In my opinion, the rest are mostly women and men.

It goes without saying that women are idealized all the way. I remember once accompanying a sister to a senior youth association. The first singer of the sorority was a 39-year-old unmarried woman. She looks ordinary and doesn't look young. Her long hair was combed into a ponytail, but her white hair could still be seen vaguely. I can't remember what song she sang, except a lyric: "Since I can't meet the person I love, I am willing to wait, I am willing to wait …" She sang to the emotional place with tears in her eyes. This lyric and her pious appearance moved me for a long time, and I was obsessed with her and insisted on it. I don't think such a woman's fate will be too bad, because she will always practice quality and light weight.

The fate of another kind of women is quite tragic, not to mention any remaining problems. They began to worry after they were 30 years old, because it is understandable that women have fertility considerations after all. However, the warning that "you can make mistakes when you are busy" did not tell them clearly, and you have to rely on your own luck and luck. Their goal is first to target unmarried men over 30 and under 40, but after a long walk, they all find that unmarried men of this age (no target men) are either dull (good men from feminist families, and in their thirties, they still pay their parents all their monthly wages, leaving only a small part of 200 yuan each month. So sad! ); Or illness (mental illness, organ dysfunction, artificial limbs in the body, steel plates in some parts), which is by no means alarmist! ); Or have been released from prison (such "ex-criminals" usually go to places like matchmaking, because they always have a history that can't be justified, and they usually call themselves "foreigners" during their imprisonment. Of course, they are absolutely unmarried, which is completely unnecessary to consider, because they can't get married while serving their sentences, and most of them are scattered before serving their sentences. After searching this circle, it is conceivable that a girl was hit hard and depressed. Why are unmarried men aged 30-40 (men who have no date) in this situation? Looks like I started late. At the beginning, any classmate who chased me was better than these D-level boys!

Yes, this is the cruel reality of mate selection faced by girls. 99% of outstanding unmarried men aged 30-40 live together, because they have much more opportunities to choose than women of this age, and there is no need to dig deep into the object. In other words, just because they are unmarried doesn't mean they don't have a partner or sexual partner. How can a good man not have sex? ! They are just not in a hurry to get married.

Two bachelors met and tried to light a bonfire by the roadside, but the bonfire couldn't burn. This is the whole story of leftover women and divorced men. -Drag the bottom first (to avoid being misunderstood by impatient people)

( 1)

Let's start from the beginning.

My friend An Yan (female, pseudonym), the one I accompanied her to the fraternity mentioned above, is 3 1 year old this year. I am a witness to everything she has experienced in recent years. Because she is always willing to tell me everything, we have never said anything since childhood. Of course, as a person who has experienced ups and downs, I am willing to teach her how to meet people first.

Although the current unmarried male market is so bleak, after I listed many unfavorable factors of divorced men with her, she still tends to find unmarried men. Besides, I think her own conditions are not bad. She is handsome in appearance and one in a million in figure. Her ex-boyfriend is a famous acrobatic troupe acrobat, a pillar of the troupe, and practices shooting stars on the water. That young man looks dignified, but he is a little black. I met him several times. When I saw them together, I had a feeling that they couldn't do it. And this feeling will not go away. But she is quite satisfied with him. I can see that, so I can't say more. After all, she graduated from accounting and had limited contact with men during her school work, some of whom were women. So this handsome acrobatic youth suddenly made up for her visual regret.

Yan Anping wears glasses every day, which is not deep and looks like Baidu. But I found that as long as she is with that acrobatic boy, she must not wear glasses. Once she came up to me without even looking at me, so I asked her, "Why don't you wear glasses or contact lenses?" She said that her boyfriend doesn't like her wearing glasses, and she can't wear contact lenses (eyes secrete too much oil). Her mother is an ophthalmologist and will definitely not let her make any corneal incision to restore her vision. Alas, I feel very uncomfortable after hearing this. Intuitively, I think this acrobatic elder brother doesn't really like An Yan, but is vain and advises her to be careful. But this silly girl doesn't listen to me, and she has known that boy for more than half a year. She gave him her first time. Sadly, it's not the first time she's seen red, but this boy has experience and comparison, and he doesn't doubt that she's bad. After that, he only said affectionately, "This is the first time I have given all my love to a girl." This is what Yan An told me later. I feel a little sorry for her. Will a man who knows his girlfriend is nearsighted but doesn't let her wear glasses completely love this woman? "The authorities are fascinated", an eternal philosophy, looked at An Yan so deeply for a while that I knew she wouldn't listen to anyone.

In the twelfth lunar month, Yan An came to me to accompany her to buy clothes, and said that her future in-laws would come to her house for engagement in two days. At that time, I casually said, "The twelfth lunar month is uncertain. Haven't you heard of the old saying that Beijing won't marry in the first month? " "What do you mean?" She asked quickly. I said it was the twelfth lunar month, and the marriage was ruined! She said I was superstitious, so she changed the subject with joy. It is said that acrobatic brother's parents are in the jewelry business, and the engagement ring given to An Yan is a good jade ring.

I didn't expect one of my jokes to really come true on An Yan. They got engaged at the end of 1 month, and originally planned to get married on May 1st. However, the acrobatic troupe will perform in Japan in March, and it will tour more than 60 performances in more than two months, so the two families plan to wait until 1 1 month to register for the wedding.

What happened during the performance in Japan, only acrobatic elder brother knows. A group of more than 20 people, at night, what happened naturally happened. Again, how can a man not have sex? Everyone can survive the first two weeks, and after two weeks, people without spouses will solve each other's physiological needs! This is the hidden rule of their line. What's the problem? This acrobatic elder brother is 25 years old, and his 32-year-old female companion who solves each other's physiological needs is the kind who comes up and down on him and is dragged away by him during the performance. I think it's two people having crazy sex. Being together in a foreign country for more than two months is enough for a man to have some dependence on a married woman with rich sexual experience. When I got off the plane and came back, An Yan felt the ambiguous eyes of the women around me. I can't hide my true love, and I can't pretend. His embrace with An Yan also showed reluctance and alienation. Even An Yan's deliberate dress that day was not noticed by acrobatic brother, let alone praised him.

Shortly after returning to China, the acrobatic brothers told An Yan about his trip to Japan, and hinted that they would break up with An Yan's lack of femininity. Later, when Yan An asked, she knew that this woman had been playing with her boyfriend's idea for a long time, because her husband was seriously incompetent in that respect at first glance, and he was sick for two days, so he had plans to remarry. This trip to Japan is a godsend for her! I remember I went to the acrobatic troupe to inquire about the woman who was seven years older than her boyfriend for An Yan. As a result, I didn't think about it that day, but I ran into a woman and an acrobatic brother. They are inseparable, and their eyes are full of love. To my surprise, although that woman is seven years older than him, she looks only one or two years older than him. They look amazing alike! This is an absolutely rare similarity. Brothers and sisters are not that alike! ! And that woman looks like acrobatic brother's mother! ! Suddenly, I suddenly understand why I have an intuition that he and An Yan can't succeed. That's right! In front of them, they are a natural couple! Objectively speaking, this is the first time I have seen a man and a woman look so alike. At that moment, I almost froze there, that is, from that moment on, I really knew what husband and wife were.

When I came back, I did Anyan's work, and I said, "Anyan, this is not your problem. They are a couple. It seems that all your efforts have been in vain. " An Yan burst into tears. She said she didn't want to lose to an old woman who was eight years older than her. I said, think about it. They acrobatics from primary school, no culture, Oedipus complex is certain. What he needs in his bones is not a weak woman like you. Besides, when he came back from Japan, he began to criticize you. You don't even dare to wear glasses for him. You are blind in front of him. They may have had an affair before, but this trip to Japan has encouraged their blatant. When I said this, I seemed to suddenly realize. Acrobatic brothers may not want An Yan to wear glasses because he doesn't want her to recognize his ambiguous female colleague. What cunning and sophisticated acrobatic brothers! Is simple-minded An Yan his opponent?

The following month, Yan An and his acrobatic brother officially broke up. Next, Anyan and I spent the darkest time in her first life. She looked like a dish. Well, there's nothing wrong with it. It's just that An Yan's lesson is a little big. Alas, people in the literary and art circles are definitely not for ordinary girls.

(2)

This world is really sad and unfair!

That winter, Yan Anlai told me that acrobatic brother actually married a female companion who was seven years older than him in November. For An Yan, this irony is almost extreme. She lost to an old divorced woman. Just after getting engaged to acrobatic elder brother at the beginning of the year, An Yan has started shopping for her future home and made a long list. I feel warm when I look at it, and I am deeply impressed by her thoughtfulness. After that, everything took a dramatic turn for the worse, which she really didn't expect and an inexperienced girl of her age couldn't bear. It was too abrupt. I also feel sorry for An Yan, but I think: This is God's will. In fact, in my opinion, acrobatic elder brother is not worthy of An Yan anyway. First of all, acrobatic practitioners are almost illiterate, but they can only write Chinese characters, even their own names are crooked; And acrobatics is almost your job before the age of 35, and the road ahead is not as good as that of retired athletes. In other words, the quality of Acrobatic Brothers is simply not enough to appreciate the beauty and goodness of An Yan. An Yan's comprehensive quality is good, and he is by no means a small jasper. He still has a little loyalty and talent. "Smelly fish looking for rotten shrimp, thieves generally only pass by with thieves. You are better than him, and he still despises you. " "In fact, he despises you, which doesn't mean that you are inferior to him. It only means that he and you are not at the same level." During that time, these two sentences were often used to comfort An Yan. I don't want An Yan's self-consciousness to collapse completely because of this denial of acrobatic brother's decision.

But I also know An Yan's reluctance. What woman doesn't want to grow old with the first man, even if he is not the best among people. But she also knows that the melon is not sweet, it is not her own, and she can't keep it. Even providence will generously push you away!

Two months later, An Yan finally pulled herself together and started a long blind date. That year, An Yan was 25 years old.

Why do people trip over the same stone twice? Is the shallow memory in my head at work? Or the foreshadowing of nature-do you have to go this time to turn back?

One afternoon at the end of the year, the sun shone warmly. I was about to go out for a walk when the phone suddenly rang. It's Anyan. She said on the phone that she met a young man in a semi-public and semi-private occasion. The young man seems very satisfied with her and wants to be her boyfriend and girlfriend. He has a general impression of this man, but he can't help but sweet talk. If he comes and goes, it will be a promise. Today, this young man happened to come here and asked her for coffee. She wants me to help her. With a little curiosity and relief to see An Yan finally pull himself together, I readily agreed.

An Yan and I arrived at the appointed coffee shop early, hoping that the young man would think that we just met here first, so that everyone would not be too embarrassed. Soon after, An Yan motioned for me that he was coming. I saw a young man get off the taxi across the street with a briefcase under his arm. He is very tall and should be around 180cm. At first glance, his eyebrows and eyes look a little familiar, yes, a little like the actor Feng, with a small head and white skin, and his eyes and face are particularly similar. But the way this boy walks is really ugly. His whole body and arms are shaking, and the shaking range is much larger than that of ordinary people. It is not an exaggeration to describe it as "shaking your head". To tell the truth, it's the first time I've met a man who walks like this. He opened my eyes. I intuitively feel that this walking posture is an arrogant attribute.

The young man introduced himself to me in a crisp and pleasant voice, saying that he is 27 years old and comes from an inspection brigade of an tax bureau. I also politely exchanged a few commonplaces, and then politely left.

When An Yan came back, he told me that this young man was actually just an amateur civil servant. He just graduated from a textile technical school. After working for several years, he felt that he had nothing to look forward to, so he went to a junior college. His uncle is the deputy bureau of a district tax bureau, and his mother entrusted him before her death. I hope he can help her son solve a job as a civil servant. He has been a civil servant for just over three years. "It seems that he is quite frank and tells you everything!" An Yan is a little proud. "It's rare to have such a frank person. Compared with the elder martial artist, he is by no means the same kind of person! It was because of him that I agreed to associate with him. " I said, "An Yan, did he tell you frankly about his ex-girlfriend?" An Yan said that his ex-girlfriend was a classmate of his technical school, and they didn't break up until his mother died of illness two years ago. The reason for breaking up was that he wanted to marry his mother before her death, but the woman said that she would do nothing and that the conditions for marriage were not mature. Married his ex-girlfriend this year 1 1 month. After listening to An Yan's words, I couldn't help feeling a sense of foreboding, thinking, Oh, it is the remnant of the "Eleventh Marriage", which is similar to An Yan's fate. Brother Acrobatic got married on 1 1 this year. Perhaps this half-baked civil servant brother is also a poor man eager to find a band-aid for love. An Yan asked me to talk about my impression of this man, but I spoke frankly about my feelings. This amateur civil servant, who just graduated from technical school, is not as good as you. And his ex-girlfriend is his technical school classmate, so that means their age together is 16 and 7, at least 8 years. What is the concept of eight years? Breaking up after eight years is no different from divorce. At best, no child was born. Tae-hiko, will you? After that, he will definitely compare you with your ex-girlfriend everywhere. Now he is just a stranger to you. And are you sure his mother's cancer is breast cancer? As far as I know, modern people will consider some factors of family hereditary diseases, especially the heredity of cancer. Therefore, many children of cancer patients are secretive about this when choosing a spouse. If the mother dies, the son will probably say that it is gynecological cancer, dispelling the woman's concerns about heredity.

An Yan hesitated after listening to my words. But "knowing the good and not following the good" is an Yan's mistake and sorrow. I can feel that she still wants to try or deceive herself and treat him as unmarried. Then, I can't say more. Life will eventually educate everyone in a unique way. I believe this.

People's first impression is often the most real. Because it has no previous prejudices and distractions. Sometimes when you meet each other for the first time, in fact, some bad aspects of this person are passed on to you in an inductive way. Therefore, girls should not underestimate the first one! Ignore that, and you will regret it in the end.

I don't think highly of this half-baked civil servant. I think this boy has a warm and frank side, but his triangular eyes make people feel that they can't see the end. According to physiognomy, people who are born with triangular eyes are as ruthless as killing swords, spears and halberds. It works every time. Therefore, I never doubt this rule summed up by my ancestors. The clever An Yan probably knows that I don't like this boy. It may be that an Yan's emotional blank needs to be filled for nearly a year. She finally didn't listen to my advice or her own innermost thoughts, and she actually wanted to go on with him. I don't want to say anything to teach her. All I know is that her real heart is vacant.

An amateur civil servant brother went to the driving school to learn his driver's license soon after he met Yan An. Before that, he had been driving a big motorcycle with Beijing A license to work. It is said that considering that he and Anyan are far apart (almost diagonal to Beijing-Dalian), it is safer to drive the whole car. Because he has many years of experience riding a motorcycle on the road, the whole car has just learned a driver's license and it is easy to get it.

That day, An Yan came back from shopping in the supermarket. Seeing her walking alone in pain, I asked her why she hadn't seen her race on a motorcycle for some time. An Yan bitter face said, "elder sister, maybe I was wrong. Your prophecy has already happened. As soon as he learned how to write a car, he drove the good car of their unit and went straight to the textile factory where he used to work to show off. " He also told me that he happened to meet his ex-girlfriend. She got pregnant soon after she got married. She just had a B-ultrasound and said she was pregnant with a girl. You said it was an obvious lie. This is not a coincidence at all, but a deliberate "encounter". Obviously, he can't let go of his ex-girlfriend. He fought with her in secret, because the whole textile factory knew about them, and his ex-girlfriend was the daughter of a technical director in that factory. And his ex-girlfriend's father didn't like him before. Now, he wants to show off to his old man-I entered the tax bureau and the good car was driving. Cow! "Listening to An Yan's angry and sober words, I saw the unique walking posture of this amateur civil servant brother. I believe what An Yan said is true, and the half-assed civil servant brother is really super frank, so frank that he does not hide his vanity.

Life is so leisurely day by day. From then on, every time I saw An Yan, I felt a faint sadness on her face. I think An Yan's sadness must have something to do with that boy. It is clear to the onlookers that the boy's qualification is far from Anyan, and he is not worthy of Anyan at all. I even think he is rather timid. The last time I listened to Hu Kan, he said "I want to, I want to, I want to …" and pronounced the word "sleep" into three disgusting sounds (the unique pronunciation of Beijing suburbs), which was really funny and ugly at that time. I thought to myself: You feel like a bird! Too much emphasis on self! The exclusive spoken language of this self-righteous person is really displayed by him. According to An Yan, his family lives in the dormitory of Beijing Fengtai Changxindian Erqi Vehicle Factory. Both parents graduated from college and were college classmates. His father is an authentic old man (Cantonese), while her mother was born and raised in the suburbs of Beijing. Hehe, this half-baked civil servant works in the city, but he doesn't always say "I went to Beijing", but everyone in Beijing will feel ridiculous when he hears this, because only the old hat will say so.

"Don't waste time with this boy, wait until another day, I'll let my colleagues from family members' hospital of Peking University introduce you to a good one! Graduation from a technical school these days is basically equal to no culture and no connotation. Why do you want a cow like him to coax you? ! Looking for excitement? ! "I told Anyan half-jokingly that Anyan had no objection. An Yan said, "I also struggle with my thoughts every day! It takes two hours by bus from his home to mine, and there is no other house in his home. He has been living with his widower father. At present, he only drives a car, not a car. But he always gives me a feeling of deja vu, which makes me reluctant to give up. I still feel that he is poor without his mother. Unless I owe him in my last life? "

So I began to secretly help Anyan find someone, because I don't think Anyan really loves him, but I just can barely accept him. I don't want to see Anyan, who is kind and atmospheric, hurt like a moth. Women can't afford to get hurt.