Tolerance should also have certain principles. Some things can be tolerated and some things can't. Patience is an advanced art of survival and the road to success in life.
We must be cautious about patience.
A person's life is only a few decades. Who doesn't want to make a career in this world and leave a lifetime reputation? However, people in this world can do many things, but they can achieve great success. Why is this happening? Because a successful person not only has various subjective and objective conditions, but also has extraordinary psychological quality, forbearance is one of them.
Confucius once said, "A little tolerance leads to great mischief." In other words, if we can't stand the interference of one thing and one thing, and can't resist the small desires and demands, it will affect the overall situation and even disrupt the major events that are being realized.
Endure the small and strive for the big, that is, we should look at the current small right and wrong with a broad eye, ignore the temporary gains and losses, eliminate all kinds of interference, resist the temptation of all kinds of small utilitarianism, and clear the obstacles and pave the way for achieving the big goal and achieving the big cause.
To endure the small and strive for the big is to "bear the burden of humiliation, keep a low profile and make every move"; Don't lose confidence and courage because of small things, and don't lose confidence and courage because of big things, so give up your efforts and be afraid of the words of the market, so that your goal can be realized in the foreseeable future.
How did Liu Canbang achieve great events and events? The reason is that he can endure, know how to endure, endure personal pleasure, endure temporary failure, endure the words of slaves and subordinates, endure personal feelings and his own physical pain.
After Liu Bang's death, an elder, the scholar of Lai, came to offer advice and suggestions for Liu Bang. But when he came in, he saw Liu Bang still washing his feet and shouted at Liu Bang, "If you really want to destroy the ruthless tyrant, you shouldn't sit and see the counselor." Ordinary people will be furious when they hear people who are not as good as themselves talking and reprimand themselves so rudely. Those who are light will be driven out of the mansion, and those who are heavy may be convicted. But Liu Bang is very comparable. He has his heroic mind and magnanimity, and also has the good psychological quality of a great man. At this time, instead of becoming angry from embarrassment, he immediately got up and dressed up, asked Shi Li to sit down and apologize, and then humbly asked Shi Li for advice. At the same time, he also adopted Shi Li's suggestion, sent troops to attack Liu Chen, and robbed the grain collected by the State of Qin, so as to expand his reserves.
In the Chu-Han War, although Liu Bang entered the customs before Xiang Yu, he led 65,438+10,000 troops stationed in Pakistan, but his strength was far less than that of Xiang Yu. Later, Xiang Yu arrived in Hong Men with 400,000 military forces, and the military forces of the two armies were only four miles apart. Needless to say, the disparity in strength and such a close distance put Liu Bang in a precarious position. Is Liu Bang's dilemma a war? Is it healthy? If you can't win the battle, you won't be willing to surrender. At this time, Liu Bang once again showed the courage and boldness of a great man, and his integrity was flexible. Endure, then played a great power.
Liu Bang and Sean found Xiang Yu's uncle Xiang Bo together. Not only did he repeatedly tell him that he had no intention of opposing Xiang Yu, but he also formed his children's in-laws and asked Xiang Bo to put in a good word for himself in front of Xiang Yu. Early the next morning, together with Sean and Fan Kuai, he went to Hong Men to visit Xiang Yu with more than 100 entourage and many exquisite gifts. With a "soft hand" method, he submitted to humiliation and humbly apologized to Xiang Yu, which greatly satisfied Xiang Yu, and at the same time eased his relationship with him, his anger was also alleviated.
In this confrontation, Liu Bang apparently lost face and gave money, but in fact it was because of this "soft rib" that he won room for manoeuvre and time for development and growth. It is with this forbearance that Liu Bang and his 654.38 million+sergeants are safe and have the capital and opportunity to regroup. Isn't Liu Bang's forbearance commendable? Is there a problem?
Liu bang's success is not because he is a saint, divorced from human fireworks and has no lust. On the contrary, according to Records of the Historian, when Liu Bang was a curator in Pei County, he was also a good drinker and a lecherous. When he led the soldiers and horses into Xianyang, most of the lower-level soldiers saw a large number of gold, silver and jewels in the palace warehouse, and they couldn't help but be greedy and throw them all into their arms. At this time, Liu Bang was also stunned by the gorgeous and beautiful ladies in Epang Palace. Just as he was about to order to enter Epang Palace and enjoy the beautiful girl, his subordinate Fan Kuai said, "Pei Gong wants to farm and be a rich man." After some painstaking persuasion, he could not stand, woke up, immediately put away his greed, ordered his men to seal up warehouses and palaces, and returned to the Pakistani military camp with his men. At the same time, he also banned soldiers from harassing the people in three chapters, won the hearts of the people, won the support and support of the people, and laid a good foundation for him to become emperor in the future.
A person's efforts are to make his life better. Everyone needs material comforts, but when your big goal has not been achieved and you are in the climbing stage, you must have perseverance, resist the temptation of some small favors and material desires, and control your greed in order to succeed.
Endure a moment's anger and avoid a hundred days' worries. Sometimes the success or failure of your career lies between your thoughts. Liu Bang turned to Han Xin for help when Xingyang was surrounded by Xiang Yu. The result of waiting hard is not the news that Han Xin sent troops to rescue him, but that Han Xin took the opportunity to coerce him to write to the King of Qi. When Liu Bangzheng was about to swear at Han Xin, he was stopped by Sean and Chen Ping, who stood by, and asked him to take the tail from wagging the dog, extricate himself from the predicament, and then seek status. Although Liu Bang's anger was hard to suppress, he finally held back his anger. He really named Han Xin King of Qi, and borrowed Han Xin's army to attack the Chu army, which turned defeat into victory and won the world.
Although Sean and Chen Ping realized the seriousness of the problem, they also made suggestions for Liu Bang. But if Liu Bangruo, as the highest decision-maker, has no tolerance for others, can't listen to people's advice and make decisive decisions, history may be rewritten.
"Endure the world once" is a praise for Liu Bang by later generations, but in the dispute between Chu and Han, Liu Bang can defeat the strong with the weak, which really deserves our deep thinking.
In this world, there are many people who want to achieve great things. Just as Napoleon said, "A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier", everyone has his own ideals and ambitions, but on the way to success, he must learn to be patient, endure loneliness, hardship, rain and snow, criticism and slander. ...
Endure small and seek big, and endure small is to stand tall and look far. If you can't bear it, make a great plan.
It is precisely because Zhuge Liang wants to achieve the goal of long-term stability that the legend of Meng Huo was born.
In the spring of 255 AD, shortly after Liu Beigang's death, Meng Huo and Zhu Bao, leaders of southern ethnic minorities, launched a rebellion. Zhuge Liang summoned 500,000 troops and went south in three ways to put down the rebellion.
Before he left, Zhuge Liang and Ma Su reached an understanding: Only by winning over Meng Huo, a prestigious person in the southern tribes, can Shu have a stable rear area. So Meng Huo was ordered not to kill, but to take him alive.
In the first encounter, Zhuge Liang deliberately made the troops look unkempt and demoralized, so as to paralyze Meng Huo, make him despise his enemy and easily capture Meng Huo alive.
But this time Meng Huo was not convinced, and Zhuge Liang put it back with a smile.
In the second encounter, Meng Huo sent two soldiers who were released after being captured last time, and the result was defeated again. Meng Huo suspected that the two generals were cheating and wanted to kill him, but he was caught by the two generals and sent to Zhuge Liang.
This time, Meng Huo still refused to give up, thinking that he was caught by his own people and asked him to fight again. Zhuge Liang not only agreed, but also hosted a banquet for him.
The third time, Meng Huo refused to admit defeat on the grounds of improper employment, and Zhuge Liang let him go again.
Meng Huo was captured alive by the Shu army three times in a row, but he was not convinced. Zhuge Liang also patiently let him go again and again. Finally, when Zhuge Liang wanted Meng Huo to go back for the seventh time, Meng Huo finally threw himself at Zhuge Liang's pomegranate skirt, saying that he would never rebel and swore allegiance to Shu.
Imagine, if Zhuge Liang has no long-term vision and lofty goals, how can he tolerate Meng Huo's willfulness again and again?
Be patient, but also be able to resist impatience; Seeking greatness is to stabilize the frontier fortress, avoid the worries of future battles, and concentrate on dealing with Cao Wei.
As a modern man with ideals, ambitions and a desire to "seek the big", can he not learn to "tolerate the small"?
Everything depends on people. Endure when you can, and endure when you can't, so that you can become a hero.