Chapter 1: The shopaholic is ill. Experts teach you to straighten your mind and get rid of shopping desire.
Chapter 2: What is the inducement of shopaholism?
Chapter 3: Psychologists consult five types of shopaholics.
Nowadays people love shopping, and some people even go crazy, you know? Actually, shopping spree is a mental illness. If this kind of shopping psychology cannot be well controlled, the harm it brings is immeasurable. So how to control shopping desire? How to straighten out shopaholic psychology? What is the inducement of shopaholism? Let's answer them one by one. Let's find out.
Shoppers have become a disease. Experts teach you to straighten your mind and get rid of shopping desire.
In recent years, shopaholism has gradually been regarded as a mental illness. Most of the items that women with this symptom are keen to buy are related to their external decoration, such as clothing, shoes and socks, cosmetics, gold and silver jewelry and so on.
The love of beauty is a woman's nature, and this innate characteristic first makes it possible for women to expand their consumption. Shoppers are mainly lonely, physically and mentally damaged or self-deprecating, trying to fill their inner emptiness by buying crazily. Modern credit card settlement has contributed to the development of the disease, because patients can't find their wallets in time. The following are the motivations for women to shop:
Vanity and conformity.
Many women regard luxury consumption as synonymous with "fashionable life". In the eyes of many women, it seems that few "expensive things" are out of the circle. Therefore, after this demand of women is released, it is easy to be amplified. Shopping spree is related to their emotional fragility, fantasy and romance. More importantly, some goods are symbolic to show the charm of women. Therefore, they often frantically buy some goods needed for social activities, such as clothing, cosmetics and accessories.
Seasonal discount makes women "want to stop"
There are discounts every season, and the purpose of women's shopping seems clear. -Save money! For example, if you want to buy a long coat, you can get a discount at the end of the season in a few days. But at the end of shopping in the department store, it is often not just the coat that is taken home. The total price of high heels, bags and makeup definitely exceeds the original price of that coat. Therefore, it is not so much that women are keen on "seasonal discounts" in order to reduce shopping expenses as that they want to exchange their limited money for the greatest material satisfaction.
Lack of healthy ways to release stress.
In city life, men are under great pressure, while women are under greater pressure than men. Work stress, marriage, interpersonal conflicts, birth and career conflicts, everyone will find different channels to decompress themselves. Because women rarely participate in sports activities, smoking and drinking, and the channels for psychological compensation and venting are narrow, shopping is often the best way for them to balance their emotions, relieve stress and vent their emotions. There are two kinds of shopaholics. One is that you are in a bad mood and want to buy something to vent your emotions. The other is that you are in storage, and you just don't have to look at what you buy.
Wrong concept orientation in the market
Common things in life, such as "shopping is enjoyment" and "shopping is good for health", even promote shopping as a counseling method to treat mental illness, depression and other diseases. An attempt to strengthen subconscious practice. In addition, the sound of advertisements and pictures in shopping halls has strong sensory impact, and women often can't stand these temptations.
How to control your shopping desire and spend more reasonably?
First, broaden your horizons and enrich your inner world. The emptiness of life can easily lead to the expansion of shopping desire. Although some people have no worries about food and clothing, they lack communication, have no other hobbies in life and have little social activities. Shopping often becomes their pursuit. Psychologists believe that although many shoppers feel that "shopping can really bring happiness", whether it is to relieve stress, kill time or relieve loneliness, consumption shopping is not the fundamental way. Establishing reliable interpersonal relationships, broadening their horizons and turning unnecessary consumption into public welfare investment, such as participating in charitable donations and public welfare activities, will make their psychological satisfaction more positive and lasting.
Second, explore other decompression channels. Women in the workplace are prone to greater psychological pressure, and shopping has become one of the ways for women to release pressure. Many people shop when they are in a bad mood and can vent their pressure in time; I also go shopping when I am in a good mood, because I feel happy when I buy something I like, and I also release and transfer stress through shopping, which plays a positive role in emotional regulation. When you feel stressed, you might as well explore other decompression channels, exercise properly and keep fit. Transfer shopping desire.
Third, develop the habit of "planning" before shopping. Many people who are addicted to shopping later regretted it, so they formed the habit of "planning" before shopping. They can list what they need without discount or leisure time, and form the habit of keeping accounts. They can track the amount of spending on commodities or large-scale consumption and reduce blind spending. It is necessary to arrange the shopping time on the schedule and limit it to a rough time to avoid shopping excess caused by long selection time and wide range.
Fourth, try to pay in cash. Many people who love shopping have the habit of using credit cards, and indulging in overdraft credit cards is not conducive to developing a reasonable consumption concept. It is suggested that people who are addicted to shopping use cash to pay, so that they can clearly know their consumption limit and control their buying behavior.
Reminder: If a person goes shopping wildly without restraint and exceeds a certain limit, he will change from creating happiness to creating pain. To correct excessive shopping desire, we need to strengthen the cultivation of psychological quality and strive to maintain a normal mentality, so as to reduce or eliminate this psychological obstacle.
What is the inducement of shopaholism?
1. Shoppers are mainly lonely, physically and mentally damaged or self-deprecating, trying to fill their inner emptiness by buying crazily. Modern credit card settlement has contributed to the development of the disease, because patients can't find their wallets in time.
2. Shopping spree is related to their emotional fragility, fantasy and romance. There are 20 photos of shopaholics. What's more, some products are symbolic displays of women's charm. Therefore, they often frantically buy some goods needed for social activities, such as clothing, cosmetics and accessories.
3. The advertisements set in the shopping hall and the pictures and sounds played on them have a strong sensory impact, and women often can't stand these temptations.
4. Wrong concept orientation, such as "shopping is enjoyment" and "shopping is good for health", and even pushing shopping as a counseling method for treating mental illness and depression. An attempt to make the subconscious mind intensify practice.
5. Lack of healthy channels to vent pressure. Because women rarely participate in sports activities, smoking and drinking, and the channels for psychological compensation and venting are narrow, shopping is often the best way for them to balance their emotions, relieve stress and vent their emotions.
There are two kinds of shoppers, one is in a bad mood, shopping hard to vent their emotions, and the other is in a storage state, buying without looking at anything.
Psychologists have consulted five types of shopaholics.
A. indecisive type
A. indecision 3354 "I am always dissatisfied with what I buy."
Patient self-report:
"I don't like shopping alone. I must be accompanied by my friends or sisters. I always spend half an hour thinking in front of a container: which silk shirt should I choose, Bordeaux or Burgundy? Buy boots with flat heels or high heels? So I tossed and turned until the salesgirl and my friends around me couldn't stand it anymore and lost patience. I made a decision in hesitation and great anxiety. I regretted my choice almost before I set foot in the house. So, I usually rush back to the store and put on another one. However, the result still makes me dissatisfied: maybe the first one is better? If only I could try each sample for 48 hours before deciding to pay. " (Clemens, 38)
Psychologist analysis:
"Clemens' almost constant dissatisfaction comes from her inner' perfect complexity syndrome': she always wants to find a dress that exists only for her. She dreams of a dress that can satisfy all her ideals, just like dreaming of a perfect prince charming. This shows how naive her disappointment is. She turned a blind eye to her physical defects, which is an adolescent fantasy. "
Expert advice:
Don't go to big department stores and specialty stores, where the brands are too tempting. What you need to do is to start buying only some classic models with neutral colors and rebuild your shopping concept. During this period, you will learn to recognize your choice.
Shopping addiction
B. Shopping addiction-"I've always wanted to buy something expensive."
Patient self-report:
"I can earn money or spend money. Almost half of my monthly salary is spent on clothes, sometimes I think it's too much! Almost every two weeks, I spend the whole day shopping. Like a real fashionista, I like to know how to "mix and match" the old and new models, giving people the coolest feeling, or how to find the latest fashion collocation in Zara store with keen eyes. I will find what I want on ELLE the first time, and then rush directly to these stores. I can't wait for the seasonal discount. My wardrobe is cleaned once a year, and all the original clothes are emptied, which will be sent to the second-hand store by me. " (Li Shan, 29 years old)
Psychologists' analysis:
"Li Shan cleans the wardrobe every season. This kind of "overeating" for fashion is similar to the dependence of addicts on drugs. For her, material possession is an urgent need to fill the emptiness and' lack of meaning of existence': only consumption can make her feel existence. Therefore, the more well-known brands can win her favor, because what she wants is to find the feeling of narcissism and make her image more valuable. "
Expert advice:
1. Only do business without losing money. Set up a special account for all the clothes to be sent to the second-hand shop. You can only take money from this account every time you buy new clothes, and you must never overspend.
2. Diet regularly. Once a week or once a quarter, remember to disclose your "diet" plan and time, and you will stick to it under the supervision of your friends.
C blind copy type
C. blind copy type 3354 "I always imitate others unconsciously."
Patient self-report:
"I don't know what kind of clothes I like except jeans! I always imitate others, and I follow them how they match. For example, I once saw a fashionable girl wearing a smart jacket of lambskin, so I bought an identical jacket. I won't ask myself if I really like that coat or if that girl is so handsome. When I got home, I realized it was a complete mistake! It is normal to think about it now: I am short and fat, and that girl is tall and thin. Therefore, in addition to jeans, my wardrobe is almost all failed shopping products. " (Caroline, 28)
Psychologists' analysis:
"The establishment of personal style comes from a clear understanding of yourself; Caroline, however, regards this as the satisfaction of self-desire and vanity. Women always care more about other people's eyes or think other people's things are better, so when we know that Caroline likes to secretly imitate her mother since she was a child, it is not surprising that she takes a completely different person as her role model. Of course, jeans are an exception: they really suit men, women and children. "
Expert advice:
Choose a fashion icon that is somewhat similar to yourself (that is, if you have Monica? Becky's figure, don't stare at Kate Moss all the time, believe it to the end. At the same time, you should pay attention to your boyfriend or husband's opinion: if he sees a model girl of 16 years old wearing suspenders, he will scream in horror and don't risk wearing them again.
Obsessed with high heels
D. obsessed with high heels 3354 "I bought a lot of high heels, but I never wore them."
Patient self-report:
"I have a special hobby for shoes, especially collecting all kinds of high heels! This is my baby: owning and appreciating their beauty is my greatest happiness. I bring one or two pairs of new shoes home every month, although I never wear high heels myself. Maybe this hobby can be traced back to childhood. I remember that when I was only five or six years old, I liked to look in the mirror in my mother's shoes. " (Lucy, 30 years old)
Psychologists' analysis:
"Our feet are actually a special erotic part, and shoes are like jewelry boxes, which multiply the temptation. As long as you think hard, you can become an excellent prop to create female charm. For Lucy, all kinds of shoes have satisfied many of her dreams: imagining herself as elegant as a movie heroine, imagining herself as if she were a child again, and thinking of growing up to be a beautiful woman like her mother as soon as possible. Such a beautiful imagination has satisfied her. "
Expert advice:
Immerse yourself in your imagination, but don't forget the real world: spend one day a week feeling the real life! Remember to wear 10cm high heels, carry your beloved handbag and bravely walk into the subway and office!
E fell into deep despair.
E. Deep in despair-"I have nothing to wear anymore!"
Patient self-report:
"I have seen many strange scenes like this: opening the closet and then falling into deep fear because there is nothing to wear! This feeling is a mixture of anger and despair, which usually appears in the season of changing seasons, especially in spring and autumn, which is neither too hot nor too cold. It seems that all the clothes are out of date and nothing looks good. The more I look at it, the uglier I feel. So I can't help but feel so depressed that I have nothing to wear anymore. Finally, I usually spend the whole summer in white pants or a black coat with jeans in winter. Moreover, every day passes so carelessly that even I have lost interest in shopping: because according to my experience, there is no more clothes for me to wear! " (Isabel, 27 years old)
Psychologists' analysis:
"This is a common disease, which comes from deep self-weariness: patients are eager to break through the original body and get new spiritual and life attempts. Such emotions are more common in spring and autumn, precisely because this is the most sentimental season. "
Expert advice:
People who usually complain that they have no clothes to wear often choose too many. In fact, the way to regain self-confidence is very simple, as long as you insist: never wear the same white or black clothes again, and force yourself to go to the closet for inspiration. If you think that floral shirt you bought in 2000 is just in line with this year's fashion elements, then you are successful!
Summary: To sum up, we know that shopaholism is a mental illness and should be treated well. The above treatment is effective. You might as well try them. Stay away from shopping desire, put your mind right and help you fatten your wallet! (The article was originally written by suki in pclady, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean that 360 Common Sense Network agrees with its views and is responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible if it involves content, copyright and other issues, and we will delete the content as soon as possible)