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Last Christmas Eve, a girl told me that her husband had booked a room in the hotel and they would have a big meal to celebrate. As a result, while waiting for the food to be served, she looked around and accidentally saw her best friend's husband. She wanted to say hello, but found that the woman sitting opposite was not a best friend at all.

On such a special day, it is a couple package. She was in a daze, afraid of some misunderstanding, so she didn't go forward, just staring at the table.

My best friend's husband is very close to that woman. You pinch my face, I touch your hand, I pick it up and put it in my mouth. Obviously not ordinary friends, nor relatives.

She went outside, called her best friend, pretended to say hello and asked her how she planned to spend Christmas Eve. Her best friend told her that her husband was on a business trip and had to eat casually at home alone. She deliberately asked what company this is, and now she sends people on a business trip on Christmas Eve.

My best friend knew nothing about it and said with a smile: Christmas Eve is not a big holiday. What's strange about going on a business trip? It's not a business trip during the Spring Festival.

She became preoccupied when she put down the phone. Her best friend seems completely in the dark. Looking back, her husband and that woman are completely in love, and she is not worried about meeting acquaintances in public.

She didn't know whether to tell her best friend about it, and asked her husband, who didn't know what to do.

I thought about it for a long time and decided to ask my opinion.

Such problems are not uncommon. Let me tell you one thing first! My best friend Dangdang told me.

At that time, Dangdang was just in his early twenties, and we didn't know each other yet. She has a good friend who has a good temper, but she has no opinion, but she has nothing to say to Dangdang.

Later, this good friend got married, and the contact between them gradually decreased. Then one day when Dangdang was shopping, he saw this man holding another girl and bought a lot of things for her. They almost became conjoined twins. You kissed me and I pecked you.

When you have a bad temper, call your good friend immediately and tell her about it.

The next day, my good friend came to Dangdang with two peach-like eyes, saying that it is no wonder that her husband is getting worse and worse for her now, and she is not pleasing to the eye everywhere. It turned out that she had ulterior motives. She said that such a man is not worth being nice to her, but it's a good thing to find out early.

Dangdang was also indignant, supported her friend's decision, and advised her that it was really lucky to find out early. Fortunately, they didn't have children, otherwise it would be really painful.

My friend said that this kind of love rat is not worth nostalgia. She has decided to break up, but she doesn't know what to do after breaking up.

Dangdang was a brave man and was not married at that time. I live here alone anyway. If you have nowhere to go, stay with me for the time being, and then make your next plan when you have settled everything.

The other party sobbed and said that sisters are more reliable than men, but thank them for their support.

But what about the result?

My friend lived in Dangdang for a week, and the man began to apologize to her and make amends. At first, she had the courage to say that it was too late to make up for it. A man cheated countless times, and she will never forgive him again.

But it's true that the man doesn't pay enough attention to it in daily life, but he doesn't accept the hat of cheating. He just went shopping with his female clients, which is obviously too bad. He apologized because he hurt her.

Not an apology for cheating. If you really want to say that he cheated, then prove it. Is there any evidence of opening a room? Is there evidence of sex? No, that's called framing.

So my girlfriend came to talk to Dangdang. Dangdang said with anger that I had nothing against him. Why have I wronged him? Girlfriend, think about it

But the next day, I was persuaded by a man. The man said there was no need for revenge. A woman's jealousy is the most terrible. She is not married, but you already have a husband. People look unhappy, so they want to destroy us!

Think about it, if I don't love you, why should I save you? If I don't love you, why should I explain it to you?

Girlfriend thinks it makes sense! Finally, she followed the man home and left without saying hello to Dangdang, and she was not there.

Later, the man sent Dangdang a message telling her to be careful. Dangdang was so angry that she almost vomited blood and vowed never to take care of such a broken thing again.

Later, the man steadied his wife, transferred almost all his property and decisively filed for divorce. The other party came to Dangdang for consultation, but Dangdang refused to talk to her again. This is another story.

So this kind of thing on the Dangdang, killed her also won't care.

I used to agree with her. There is an old saying: "I don't care about my relatives!" In fact, this truth has been made very clear, probably a summary of the ancients.

It means quarreling between husband and wife, bad blood between father and son, discord between brothers, etc. It is inappropriate for a third party to express their opinions, and only stupid people will interfere in these things. This is a wise attitude towards life.

Now that I am older, I begin to have different views. Many times, we look at a thing from its essence, such as quarreling, and we don't need to participate.

However, if my best friend's husband cheats and my best friend doesn't know anything about it, my feelings and property can easily be cheated. Obviously, I have found out. What kind of best friend is she if she's not mentioned?

But no matter how serious it is, it is still a matter between husband and wife. It is really difficult to get involved, so it is in a dilemma.

In fact, how to supervise such a thing? It all depends on what kind of person the other person is.

If the other person is confused and soft-hearted, it is better to really participate less. If you don't get angry, you'll be out of luck.

If the other person is a reasonable and calm person, it doesn't hurt to tell her.

Therefore, whether to tell each other about this kind of thing depends only on their IQ. If the other person is a clear-cut person, even if you don't say it, she won't blame you if she knows it later.

She will care, knowing such a thing, it is really difficult for outsiders to intervene, and she has more scruples to tell her.

If you tell her, even if she is divorced or still alive, she won't take it out on you. She knows that you will tell her, and she certainly hopes that she will not be blinded and hurt.

But if the other person is the kind of person who has no opinion or brain, in fact, what you say will not help her status quo, and in the end, she will only be angry with you, because you don't have to face these things, and sometimes it's good to be a person who knows nothing!

Even if she may know later, it is good for such people to know one day later, because they don't have the quality and ability to face and solve.

Of course, if you know but don't tell her, once she knows, she will still blame you, but since no matter what you do, it is impossible to satisfy the other party, why bother?

So, what we really want to do is make friends with knowledgeable and discerning women. If you make friends with these women, you will feel relaxed and beautiful, and thunder will never hit you, otherwise you will fall into other people's chicken feathers and cannot extricate yourself.

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Late love, a million-selling author, the founder of Yunyixuan Jewelry, is committed to women's self-growth. The new book "The more self-discipline, the more freedom" is a best seller, and the masterpiece "Be a just right woman", Weibo: the nest of belated love, public platform: live as much as possible, ID: wanqingdepingtai.