When writing this letter, you are 2 1w2d.
"A girl is cute not because she is smart and sensible, but because she is sharp, calculating, vain, clumsy and cute. ~ Hong Yan's Ten Years of Dream of Red Mansions.
This is a very eye-catching passage that Mommy recently read in a book. This woman writer analyzes the female troubles of twelve golden women in A Dream of Red Mansions from the perspective of modern women, and probes into the feelings and philosophies of women in the Grand View Garden of A Dream of Red Mansions.
I don't know if your generation still reads classical literature, but Mommy wants to talk to you about an interesting point in this book, which is the author's comparison of the characters of two classic heroines, Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochai, in A Dream of Red Mansions.
The first chapter of the book has these words: "Daiyu is like a poem, Baochai is like a Zen." ","It has always been said that Daiyu is suitable for falling in love and Baochai is suitable for marrying home. "The author relayed a passage from the writer Mr. Yu-the biggest tragedy of A Dream of Red Mansions is that Daiyu and Baoyu can't get married. ..... A slap in the face awakened everyone's romantic feelings about Romeo and Juliet, a famous book known as the East.
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All right! Mommy must give you an injection first, that is, maybe not only Daiyu and Baoyu can't get married, but it is unknown whether Romeo and Juliet or other classic love heroes and heroines who are fascinated by your generation can pass the test of marriage, but it is precisely because of these dreamlike storylines that people can step into the besieged city of marriage one after another. It is no exaggeration to say that human beings can't be killed by these romantic love scripts.
Frankly speaking, Mommy doesn't think Baochai and Baoyu can be happy for life in real life.
"For a woman like Dai Yu, her sense of loss makes you feel poor, and her tenderness can give you irreplaceable sweetness. Her small temper annoys you, but all addictive things make people feel half sea and half fire. In the end, she became someone you can't forget in your dreams. 」
"Baochai is too calm, too realistic, and wants nothing. She is a mentor in the boudoir, a guide to life, and helps you realize, but she is not a lover who can make your dreams come true. Who will fall in love with a philosophy book or a life guide? 」
After reading this, you probably guessed the author's preference for the previous woman's personality, right?
Of course, what woman doesn't want to be cute in front of the person she loves once in a while? What woman doesn't want to be free to be herself and be loved in front of her partner?
Most girls in our generation and yours, including mothers, were raised in the palm of their hands like pearls. I still remember the day after I married your father, I secretly called your grandmother and asked her, "Mom, how do you use the washing machine?" ? Because before I got married, your grandmother was never willing to let me wash clothes and sweep the floor once. Of course, I didn't know the toilet would be dirty until I got married.
Now that you are married to * * *, don't say that your grandparents, including your father, are so tolerant of Mommy's willfulness. With God's love, Mommy never worries that someone will not love you because you are "yourself".
I believe that many girls, before they get married, all have the little willfulness of Daiyu, even an uncompromising charm. At the moment we put on the wedding dress, we were confident that we could continue to keep these small defects that were born or used by our parents after marriage, because that person didn't marry you because he loved your original personality?
However, after entering the marriage, we know that most couples have different standards and expectations for girls and girls. Although this sounds unreasonable at all, it is a problem that we all have to face in real life.
When Daiyu enters marriage, she will evolve (or degenerate? ) become a treasure? I'm afraid not, but at least few men can afford it. In the next few decades of marriage, they have to eat the tricky and care of their wives.
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Daughter ~ Mommy really hopes that before writing this letter, she can tell you in detail the twists and turns of "being herself" and "not being herself" in her marriage life in the past ten years, so that when you explore the nature of marriage, you will not always wander back and forth between disappointment and hope like Mommy. Unfortunately, even if I make it clear, it doesn't mean you can walk less.
One day, when you get married, you may be confused and at a loss. Do you want to continue to be that wild and coquettish self, or learn to be a pet kept by marriage? You're not sure who wins or loses until the table is opened. All anxiety comes from the lack of standard processes and answers.
Even if you are willing to change from Daiyu's arrogance to Baochai's calmness, you still have to worry that the person you love will miss your loveliness before marriage and complain about your amorous feelings.
Even if you bring your true nature before marriage into your marriage, you may be accused of not wanting to grow up in the end.
Did I scare you? Ha, let's take a look at the most popular paragraph written by Mommy.
"I don't know where I went all day, I didn't answer the phone, and I don't know if my boyfriend is reliable ..."
"Every time I look at it, I feel bothersome and unhappy. I'm not suitable for her. 」
"My daughter never listens to me, running around with her and saying that I don't understand. She just doesn't understand that the old man is thinking of her and is afraid of her suffering. 」
Every time I hear my close elders tell me that my daughter is disobedient, I will tell them, "Don't worry, when people get married, their hearts will come back." 」
"People are married to other people's homes, and their hearts are still tied to their parents' homes? What is the truth? Our generation still loves to say "female thief"! When a daughter goes back to her mother's house, she always thinks about how to bring a few companions, either to save face or to save money for her husband's family, so people used to say that it was a loss to have a daughter. The concept of elders still stays in their generation.
And my words always confuse these elders who protect their daughters like jewels. They don't believe that their daughters will be closer after marriage than before.
Actually, just ask me. There are a large number of experimental control groups in my working life. Indeed, when people get married, their hearts come back.
Only when you get married will you know, and only your parents will hold you in their hands.
Only when you get married will you know that only your parents will tolerate your arrogance and willfulness.
Only when you get married will you know that the only person who will accept your mistakes a thousand times is your parents.
Modern female thieves don't want to balance the living standards of parents, family and in-laws, but want to make sure whether they are married or not, and you are still a member of parents and family. However, every kind of profligacy will have an end. One day, you will find that your parents are no longer your invincible backers, not because they are tired, but because their flesh and blood are dying and there is no way to shelter you from the wind and rain.
Daughter, if I can, I hope to hold an umbrella for you all my life.
But, actually, you don't have to. Mom will give you an umbrella. Slowly you will understand that if you are wronged in marriage, you will never be perfect. The most important thing is that you should find value for yourself that doesn't need to be shaken. Even if you are not a good wife and mother in the eyes of others, you should have your own real life, so whether you are Daiyu or Baochai, you will have no regrets.