One day, the hostess Wang Manni was selling goods at her luxury counter when an ordinary-looking woman came in.

At that time, other shop assistants advised Wang Manni to ignore it, because a lady like this might not be able to afford anything in the shop. But unexpectedly, when Wang Manni received her warmly, the lady even offered to buy a set of jewelry sets worth millions, which shocked countless people.

Why did a lady with plain clothes and vegetables in her bag suddenly buy a million-dollar jewel? When Ms. Chen told her story, she suddenly realized.

It turns out that this lady has a happy family. She and her husband started from scratch and lived a very rich life.

Until one day, the government demolished their two plots of land, gave subsidies, and finally realized financial freedom, and everything changed.

Not worried about the money, Ms. Chen's husband immediately brought the woman who was raised outside, and then drove Ms. Chen out of the house who had worked hard with him for most of her life.

"When the woman was well maintained and stood in front of me, I looked at myself again and couldn't compare with it. Now the money is there, but the home is gone. I don't think about anything now, just want to spend money to make up for what I missed before. "

Ms. Chen's description seems to be an understatement, but in fact, her heart has already been sad to the extreme.

A woman devoted all her youth to her family, unwilling to eat or wear, but in the end all this became the reason for her to give up on herself, instead of getting her husband's understanding. How sad.

Now Ms. Chen is rich and has countless jewels that women dream of, but can these offset her pain now? Obviously not.

Ms. Chen's marriage failed because she met an irresponsible man. But if we delve into the root of her misery, there are actually three reasons.

One: blindly trust the other half

The philosopher Mr. Zhou said in his article "There is no paradise in marriage":

"Marriage is a signal that two people's love seems to have a limit, and then it will cool down, properly distance themselves, become two independent people again, and walk the road of life hand in hand. However, people often misunderstand this signal. Instead, they think that marriage is more integrated, and the result is constant disputes. "

Many women regard marriage as an unbreakable guarantee, and always think that once they enter the marriage hall, it means that their feelings will never change.

But in fact, passionate feelings are not necessarily eternal. Real feelings are always changeable. They can withstand the wind and waves, but they may not be able to withstand the torture of daily necessities. It can keep each other together during that painful time, but when dawn comes, it may not be as brave as before.

Even if this man loves you with all his strength, there is no guarantee that he will not leave you for other things in the future. So don't blindly trust your feelings, and always leave yourself a room to retreat on the basis of proper understanding.

Only in this way can we be less vulnerable.

Two: regard family as everything.

Ms. Chen has worked hard for half her life, all for that family, that man. But when I was betrayed, I found that even though I got countless money, I was wandering around like an empty shell without family.

For women, family is very important, but it is definitely not everything.

When we put all our chips in one basket, life will be very passive. If one day this basket suddenly disappears, all life may fall apart in an instant.

At any time, women should have their own interests or sustenance outside the family. It can be a kind of relaxation and enrichment of busy family life. It can also become a harbor when you are betrayed and find a home for the injured soul.

With it, life can avoid some unnecessary risks.

Three: don't know how to love yourself.

Ms. Chen said that she had hardly bought anything for herself in her half life. The only good bag was given to her by her husband on her birthday. It's really helpless to think of it.

People will meet many people in this life, but no matter who they are, they are not as important as themselves.

As Wilde once said, "Love yourself is the beginning of a romantic life."

A woman who knows how to love herself can release her beauty and please others in her tender years. But if you don't know how to love yourself, when you are busy for others all day, you will only miss the opportunity to cherish yourself in the hard work day after day. By the time we were disappointed, it was too late.

No one will love another person wholeheartedly. If you don't love yourself, everything is in vain.

In real life, a woman who doesn't love herself and puts all her heart and soul into her family seems to live the hardest, but in fact she is also the easiest to suffer.

Sometimes we should think, what is the meaning of marriage?

In fact, the so-called marriage is not a task that needs to be completed. You must work hard to get good grades. In fact, it is just a way to make life happier. The reason why we need marriage is to make life happier.

Marriage pleases us, not us.

Therefore, if you want a happy marriage, you must first learn to love yourself.

Only by loving yourself can others have no chance to let themselves down. Only by loving ourselves can we have more power to love others. Only by loving yourself can marriage exert its greatest value.

So, don't lose yourself in marriage. We need to dedicate ourselves to marriage, but we should also find our own happiness in marriage.

Listen to your heart, think for yourself, enjoy your present life and won't regret it in the future.

May we all become better ourselves in marriage and enjoy a happier marriage.