Nixon is the president of the United States that we are very familiar with, but it is such a great man who ruined his political future because of an unconfident mistake. 1972, Nixon was re-elected. Because of his outstanding achievements in his first term, most political commentators predicted that Nixon would win by a landslide. However, Nixon himself was not confident. He can't get out of the psychological shadow of past failures and is extremely worried about failing again. Driven by this subconscious, he did a stupid thing that he regretted for life. He assigned his men to sneak into the Watergate Hotel at his opponent's headquarters and put a bug in his opponent's office. After the incident, he repeatedly stopped investigating and shirked his responsibility, and was forced to resign shortly after winning the election. Nixon, who was a shoo-in, was defeated for lack of self-confidence.
The other is the story of Seiji Ozawa's triumph over self-confidence.
Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous symphony conductor. In the final of a world-class conductor competition, he played according to the score given by the jury, and keenly found the discordant voice. At first, he thought the band had made a mistake, so he stopped to play again, but it was still wrong. He thinks there is something wrong with music. At this time, the composer present and the authority of the jury insisted that there was absolutely no problem with the score, but he was wrong. Facing a lot of music masters and authorities, he thought over and over again, and finally said firmly and loudly, "No! There must be something wrong with the score! " As soon as his voice fell, the judges on the bench immediately stood up and gave him warm applause to congratulate him on winning the game.
A young man said to the wise man, "Teacher, I don't think I can do anything well." Nobody takes me seriously. What should I do? The wise man said, "my son, I sympathize with your experience, but I can't help you because I have to deal with my own problems first." The wise man paused for a moment and said, "If you are willing to help me, I can solve the problem quickly, and then maybe I can help you." "all right." The young man hesitated for a moment, then said. So the wise man sat down, took a ring from his finger, handed it to the young man, and said, "Go to the market and sell this ring, because I need money to pay my debts. "The more money you exchange, the better. In any case, it cannot be less than 1 gold coin. " The young man went to the market, but after hearing the young man say that the lowest price of the ring should not be lower than 1 gold coin, some people in the market laughed. Some people said that the young man was out of his mind, and only a kind old lady told the young man that his asking price was too high. Young people walked through the market and peddled rings everywhere, but no one wanted to pay 1 gold coins. The young man came back depressed. He wished he had 1 gold coins, so that he could give the money to the wise man to help him pay his debts, and the wise man could give him advice and help. The young man said, "Sorry, teacher, I can't meet your requirements." Maybe I can get two or three silver coins, but I don't think that should be the real value of this ring. ""Young friend, you are absolutely right. The wise man smiled and said, "if you go to the jewelry store again, no one knows its value better than the jeweler." You tell the jeweler that I want to sell the ring and ask him how much he can pay, but don't really sell the ring. You can bring it back after asking the price. The jeweler looked at the ring carefully and said, "Tell your teacher that if he wants to sell the ring, I can give him 58 gold coins at most." ""58 gold coins! " The young man shouted yes. The jeweler said, "If you are not in a hurry, I can pay 70 gold coins, but if you are in a hurry to get rid of them." ... the young man ran back excitedly and told the wise man what had happened. The wise man said, "you are like this ring, precious and unique." Only experts can really judge your value. "How can you expect someone in your life to find your true value?" The wise man put the ring back on his finger. After we enter the life market, we hope that inexperienced people will affirm our value. That true value is often easily destroyed and buried.
A little boy went to his backyard with a cap, bat and baseball. "I am the greatest batter in the world," he said confidently. Throw the ball into the air, swing hard, but miss. Undaunted, he threw it into the air again and shouted, "I am the best batter." He swung again, but he still failed. He looked blankly for a long time and carefully examined the bat and baseball. He stood up and tried again. This time he still told himself: "I am the best batter." However, his third attempt failed. "Wow!" He jumped up suddenly. "I'm a first-class pitcher!" "
There was a female singer who was very nervous when she first performed on stage. Thinking that I am going to play soon, I sweated in front of thousands of audiences: "What if I forget the lyrics nervously on stage?" The more she thought about it, the faster her heart beat, and even she had the idea of backing out.
At this time, an elder came over with a smile, stuffed a paper roll into her hand and whispered, "There are lyrics you want to sing. If you forget the words on the stage, open them and read them. " Holding this note, she hurried onto the stage like a lifeline. Maybe with the paper roll in her hand, her heart will be much more practical. She performed quite well on the stage and was not crazy at all.
She walked off the platform happily and thanked the elder. The elder smiled and said, "You have defeated yourself and regained your confidence. In fact, what I gave you was a blank sheet of paper with no lyrics written on it! " She unfolded the paper roll in her hand, and sure enough, nothing was written on it. To her surprise, holding a blank sheet of paper, she successfully overcame the difficulties and achieved the success of the performance.
"This piece of white paper in your hand is not white paper, it is your confidence!" The elder said.
The singer thanked his predecessors. In her later life, she overcame one difficulty after another with confidence and achieved success again and again.
An entrepreneurial consulting company did an interesting experiment: ten volunteers were gathered from a group of entrepreneurs. First, these ten people walked through a very dark house. Under the guidance of the host, all ten people passed smoothly. Then the host turned on a light in the room. In the dim light, the volunteers saw everything in the room clearly and broke out in a cold sweat. The floor of this house is a big pool. There are more than a dozen crocodiles in the pool. There is a narrow wooden bridge above the pool. They just walked through it. The host asked, "Now, which one of you would like to walk through this house again?" No one answered. After a long time, three brave people stood up. One of them walked carefully, much slower than the first time; The other stepped on the small wooden bridge trembling, and when he was halfway there, he climbed over. The third one just took a few steps when he suddenly fell down and never dared to move a step forward again. The host turned on the other nine lights in the room, which made the room look like day and night. At this time, the volunteers saw a safety net under the small wooden bridge, but they didn't see it at all because the color of the net wire was extremely light. "Now, who wants to cross this small wooden bridge?" The host asked. This time, five people came forward again. "Why don't you want to?" The host asked the remaining two people. "Is this safe and secure?" Two people asked in unison.
The first place was chased badly. A little boy came home from a long run. His father was very happy to see him and asked, Did you win the first prize? He said: No, I won the second place. Father is very strange: why are you so happy when you win the second place? Do you know what the little boy said He said: Dad, you know, I don't know how badly I chased the first one! This is the child's mentality. If each of us has such a mentality of pursuing success, what does it matter if our opponents have already run ahead of us?