The word "heirloom" means farming and reading, and the word "wealth" means diligence.

The word "settle down" means giving up and forbearing, and the word "defending home" means thief and thief.

Family destruction is called whoring, and family destruction is called violence.

Among them, the word "death" means whoring and meanness, and the word "defeat" means violence and ferocity. It reveals three reasons why a family is declining.

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If the family style is wrong, the disaster is not far away.

It is better to do everything possible to accumulate virtue and do good deeds, carry goods and support the family. The most important thing for a family is a good family style.

As the saying goes, "Germany has been handed down for more than ten generations, and it has been cultivated and studied, and its poems and books are rich, but only three generations."

No matter in what era, family style is the root of the rise and fall of a family.

An excellent family and a pair of excellent parents are not how many deposits, houses and cars they leave their children, but how much life wisdom they give their children through their words and deeds.

There is an old saying: "Steal needles when you are young, and steal gold when you are old." "

A couple, they have a clever child. Once, the child stole a vendor's needle, and his mother praised him when he got home.

Slowly, the children began to steal other people's corn and other crops, and the mother never stopped after she knew it.

Later, I grew up and became a professional thief. He stole many cows, horses, gold, silver and jewels, and was finally caught by the government. Because he stole too much, he had to ask after autumn.

Before being beheaded, he asked the supervisor, "I want to eat my mother's milk again."

It happened that his mother was seeing him off, so he met his requirements. Unexpectedly, he bit off his mother's nipple and said, "My mother didn't stop stealing when I was young. Now you are the reason why I have to be beheaded, so I hate you very much."

From the words and deeds and every move of the parents' generation, the education and atmosphere of a family are conveyed.

Be virtuous and carry things, and be kind to support your family. Family style is positive, no matter how poor you are, you can make a fortune; If the family style is not correct, no matter how rich it is, it will be ruined.

The best feng shui for a family is a good family style!

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If the family is not harmonious, there will be disaster.

Family is the most important shelter for people, and 70% of our emotions, joys and sorrows are related to family.

A family full of quarrels all day is like an ice cave. You can feel the chill as soon as you enter the door.

For example, if you disagree with your child's opinion, the child will be stiff; Have a bad relationship with your lover and make a big noise for three or five days; Have trouble with brothers and sisters and have a bad relationship. ...

Research shows that most criminals have lived in an unharmonious family since childhood.

The Book of Rites says: "Father and son are faithful, brothers are harmonious, husband and wife are harmonious, and the family is fat." Parents and children have deep feelings, brothers and sisters live in harmony, and husband and wife are United. Such a family must be a happy family.

If a family lives, accommodates and accommodates, there will be peace.

People who are willing to lose are not bad at eloquence. They only know that there is no winning or losing at home, only tolerance.

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Spoiled offspring, endless troubles.

I heard a friend tell me something about his hometown before. There are three people in the family. My parents run a small shop and my daughter is in college.

Due to the development of e-commerce, small shop business is difficult to do. Sometimes the couple are busy for a month and can't even get the rent. Couples usually eat at noon, and even dare not order a leek.

However, after her daughter went to college, she asked her parents for an Apple mobile phone when she came back from her first holiday, saying that it was too fall in price to lift her head in front of her friends.

Then her parents dragged on for a month and squeezed out 8000 yuan to buy a mobile phone for her daughter.

Daughter is still not satisfied. She wants a mobile phone, a computer and a bag. I owed a large loan without even telling my family. Finally, I found out that my parents had sold the house before paying off the loan.

Such examples are not uncommon in life.

How many children are spoiled by their parents and become vampires and neets. No matter how thick your family is, you will lose everything.

There is no pain in life for nothing, and there is no road for nothing. If you don't let your child suffer now, the world will let him suffer.

To really love a child is not to shelter him from the wind and rain, but to teach him how to face and overcome the storm.

No one can live well, and parents can't always bless them, so that their children can suffer properly and resist the hardships of life.

How can families thrive?

It is also mentioned in the explanation of the Book of Filial Piety. Simply put, it is "Don't be suspicious, don't listen to the words of alienation, don't be angry, and don't be dedicated to the public."

1, tolerance and understanding

Old people can understand children's hard work, and children can cherish their parents' efforts. I am tired, you bring me tea and water, you are ill, I will take good care of you.

No one is perfect, and neither are family members. They all have one problem or another. If you can understand each other's difficulties and are willing to think from each other's point of view, the contradiction will naturally be eliminated.

2. Communicate in time

As a family, communication is the most important.

If you think the food is salty, say it, and put less salt next time; If you think the room is dirty, speak up and clean it when you have time.

As long as many things are said, they are not a big problem at first, for fear that they will be kept in their hearts, leading to more and more contradictions.

If there is no communication between families, even luxury and luxury are boring.

Living in a family with temperature, loving partner and lovely children, it is enough for the family to be happy and accompany each other day and night. It is enough to see their smiling faces and hear their warm words every day.

Step 3 be thrifty

It's hard to think about a porridge and a meal, but it's hard to keep thinking about it.

The food doesn't need to be good, just enough; Don't buy too many clothes, just wear enough; Mobile phones don't need to be expensive, just enough.

There is no need to compare with others, just live your own life.

Diligence is not stingy, saving is not not not consuming, the key is not wasting, making the best use of everything. You can't save the money you should spend, but try to save the money you shouldn't spend.

4. Accumulate virtue and do good deeds

There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: a good family must have Qing Yu; A poor house will be a disaster.

Character is the best passport. In this life, people should be human first, and then do things. Only by doing people well can we do things with ease.

If he doesn't know how to be a man, his character is poor, and his words and deeds are not correct, even if he is smart and rich, his future will be hindered and his life will be affected.