What if I am left out by my husband?
There are many reasons for a husband to neglect his wife, but combined with some examples in reality, they are generally concentrated on two main reasons: one is that the husband and wife are unhappy, and the other is that the husband may cheat. Of course, no matter what the reason, the wife should not guess at first, which will lead to unnecessary trust crisis in the relationship between husband and wife. Calm analysis and finding the root cause is the correct way to solve the problem. Let's take a closer look!
Husband and wife are at odds.
1. Different personalities
Many couples and couples often end up with "personality disagreement". Therefore, for a couple, if one or both of them are sensitive, anxious, fragile and suspicious. Such a couple's life is often not smooth, and they feel tired when they meet. In addition, both husband and wife don't know how to coordinate and tolerate each other, and their daily life is full of negative energy, so the relationship is hard to deteriorate.
2. Work pressure
Nowadays, the pressure of social survival is increasing year by year, and the pressure of work is always with us, which often makes us breathless. If you can't find a suitable way to release your long-term stress, it will affect your marriage. Because emotions are contagious, irritable and impatient, I always feel that there is a fire in my heart and I am eager to vent. Once it is vented, it will escalate your contradictions.
3. Money
One of the common reasons for the failure of many marriages is money. People tend to feel insecure. They will feel that money can reassure them and make them happy. Many people want to take the initiative of money into their own hands. So many marital problems are caused by money.
4. Sex
One of the unavoidable topics between husband and wife is about "sex". Some people feel embarrassed and hurt, so they are unwilling to face or be vague on this issue. Obviously I have this need, but I refuse to say it directly, just thinking that the other party can understand his wishes. In fact, this is stupid. Since it is necessary to be honest when you decide to be a husband and wife, then sex can make people share happiness and deepen intimacy. Not treating them positively will only make both sides feel hurt.
My husband cheated me.
Another reason why a husband ignores his wife is cheating. But this kind of thing is best regarded as believing, otherwise the trust relationship will be destroyed because of a person's paranoia, which is a qualitative harm to marriage. Therefore, you must be cautious when you suspect that your husband is cheating. How does my husband usually behave when he cheats? For example, I often go out and sometimes I don't go home to sleep; Extremely nervous about telephone, information, WeChat QQ and other contact information; It's time to be alert to abnormal behaviors such as decreased demand for sexual life.
The reason why husbands neglect their wives.
Husband's sudden indifference will really make many women start to doubt. Or from a short-term cold war to a long-term cold war in repeated quarrels of distrust. In fact, when a husband begins to neglect himself, a woman should look for reasons from herself, even if the real reason is not herself. Because marriage needs to make some concessions to adapt to each other, of course, this premise is not to lose your bottom line. Love is different from marriage itself. After marriage, men will focus more on other aspects and ignore their concern for women. This is the most common phenomenon in real marriage. But the more women think about it, the more they feel that something is wrong. Even her husband's eyes are full of doubts and doubts. If the husband has a good temper, he just says "I don't care about you" and turns away. If the husband has a bad temper, the war at home will break out again. So, when you feel that your husband is cold to you, don't treat you like this. Instead, we use communication to resolve and understand each other's ideas, so that we won't be suspicious. Although it is common for men to cheat in society now, please don't doubt your husband without evidence, otherwise it will destroy the trust between husband and wife. Husband's indifference to you may be because he is too busy at work, too tired, and has no social interaction, or because of the pressure of family chores. At this time, the woman should give gentle comfort and let the other person realize that you will always be by his side, and the situation between husband and wife may be eased. In addition, it may be that women themselves have problems and they don't know it. If it is because of family reasons, then you might as well give your husband some proper authority to make him feel respected. If you lose your charm, you might as well start with improving your self-image and let your husband's eyes return to you. Of course, if your husband is really having an affair, then you should also reflect on what is the problem between you and your husband. Marriage is not easy to manage, and everything goes wrong, which may lead to family breakdown. If the above situation occurs, please observe carefully, try to find a way patiently, and don't get angry easily, resulting in an irreparable ending.
Women are easily left out by their husbands when they do these things.
1. I don't support husband socialization.
Treat her husband's friends, especially his friends of the opposite sex, with a very unfriendly attitude and may abuse them. Over time, your husband will be alienated by the friends around him. Naturally, the chances of getting rich are getting less and less every day. Women don't have to be mean
2. Live a life of excess income.
Everything about clothes and jewelry should be the best, regardless of the balance of payments. Such a woman, no matter how much money a man earns, is enough for her to spend. Don't trust Zhang Xiaohui. Two diamond-rated men have been heavily in debt by her. Although you can say that she is the best among women, you can't deny that she lost her husband. Such a woman is terrible.
I like spreading gossip.
Gossip about my husband and colleagues, attack colleagues' wives and teachers behind their backs, and create some troubles with gossip. Don't worry, it won't be long before you and your husband can't stand in the office.
4. disrespect your husband
Act like a boss, constantly pointing out her husband's work and scolding her husband's shortcomings. He is a clerk outside and a clerk at home. He is equally humble. After a long time, you will find that your husband seems to be going to be a clerk.
I like making fun of my husband.
I like to tell my husband's private life to outsiders. Of course, these things will give you endless jokes, and you will become the most popular figure among your husband and friends around you. People may praise your natural humor, but it won't be long before your praise turns into a mockery of your husband.
6. Ask him about his every move
Think of yourself as a private detective for a long time, ask him who he has lunch with, detect any clues between him and his female secretary, female client and colleague's wife, and regard any woman except himself as a fox to seduce men. With such a wife, why do men have a nervous breakdown?
7. nag and complain that he doesn't care about himself
Your husband needs to be with you all the time. As long as he works overtime or goes on a business trip, you must complain and complain. You should sacrifice for any other price. Only you are the most important and worthy of concern. Is it possible for a man to work easily with such a wife?
What should I do if I am excluded by my husband?
1. Learn to find the reason in your own hands.
When your husband suddenly starts to crowd you out and even ignores your existence, you must find the direct reason. Master, what's wrong? He will treat you like that, and he can find a stronger solution. If many women find that boys are just beginning to crowd out themselves, they will put their obligations on him. In fact, it seems unwise. When all problems appear, first find your own reasons. If your reason must be corrected immediately, if it is not your reason, then I can find the other party's reason and try to solve it.
2. Be sure to find out his heart.
If you want to keep your husband, you must first be a qualified wife in his heart and a suitable girl behind him. Therefore, at this time, it is more and more critical to know what his heart must be.
Don't make do with him
Don't always pass the buck. If he hates youth idol dramas, you don't have to force him to spend the rest of his life with himself. Listening to him ramble in the middle of the night is better than sleeping.
4. See if he is in a bad mood.
When your husband starts to push you out more and more, you'd better know what he is thinking. Only by understanding each other's thoughts can we solve the difficulties more strongly and not hurt each other's feelings. For example, if your husband has problems at work or in food, clothing, housing and transportation, you should immediately comfort each other and make them aware of your existence. To settle his troubles, use your gentle side to make boys feel warm.
5. Learn how to warm him up.
When your husband pushes you out, he won't tell you why, so you don't have to guess what he thinks, give full play to the advantages of women and have sex with them. He will know that you love her too, and he firmly believes that he will be angry with you because of your gentleness, which has softened him by more than half.