaluation system will feel particularly inferior. He hurt many people because of his inferiority complex, but he was actually hurting himself. Isn't everyone who has been hurt by him the way he has been hurt?

Under the evaluation standard of money or other things, we can look down on all people who are inferior to us and will not be harmed by the outside world, because he is so weak under this evaluation standard.

However, in this evaluation standard, anyone, even a little bit, will cause inferiority. It seems that you look down on others, but you can always look down on yourself.