A confident woman can really win the appreciation and respect of her partner. A spoiled girl can indeed be taken care of by her partner at first, but in the process of running a marriage, she needs to face many trivial things. If she wants a happy family, it is not enough to just act like a spoiled child and look beautiful.
You need to have a calm heart. In order to better manage their relationship, confident women will not be too humble in marriage, but will take actions to save each other's respect.
Zhuo Ling is a typical example. She and her husband are college classmates, and there are not many ups and downs in their feelings. Zhuo Ling is weak in appearance, but very mature and strong in heart.
In the process of falling in love, she is not as good as some girls, because she can give herself enough security and is not affected by gains and losses. A year after graduation, they decided to get married, but when love came, Zhuo Ling didn't want to give up. Her parents felt the smile on her face and finally agreed.
But married life is far more complicated than Zhuo Ling imagined. She is a mature girl, and she will not expect a romantic and beautiful marriage. There will definitely be problems in the relationship between husband and wife. As long as it is not a matter of principle, she will try to tolerate it. But some behaviors of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are always unbearable. Her mother-in-law is not very clean and has no proper limit for young people.
Mother-in-law often goes in and out of Zhuo Ling's room. So is her sister-in-law Sometimes at work or on a date, she would go to Zhuo Ling's room to make up or change clothes without saying a word.
These little things in life make Zhuo Ling feel on pins and needles, but for the sake of family harmony, she has been putting up with it. Her mother-in-law and sister-in-law never helped her when she was pregnant. Even though she is seven months pregnant, most of the housework has been done.
On one occasion, Zhuo Ling was doing housework in the kitchen with a big belly. During pregnancy, she ate light food, so she didn't add Chili, but her sister-in-law hated her very much. She is spoiled by her mother-in-law and is completely inconsiderate. My sister-in-law is very clever. She wants to live a free life. If Zhuo Ling has any more children in the future, she can't stand the crying of children, so my sister-in-law will try her best to drive Zhuo Ling away.
When the family was having dinner together, my sister-in-law said to her, "Sister-in-law, you are going to have a baby soon. You might as well go back to your mother's house. I slept with my mother for a while, but I couldn't stand the baby crying. Moreover, several of my colleagues went home when they were pregnant, so we ate different flavors. It is really not a good idea to live together for a long time. " Zhuo Ling listened to his sister-in-law, and his face suddenly changed. If it weren't for her husband, she wouldn't let her sister-in-law stay at home all day.
She neither paid the rent nor gave Zhuo Ling living expenses, but she was still dissatisfied and forced Zhuo Ling to return to her home. She really doesn't seem to know who is the boss of this family.
This is my family. If you want to let me go, you have to ask your brother if he would like to get a divorce certificate from me. Even if he did, it's your turn to go. I paid for the house. Who are you? Do your family really think I'm a bully?
I'm telling you now that I'm going to have a baby soon. I'll ask my mother to come and take care of me for a month, and then your room will be vacant and you will move out. Or we divorce and he moves out. "
She spoke firmly and didn't mean to joke at all. Everyone froze in place. When my husband realized the seriousness of the problem, he came to correct the mistake. Instead of continuing to protect his sister-in-law, he chose to side with Zhuo Ling and agreed to let her find a house.
Shortly after my sister-in-law moved away, Zhuo Ling didn't give in, but insisted on the bottom line. She also took the initiative to showdown with her mother-in-law. If she doesn't know how to respect herself, she will have to go back to her hometown and her marriage will return to normal.
I like this sentence very much: the reason why a rose is charming is not only because she is beautiful, but also because she has thorns. The same is true of commercial marriage. If you are too obedient emotionally and don't know how to express your needs, you are doomed to lose the respect of your lover and even make yourself too wronged in marriage.
It can be seen from Zhuo Ling's difficulties in managing the family that she is a very willing person who knows how to respect her mother-in-law and take care of her sister-in-law's needs. I just hope that her relationship with her husband will not be affected by the outside world and she can live a happy life.
But her tolerance did not bring love, but brought more presumptuous demands from the other side. So, when my sister-in-law made more outrageous demands, Zhuo Ling felt that she had really had enough. She always thinks of others, regardless of her own feelings. This state will not last long, which will bring trouble to her marriage with her husband.
Zhuo Ling realized that only when a woman is strong enough can she find a proper place in marriage. In-laws will never bully her at will again. Some girls are not only good-looking, but also kind-hearted, but they are always too gentle and love lowly. This is the case with Zhang in the TV series Dear Yourself.
She has a stable job and a warm home, but her mother-in-law has been dissatisfied with her and hates that she gave birth to a daughter, and her husband can't see her value. Zhang Yue forbeared, and her mother-in-law forbeared more. Finally, her husband betrayed their marriage.
As women, we should learn to respect our partners and take care of each other. But we must have our own bottom line and the ability to defend rights. When both husband and in-laws are aggressive, if they surrender blindly, they will only be forced to the point where there is no retreat. Only a woman who dares to fight back can make the other side converge a little.
Gao once said: It is very important that a good relationship makes us better. I believe that a happy marriage will make each other better selves. If you meet the wrong person, life is a disaster.
So, when you don't feel your partner's love in your relationship, or find that life is full of dissatisfaction, find the problem and solve it. Don't run from it. Face it squarely and re-examine it. Life will not be bleak forever.
Like Zhuo Ling, she later realized that her tolerance could not make her married life better, so she decided to fight back. Finally, she changed her poor life situation because she dared to hate others. If she doesn't have the courage to fight back, life will only get worse.
Bing Xin said: If there were no women in the world, the world would lose at least five tenths of truth, six tenths of goodness and seven tenths of beauty. Longevity, I hope all women can see their own value and know how to love themselves. A happy marriage must be mutual, not a one-man show. In marriage, you should continue to be yourself, don't be too humble, don't rely too much on men, be yourself and be loyal to your heart.
In the rest of my life, I hope that you and I can try our best to be ourselves, keep the bottom line of marriage, dare to fight back and defend ourselves, and don't let others bully us in order to live a more peaceful and happy life.
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