Life is complicated, sometimes simple, even as simple as getting and giving up.
What should be done can be completely justified, and what should not be done should be resolutely given up. It is often easy to get what you deserve, but it takes great courage to give up. If you want to steer the ship of life well, everyone is faced with an eternal topic: learn to give up!
Russian writer Tolstoy wrote a short story: there was a farmer who cultivated a small piece of wasteland every morning and came back late, but he got little; An angel sympathized with the farmer's situation and told him to give him all the places he ran, no matter how big, as long as he kept running.
So the farmer ran forward excitedly, running and running! Tired of running, I want to stop and have a rest. However, when I think of my wife and children at home, I need more land to farm and make money! So, he ran like hell again! Really tired, the farmer is out of breath and can't run! However, the farmer thought that he might be old, no one would take care of him in the future, and he needed money, so he pulled himself together again and ran hard regardless of his panting body! Finally, exhausted, he fell to the ground and died! Indeed, people living in the world must work hard; However, when we have to keep "running forward" and "desperately making money" for ourselves, our children and a better life, we should also clearly realize that sometimes it is time to "run back"! There is a clever young man who really wants to be better than the people around him in all aspects. He especially wants to be a university consultant. However, many years have passed, and he is good in other aspects, but his study has not improved. He was very upset and asked a master for advice.
The master said, "Let's climb the mountain. When you reach the top, you will know what to do. "
There are many glittering and translucent small stones on that mountain, which is really charming. Every time he sees his favorite stone, the master puts it in a bag and carries it on his back. Soon, he can't stand it. "Master, recite it again, not to mention the top of the mountain. I'm afraid I can't even move." He looked at his master doubtfully. "Yes, what should I do?" The master smiled: "How can you climb the mountain without putting down the stone?" The master smiled.
The young man was stupefied, suddenly his heart lit up, thanked the master and left. After that, he concentrated on his studies and made rapid progress ... In fact, if a person wants to gain something, he will lose something. Only by learning to give up can he reach the peak of his life.
In this world, there are many things that need to be given up constantly. This point has long been summed up by sober people: in official career, giving up the pursuit of power and taking things as they are, you get peace and indifference; In the process of gold panning, give up the endless plunder of money and give you peace of mind and happiness; When the spring breeze is proud and there are beautiful women around, giving up the possession of beautiful women will get the warmth and happiness of the family.
As the ancients said, you can be as strong as you want. This is actually a realm, a kind of cultivation. Without too much desire, you will live more simply, freely and freely.
Throughout the ages, there are countless allusions and stories about learning to give up. In the Ming Dynasty, there was a man named Dong in Shanle who was an official in Beijing. One day, he received a letter from my mother, saying that he and his neighbors had an argument about building a house and making a wall at home, hoping that he could come forward to speak for his family. After receiving the letter, Dong wrote a reply: "Sending books a thousand miles away is just a wall, which can't help but hurt my heart. Why not give up two walls? " After seeing it, Dong Mu felt that it made sense, so she gave in voluntarily. As a result, the neighbors also gave in and gave up an alley called Renyi Hutong. This story is still a beautiful story today.
Although the goal of life is to gain, some things can't be given up, such as fame and wealth and beauty ... giving up is not a pessimistic and disappointing retreat, but a "sublation".
As scholars have summarized, learning to give up is to give up unrealistic fantasies and unattainable goals, rather than giving up the process and efforts to fight for them; It is to give up that meaningless struggle and worthless proposition, not to lose the motivation of struggle and the vitality of life; It is to give up the struggle for money status and the creation of luxury life, rather than losing the yearning and pursuit of a better life.
Faced with a complicated world and a materialistic society, people who know how to give up will treat what they have not got with an optimistic and open-minded attitude, accompanied by happiness and pleasure every day. Those who don't know how to give up will only rush headlong into it. In the end, they not only failed to achieve their goals, but also suffered from loss and gain every day.
Maybe it was painful or even a helpless choice to give up at that time. However, a few years later, when we look back on that past, we will be proud of the correct choice at that time, and we will feel that we are worthy of society, others and our own life. Perhaps it was the abandonment of that year that made today's glory and success.
There was a rich man, with a lot of gold and silver treasures, who went far away to find happiness. However, after walking through thousands of waters in Qian Shan, he failed to find happiness, so he had to sit on the roadside in frustration. A farmer came down from the mountain with a big bundle of firewood on his back. The rich man said, "I am an enviable rich man." Why am I unhappy? "
The farmer put down the heavy firewood and wiped his sweat comfortably: "Happiness is also very simple. Letting go is happiness! " "
The rich suddenly realized that they were carrying such heavy jewels, always afraid of being taken away by others, always afraid of being hurt by others, and worried all day long. Where does happiness come from? Therefore, the rich give jewelry and money to the poor, specializing in good deeds and being merciful. This moistened his mind and he also tasted happiness.
Imagine, how can people be happy if they are obsessed with fame and fortune all day? Where does happiness come from when you are stuck in a situation where you feel aggrieved for each other all day? I have a lot on my mind all day, and the haze doesn't open. Where is happiness? If you are petty all day, and your heart is like beans, where can you find happiness if you can't understand clearly?