The methods of this excuse are listed as follows:
(1) Send a message to the matchmaker.
Once upon a time, there was a kind of person called "matchmaker" in society. They introduced men and women to each other and built a bridge. At that time, the relationship between men and women was not intimate, and they could not fall in love, meet or date before marriage. All their wishes were conveyed by the matchmaker. It is conceivable that they are not qualified for this job without glib tongue, sense of language and a set of excellent communication skills.
If you ask for help, you can find such a talented person and let him try his best to match, convey information and reason.
(2) Pull out the "mother-in-law" to cushion.
Sun Li described several women in Lotus Lake: "Women are somewhat out of touch. Two days later, four young women gathered in house boat to discuss. I heard that they are still here. I don't drag my tail, but I forgot a dress. I have something important to say to him. I didn't want to go, but my mother-in-law told me to see him again-what's the point! "The husbands of these young women all joined the army and left. Their empathy is that they miss their husbands very much, and they all want to visit the station. But because I am shy, I can't say it directly in front of everyone, so I found an excuse to express my original intention, as if I had a good reason to go to the station. This euphemistically expressed his wish.
This kind of expression under the pretext of others often cuts people off from the side and secretly points out the main meaning of what they want to say.
(3) bluff with "cover".
Someone is selling venetian blind. Knowing that the manager of a company and a director are old friends, he inquired about the manager's residence, brought a bag of fruit to visit, and after a few commonplaces, he said this:
"This time I was introduced by Wang, and he asked me to say hello to you for him ..."
"To tell you the truth, I was very happy when we first met ... I heard from Director Wang that your company didn't install venetian blinds ..."
The next day, the business of venetian blinds was closed. The genius of this man lies in deliberately putting himself aside and using the circuitous method of "being introduced by Director Wang" to convey my secret and borrow the strength of others to make them accept it quickly.
(4) Let the other party speak out.
Embarrassment is sometimes relative, not mutual. The same sentence is difficult for one's own side to export, and the other side will say it first, but it can be said naturally. At this time, it is undoubtedly the best policy to induce the other party to speak first.
Wang was going to do business with the help of his friend Zhao, but the day after he gave Zhao a huge sum of money, Zhao suddenly died of illness. Wang immediately fell into a dilemma; If you want money, it will be too exciting for widow Zhao; If you don't mention it, your situation will be difficult to support.
After helping to arrange things, Wang said to Mrs. Zhao, "I didn't expect Brother Zhao to leave so early. Our cooperation has just begun." Tell you the truth, sister-in-law: you also know Zhao Ge's relatives, so just keep on working! Let me know when I need to run errands. I am not afraid of hard work. Do you find it difficult? If you want to do it, you will be a day early. "Look at him, he doesn't mean to chase money, but he is still brave and loyal. In fact, he knows that Zhao's wife has no ability or mind to go on. And the result? Zhao's wife comforted him in turn: "This accident has damaged your business, and I can't go on. You'd better take the money back and find another chance. "
(5) Borrow a "sheep" as a scapegoat.
A British jewelry store opened, but the passenger flow was not satisfactory. Suddenly, Her Majesty the Queen arrived. She went straight to the jewelry counter, nodded and waved to the surprised people around her, and smiled gently. The news of the Queen's visit spread like wildfire, and the reputation of this new store doubled at once. The crowds who came to visit and buy were bustling and lively. Those who missed the occasion also got wind of it.
Later, people realized that it was not "Her Majesty the Queen" who came that day, but an ordinary person who looked like the Queen-Ms. Jenny. Because of her rare appearance, the owner of this jewelry store hired her heavily as an advertising model of the jewelry store and made her officially appear on the opening day. This move is really twice the result with half the effort, and it has achieved the publicity effect that is difficult to receive even if you spend hundreds of thousands of pounds on advertising. Naturally, when people learn about this kind of thing, the boss will say that he didn't say it was the Queen's visit, but that the customer mistook Ms. Jenny for the Queen herself and had nothing to do with the store. If there is a lawsuit, "scapegoats" must be a large group. The customer has no handle, and the boss who uses this clever excuse can't help it. This method is very useful in many occasions.
One day, the salesman of a real estate company who handled the transfer of real estate came to a friend's house with a letter of introduction from his friend. After greeting, he said, "It's nice to meet you this time, because my boss Zhao Chuan appreciates you very much. He told me that if I visit you, I must ask Mr. Zhao to sign your book ..." As he said, he took out this friend's new book from his briefcase. So this friend can't help trusting him. Here, section chief Zhao's admiration and petition are just an excuse to compliment this friend and make him laugh.
In front of flatterers, if you say this in the first person's tone, it will have a flattering taste and it is easy for people to observe its purpose. However, this talented salesman deliberately abandoned himself and used the circuitous method of "My boss is your loyal reader", which is more ingenious, more effective and more acceptable than "I worship you". Particularly superb is that once rejected, the face of the third party is not big enough, which has nothing to do with me. This third party has virtually become a shield.
On the other hand, even a very strong objection, as long as it is expressed in the tone of the public or a third party who is not present, probably will not cause direct resentment. In daily life, many couples often use "it's all his fault" as an excuse, and both sides are tacitly willing to be scapegoats. Most others will see the quarrel and forgive their mistakes. For example, the couple can blame each other for being late for dinner: she changed clothes for so long, or he found the map, found the way, looked for too long and so on.