The craziest objects of struggle in The Legend of Mi Yue are Mi Yue (Sun Li) and Mishu (Tamia Liu). Let's analyze their growing experiences!
Mi Zhu's mother is his wife, Empress Wei, and she has superb power-seeking skills. Even if she finally loses her husband's love, she can be blessed by heaven and become the real ruler of Chu. It can only be said that this is a successful "female politician" rather than a "wife", let alone a successful "mother". Although she succeeded in helping her son Mi Zhu succeed to the throne of Chu Huaiwang, her daughter Mi Zhu married the State of Qin and became a queen. However, the obsession with beauty almost ruined Chu's whole future. Mi Yi, though free from vulgarity in appearance and omnipotent in poetry, music, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, had too many rules and regulations in her heart, lacked a definite view in her personality and didn't know how to weigh the pros and cons according to the situation. In the end, she lost to Mi Yue.
Mi Yue, my mother was just a waitress. She died when she was very young. It is appropriate to say that her childhood was completely unconstrained. She is very free. She can climb trees, catch crickets and do whatever children want. As she grew up, she also understood her responsibilities cognitively and dared to express her emotions. In those years of mourning for her father, she studied embroidery and knew herbs, and she never let go of anything she could learn. She can distinguish between good and evil, dare to say what she wants to say, and never wronged herself. This is especially the difference between heaven and earth. All this has also made her indomitable, dare to fight for herself and be flexible. It is no exaggeration to say that the personality factors created in childhood have influenced her later life, even the process of competing for the throne!
Children can easily become copies of their mothers. Before becoming a mother, Uncle Mi didn't understand her behavior at all! However, when she became a mother, she did the same thing as her mother. Even, even the experience is completely consistent. There is no doubt that this screenwriter is from psychology?
Wei Hou, Mishu's mother. Chu Weiwang completely lost her trust before she died, and tried to oust her son from the position of prince. Mi Fei, when her husband, King Qin Huiwen, was dying, they had completely lost trust and their son was almost ousted. The only difference is that Qin Huiwen secretly left a testament before his death, which of course paved the way for the following plot. Wei Hou buried Mi Yue and his younger brother Mi Fei with Chu Weiwang. Similarly, Mi Fei also buried Mi Yue and Ji Qin with King Qin Huiwen.
There is also a part of the mantra that we usually hear most often from our parents, and it is also the most likely to affect the next generation:
As a result, Yi Shu's explanation of his behavior is exactly the same as that of Wei Hou:
Perhaps, it is this kind of love that made him die (Qin Huiwen made him swear not to kill his brother before he died, otherwise he would die. Then under the discipline of his mother, he broke his promise.
Mi Yue's growth, if you say that she is an unloved wild child, it is completely wrong. She has an aunt kwai. In Mi Yue's life, Kwai Gu is more like a mother. She gives love and inner strength, and nurtures her to grow. Although Kwai Gu's status is low, her life is the best example of living in the present. Low birth status leads to many things without those so-called connections, but in the face of every setback (when I was a child, Mi Yue's brothers and sisters were buried together, and she held them and gave them warmth; Being rushed to the cemetery to guard the tomb, she tried to embroider to make money and try to survive. She also used her time to teach Mi Yue to play the flute and identify herbs with female doctors ...)
It is said that the elder sister is like a mother, and her education of her younger brother Weasion Wei fully respects the children's own wishes. In his early years, Weasion Wei wanted to follow General Sima into the barracks. The battlefield was dangerous and he was speechless. He entered the military camp at a young age, and General Sima also advised Mi Yue to be cautious. However, Mi Yue said, "Men and women who avoid him temporarily can't avoid him all their lives …" She respected and supported the child's wishes! If it isn't the best parent!
In Mi Yue's mind, Kwai Gu is like a mother. In the face of Kwai Gu's death, she wished she could die. Isn't this a child's deepest love for his mother?
Mi Yue: "The moon has backbone with you."
Gu Kui: "When the moon is bigger, you can make your own decision."
Mi Yue: "I don't want it. I'd rather die by myself."
For Mi Yue, "Starfighter" is more like psychological hypnosis, which is the so-called "Rosenthal effect" in education:
1968 One day, American psychologist Rosenthal and his assistant came to a primary school and said that they would conduct seven experiments. They selected three classes from Grade One to Grade Six, and conducted a "future development trend test" for the students in this 18 class. After that, Rosenthal handed a list of "most promising people" to the principal and related teachers in a favorable tone, and told them to keep it secret so as not to affect the correctness of the experiment. In fact, Rosenthal told an "authoritative lie" because the students on the list were randomly selected. Eight months later, Rosenthal and his assistants re-examined the students in Class 18. As a result, a miracle appeared: all the students on the list made great progress in their grades, and they were lively and cheerful, confident and eager to learn, and more willing to deal with people.
Obviously, Rosenthal's "authoritative lie" played a role. This lie has a hint to the teacher, which affects the teacher's evaluation of the students' ability on the list. The teacher gives this psychological active communication to the students through his emotions, language and behavior, which makes the students become more self-respecting, self-loving, confident and self-reliant, thus making extraordinary progress in all aspects. Later, people called it "Rosenthal effect", that is, people's behavior changed as expected because of the expectations and love of others (especially "authoritative others" like teachers and parents).
Judging from Mi Yue's experience, this bully is more like being pushed up step by step. Because of Wei Hou and Yu Yin, she failed to live an ordinary life with her childhood friends. Is like Mi Zhu to Qin Wei servant; Because of the battle in Qin harem, she became a maid and became the son of Qin Huiwen. Because of love, she did not take her child Ying Ji to Bashu to enjoy her old age, but went to Yan. Along the way, everyone thought she was a "bully" and treated her like this. Even if she didn't believe it at first, she finally began to wake up. There is no one in the world to rely on, so she can only go by herself. ...
The greatest wealth that Kwai Gu brought to Mi Yue was "living in the present". In the face of difficulties, don't stay in them, but try to face and deal with them. Isn't this the best way to live in the present? Facing the burnt-out house, Kwai Gu's death, jewelry theft and all family members, she thought:
This is also the most common way for Kwai Gu to face difficulties. Is to find resources from yourself and never complain.
Faced with such a dilemma, the child lives in a servant's room with air leakage. It is snowy outside, but there is nothing to keep warm. Children are not troubled, but * * * to find a way together. Even if it is bamboo slips, he still cuts them with his mother, hoping to come in handy! Such words and deeds are so similar to those of Mi Yue and Gugui!
Faced with hunger, children can't bear it. Mi Yue told her children the story of "Jin Wengong Zhong Er"-Zhong Er was exiled 19 years, with no food and clothing, but in the end he became the overlord of a generation. Ji Qin also saw that the two maids around her were important people around Zhong Er at the moment, and treated life with a grateful heart. It is better to find another way than to beat around the bush in difficulties. The difficulty is only temporary!
As for children, isn't "Jin Wengong" her encouragement and education for children? Rosenthal effect!
In fact, the power of life, we have enough. Just like Ji Qin, this kid. As parents, even if they arrange everything for their children, institutions of higher learning, chess, calligraphy and painting, and even a so-called beautiful marriage. But who is the criterion for judging all this? Parents themselves, not children themselves. Children, it is important to nourish with "love", make everything look like live high, and show your existing style!
Ji Qin eventually became emperor, and against his mother's wishes, he launched a coup to protect his own interests. He was also a good emperor of the Qin Dynasty in history. After he succeeded to the throne, the state of Qin continued to develop and strengthen, and its national strength was further enhanced. His contribution, especially in the battle of Changping, laid the cornerstone of the great cause of Qin Dynasty's reunification. He is good at employing people, decisive and courageous, and has made great contributions to the country and the people. I have to say that this is closely related to his growth since childhood!
Perhaps, the best education is never the so-called bitterness, but to live the true self and live a wonderful life, and the children will naturally follow!