Seeing the clip of "Settle Down", I feel very blocked.

Lao Yan and his wife run a steamed stuffed bun shop in Shanghai. They are honest people and have little ability. By selling steamed buns, they have a doorway to make a living in Shanghai.

Selling steamed buns also makes hard money. Lao Yan and his wife struggled for more than ten years, which can be said to be frugal. They rented a small shack of several square meters and finally saved more than 3 million yuan.

This money is really their hard-earned money for life. Like many parents, they are thinking: anyway, it is for the children.

They have a son who has just joined the work and talked about his girlfriend's getting married.

Lao Yan and his wife can be said to have spent all their savings to buy a house for their son, and added her name at the request of their daughter-in-law.

They thought they finally had a home in Shanghai and their daughter-in-law was pregnant. The old couple packed their things and moved to take care of their soon-to-be-born grandson, but when the door opened, they saw that their in-laws had moved in first.

My in-laws treated them as guests from the beginning and said, "I'm just saying. Please come over one day and speak of the devil. "

At this time, the son and daughter-in-law of Lao Yan and his wife also came out of the bedroom. When the daughter-in-law saw her parents-in-law, she not only didn't say hello, but also rolled her eyes and slammed the bedroom door.

Lao Yan and his wife's son just watched and didn't speak.

In-laws called them in and said they would have a meal before leaving. They quickly said, I'll drop by to see if the children are doing well.

When my in-laws saw what they were holding, they pretended to be deaf and dumb, and deliberately asked them if they had come to wash clothes.

At this time, the son spoke: "Mom and Dad, go back first, and I will come to see you when I have time."

Lao Yan and his wife agreed bitterly, and before leaving, they told their son not to think about them and to help his mother-in-law do more work.

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Their houses have all been retired.

After going downstairs, the old couple said that when they first came to Shanghai, they packed two snakeskin bags and saved a car full of belongings in the blink of an eye.

Boss Yan had tears in his eyes when he said this.

Finally, the old couple was "driven away" by the community security guard, because their tricycle was parked in the owner's parking space, and the old couple apologized and pushed the car back.

When they came, they rode tricycles happily and dreamed of the day when they moved into their new house, full of energy; When I went back, I pushed the car alone, but Lao Yan's wife still couldn't help it, pushing it behind and wiping her tears.

Seeing this, I really feel very angry.

Lao Yan and his wife bought a house in full with their hard-earned money for a lifetime. They thought they could settle down in Shanghai and take good care of their grandchildren. Unexpectedly, there was no living in it, so it was taken away by pigeons.

This is really bullying honest people.

In fact, the son, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law all know, but the daughter-in-law slammed the door and left, and the mother-in-law knew it well, but the son was silent. Three different reactions, but the same attitude.

So, the old couple had to turn around and leave, and they were still fighting for their son when they left.

Seeing such parents really makes people love and hate each other.

Obviously, they are good parents themselves. They have worked hard all their lives, and they are willing to give everything for their son, which is taken for granted.

However, when their interests are seriously threatened, they still only think about their son. Isn't this pushing yourself to the wall?

We have a saying in China, that is, to raise children to guard against old age. This sentence is deeply rooted in the hearts of many people, especially the older generation. This is why there are so many cases where boys are preferred to girls, and parents are willing to give everything for their sons.

The Lao Yan couple used this more than 3 million to buy a lesson. The so-called raising children to prevent old age has a premise: this son should know how to be grateful.

How many parents work hard outside and don't tell their children anything, they feel that everything their children want is right. After a long time, they spoiled more, but they turned their son into a baiwenhang.

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In fact, in real life, there are quite a few things like "having a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother".

Parents have worked hard all their lives to buy a house for their children, take care of them and even help raise them. I can't live in the house I finally bought, and I feel that living in it will affect the relationship between my son and daughter-in-law.

Some really moved in, and the daughter-in-law has nothing to comment on. They often deliberately find fault and find contradictions, and finally the old man has no choice but to move away.

I heard one thing before.

An old man worked hard all his life and bought a car for his son without a house. As a result, after the son and daughter-in-law moved in, the daughter-in-law disliked the old man's insanity and refused to let him live.

Later, the old man moved away, and there was not much money. He often goes to the vegetable market to pick up dishes that others don't want to eat at home. Her son knew all this, but he pretended not to see it.

The most irritating thing is that outsiders look at the old man, but the old man himself acquiesces in this practice, willingly, and everyone can only sigh and occasionally give the old man something to help him.

After marriage, it has always been a hot topic whether the mother-in-law wants to live at home.

I think if most daughters-in-law face this problem, their first reaction must be: in order to avoid contradictions, it is best not to live with their mother-in-law.

However, there are exceptions to everything, and concrete analysis of specific problems shows that people living in this world should stress the word conscience.

Some mothers-in-law obviously have a house to live in, and the house is not their money, but they still have to pay a down payment, and they have to live with their sons and daughters-in-law, and then contradictions continue, affecting the feelings of husband and wife.

In this case, many people must be on the side of the daughter-in-law.

However, if the parents-in-law bought the house in full, and only this one, I don't think anyone can refuse them to live in it.

This attitude of Lao Yan's daughter-in-law in Anjia is really wicked. Even though she lives in the house her in-laws bought, she still wants to draw a line with her in-laws.

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Parents have no obligation to pay unconditionally for their children.

In this world, parents and children can pour love into each other.

But in any case, it is always necessary to love yourself more. It's always insecure to pin your hopes on others.

As a parent, you also need to have your own life and think for yourself, instead of betting everything in your life on your son, so the probability of losing is too great.

People should live for themselves, make their lives better, and then help others, even blood relatives.

Many children have been spoiled by their parents since childhood, and their parents have arranged everything for him, so everything has become a matter of course. Finally, they don't know how to be grateful, their psychological endurance is still low, and they are unable to support themselves.

I want to advise parents all over the world not to be just selfless and dedicated good people. It is more important than anything to help and educate children by working hard and wronged themselves, so that they can know the misery of life from an early age and grow into a person with ideas and dignity.