If you want a man to take the initiative to spend money for you, a woman should at least do this: let a man feel that he has a head start. If you feel it with your heart, you can know that one of the reasons why men are increasingly reluctant to spend money on women is that they feel hopeless, and when men feel hopeful in this relationship, they are naturally willing to continue to pay. Take my friend's experience as an example, you may understand it better. My friend Yuan You has a girlfriend who has been in love for three years. When she first started dating, Yuan You was very generous. Of course, at that time, Yuan You also made a lot of money. She bought gifts for her girlfriend, all of which were thousands of flowers, and she didn't feel bad at all. I remember that Yuan You spent 30,000 yuan to buy a bag for his girlfriend. At that time, our monthly salary was less than 5,000 yuan, and we all called Yuan You crazy. Isn't it good to travel for 30 thousand yuan? Why buy a bag? Such an ugly thing is a waste. On the other hand, Yuan You said that it is sometimes necessary to give gifts to women. Just looking at the price can make the other person happy. Why not do such a thing? Of course, we all disagree with Yuan You's idea. In this way, Yuan You lavished gifts for about a year. We haven't seen Yuan You buy anything for his girlfriend since the second year of our relationship. We made fun of Yuan You's lack of money, and we still thought that the old couple could be tied together without sending them away. I didn't expect Yuan You to say neither, because he didn't think it was worth the money. Because no matter how expensive gifts he sends or how much money he spends on his girlfriend, he can't feel the happiness and happiness of his girlfriend, and he doesn't know from her performance that she thinks he is worth marrying. After a long time, he couldn't get feedback from his girlfriend, so he naturally didn't want to send it again. We are considerate. But before we could react, we found that soon after, Yuan You began to spend money lavishly on his girlfriend. His behavior completely puzzled us. It turned out that Yuan You's girlfriend realized her own problems. Yuan You gives gifts and spends money too often, which makes her feel that it is right to do so. After a long time and more times, I naturally got used to it and didn't respond. But when she found that Yuan You would never give her anything or spend money for her again, she realized that she had done something wrong. When a man is so sincere to himself, how can he not respond? Or even the most basic sense of expressing love is gone. After a long time, the other party is naturally no longer willing to pay like this. Realizing this problem, Yuan You's girlfriend made a change, and even took the initiative to say to Yuan You, thank you for your efforts and money over the years. Now that their relationship is so stable, they know each other better. Can we put marriage on the agenda? Yuan You was ecstatic at his girlfriend's words. He once thought that his girlfriend didn't have the heart to get married, so he was disheartened and didn't want to pay like a fool. Now, his girlfriend appreciates his efforts and offers to further develop the relationship, which makes him feel that this relationship has expectations and hopes, and he is naturally more willing to pay for his girlfriend. Through Yuan You's experience, we can get such a revelation. No one can continue to pay without complaint. Almost everyone subconsciously desires that their efforts can be rewarded, and this reward is not money or anything else, as long as the other party makes them feel that they have expectations for this relationship. Seeing this, everyone should understand, especially women. If you want a man to spend money for you and never complain, make him feel that every penny he spends for you is worth it. There are many ways to make the other person feel worthwhile, such as spending almost the same amount of money for him or making him feel that your relationship is promising and you love him. It's only a matter of time before you accept him or make the right choice. When he receives this message from you, he naturally feels that this relationship has a beginning and is willing to continue to pay for you, including taking the initiative to spend money for you. Of course, some women may think that they can't make a commitment to each other, or it is not convenient to hint at the future direction of their feelings. This is actually normal. After all, marriage needs to be cautious and think twice before you act. But even if you can't do this, at least let the other person feel that you are happy because he spends money for you. More importantly, praise the other person in time and express your love for him. If the other person spends money for you, he won't get your feedback, or even just get a thank you. That's a long time, and he won't continue to spend money for you no matter how much he loves you. In the relationship between men and women, some people really don't ask for anything in return, but most people are still eager to be valued by the other side emotionally. When the other person realizes that the relationship between you is two-way, there will naturally be a steady stream of motivation to pay in this relationship. May all women understand this truth and don't chill the hearts of men who are willing to pay for you; I also hope that all men can get effective feedback from each other after paying for women. How to make men spend money for you? 2 Many women find it particularly embarrassing to make men spend money for themselves. In their view, love is a very simple thing, and we should stay away from "money". It's best not to discuss money, otherwise the feelings will not be simple. But the truth is, when you get along with a man, you must talk about money, otherwise you won't even know whether he really loves you or just plays with you. You have to understand that it is ungrounded to talk about romantic love only. If two people want to go on for a long time, they must settle their love and walk into the plain life of daily necessities. And a day full of fireworks, it is impossible not to involve money. Therefore, smart women must talk about money when getting along with men. Of course, talking about money is also about skills. Women should understand that if a man loves you enough, he is willing to pay for your feelings. Want to know how to make men willing to spend money for you? Want to know, you must not miss the novel "Xibao" written by Yi Shu. In the eyes of many people, Xibao is a top fisherman and a woman who is willing to sell her youth for money. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Xibao himself said: I don't mind selling my youth. Youth will pass without selling. But Xibao is also skillful in exchanging youth for money. All the men who love her know that she only has money in her heart, but they are still willing to give it to her and support her. The men in the story are not stupid, and all kinds of men can take the initiative to spend money for her because Xibao's emotional intelligence is extraordinary. In reality, many women want men to spend money for themselves, but they can't find a way. In fact, they can get some inspiration by learning the way Jiang Xibao gets along with men. When getting along with men, women don't need to ask for money, because being too direct will make men bored and make you humble. Smart women know how to talk to men about their needs in a roundabout way, and let men naturally spend money for themselves in a seemingly casual way without resentment. For example, in the name of two people spending money together, they want to travel together, watch cherry blossoms together, make men happy, and do whatever they want. Why not? Some women are smarter. She likes one thing, but she just doesn't say it. She invited a man to her home, dressed up to receive him and prepared a big dinner. Everything is like a romantic party, but women's eyes always glance at jewelry. When a man sees that a woman likes it, he turns his head and sends it to the woman's door the next day. Xibao is such a smart woman. She will be hypocritically jealous and make Xu Cunzi feel that she cares about him. In order to make up for her beauty, Xu Village gave her a lot of money to go shopping. Women should know how to use men's psychology. If he doesn't want to pay too much for you, let him feel indebted to you. At this time, he naturally agreed to your request. Xibao asked Xu Cunzi if the woman he liked lived in the best house, and then told him that he was bullied by his daughter. Thinking of Xibao's grievance, I didn't tell everyone, so I put her in her favorite house, where no one would disturb her, where she could be herself with peace of mind. In the relationship between two people, the topic of money is always unavoidable. When inadvertently mentioned, you can pretend to talk about your favorite, so that the next time a man wants to buy you a souvenir, he can buy what you like at once. This is also a way for men to take the initiative to spend money for you. It should be mentioned occasionally in daily life. Although he may not feel it once or twice, he will think of you when he sees it in the next shopping mall. This is what you mentioned many times. When men carefully prepare gifts for you, they must show special surprises and give them encouragement. Maybe the gift your boyfriend bought is not what you like, but don't dampen his enthusiasm. Make sure he will continue to spend money for you next time. You know, if he prepares a gift for you seriously, but you still refuse, he will find it particularly boring to prepare a gift for you, and he won't want to buy it for you next time he sees a nice gift. Men need to adjust themselves slowly. Maybe he didn't understand it once or twice at first, and the things he bought were not what you liked. Then you can praise him and tell him some of your preferences, so that he can understand your mind better when he buys something next time. The more a person is praised, the more he wants to perform well. When a man loves you, he is actually like a child. He always wants your praise. He went to great lengths to prepare gifts for you and spent a lot of money, but he just wanted a compliment from you. And some women are obviously happy, but they always say that men spend money everywhere. This kind of situation is much more, and men are naturally too lazy to spend money for her. Therefore, when a man spends money for you, there is no need to rush to show the appearance of a "good wife" who saves money for him. He likes you, so he bought you a present. Just holding a carefully prepared gift. How to get men to spend money for you? A man pays for you, which is called doting. Buying gifts for yourself can only be called self-love. If men and women get along, men are unwilling to pay for you, including time, mind and money, which only shows that men don't love you deeply enough. Don't make any excuses for his meanness and meanness, or you will deceive yourself. As long as men are not lazy, they have the ability to pay for you. It's just a matter of how much. A man with greater ability can buy you luxury goods, and a man with lesser ability can buy you ordinary things. Can't he be broke? A miser is emotional and will shake off a few feathers, not to mention a big man. As long as he moves the true feelings, he will definitely pay for you, but men who are unwilling to pay are basically not sincere, with few exceptions. In fact, it is not that women can't buy what they like, but prefer to receive gifts, especially those from men they love deeply. This feeling is wonderful, symbolizing that you are loved and cared for, and you are happier than buying ten gifts, which is why women like to bask in gifts in a circle of friends. If a girl has the ability, she needs everything, in other words, she can buy anything she wants at any time, but if a man she loves deeply gives it to her, it means something different. She will take photos and show off in her circle of friends to prove that she is loved. However, in fact, many men just don't understand women's hearts and always feel that they are married. What sense of ceremony do they care about? For example, Valentine's Day, birthdays, anniversaries, and so on, don't be so grand, just fry two dishes to celebrate. But women naturally like romance and attach great importance to these rituals. It can even be said that they rely on these ceremonial feelings to save the girl's heart. What can you do if you deviate from them?