In fact, it is the so-called "home is in trouble." There must be certain rules for harmony between people. It's not that difficult for everyone.
As far as I know, some son-in-law are not very honest in front of their mother-in-law, but because they have touched the "bottom line" that they should not touch.
So here, I give you a man's advice: "The husband and wife have a good relationship, and the mother-in-law of these three mothers also gets help."
Husband and wife have good feelings, and the families of these three mothers can't help it.
First, the distribution of property in the mother's family.
I heard this a few days ago:
A girl has been married for two years. This girl has a brother.
Soon, the girl's grandmother died, leaving a small part of her property, and all the jewels were ready, so she planned to give her life.
The girl's husband heard that the girl was an eldest daughter. There should be more jewelry. Jewelry has a price. This man is unfair, too.
Its mouth is too big, and mother is very unhappy. She thinks this son-in-law will know that having a son at home will completely benefit them. How do foreigners mind their own affairs?
After that, the mother lost face to her son and daughter-in-law.
Although this is a family, it is a family, but some things can't be disturbed.
Property distribution is a family matter, because the son-in-law is a foreign professional and cannot be adjusted at will.
To put it bluntly, some mother-in-law listened to her son's daughter-in-law, probably thinking about her daughter or coming from the original place, but if I encounter the unknown, I can turn around. Both of them became slogans.
Therefore, I think it is not good to propose property distribution. Some mothers' motherhood will think you are "useless"
Secondly, about primary school students.
I have a cousin who has been looking for a foreign wife. I just got married. Xiaoyu moved to their new home. Every day, I go home, I go to work, I don't do this, I don't delay, I can even wash clothes.
Cousin wants to help Scorpio find a job. After the introduction, I think it's not too boring. I'm too busy. I didn't quit. Later, someone came to the door and said the little scorpion owed money. My cousin just said something that was not closed. My name is 1 10, and the little scorpion will come back to my house soon.
I believe that many men get married after marriage. Will it bother you?
Here, I suggest that everyone is busy with scorpions, which is appropriate.
This person will habitually rely on you. The more you get, the more I depend on you. Finally, I am finally a problem, even a case with an ending. I owed a lot of money, but I didn't come back Therefore, no matter how busy Scorpio is, he won't help, but you can't let your opponent's transition depend on your own help.
After all, the most important task of a man is to take care of his wife and children, and filial piety is enough.
The third is the contradiction between mother, family and relatives.
A reader wrote to me and said:
My mother's mother and their family are a little unhappy. Once my wife and I go back to my mother, I am always a bitch. I saw a bottle of wine at home, and I said I would try to get it back.
My mother's mother is a fierce master, but it is impossible to say that this big aunt is beautiful. Greedy head didn't pass through here, and then Dazhou was said to be embarrassed and panicked, so he shouted back.
If you meet me next time, I don't know how to play.
After reading this letter, my idea is: don't interfere, try not to interfere.
In every family, there will always be some relatives, and relatives have a very normal thing.
If my son and daughter-in-law show up, I will gossip. If mom and mom are even more impossible, isn't this an obvious elbow?
So, if mom and relatives have problems, you can try to do so, not too good, so you don't want to help, don't want to be good, and every family will have its own way to deal with it.
After a man gets married, just remember that the only thing you have to bear is the responsibility of this small family. You can only live up to your wife and children. You can care about them, just like your mother's family. If they ask you for help and you don't help, you can give some advice. Then you must know what you think.
After all, a good family between husband and wife is the only thing you have to do, and nothing else.