■ The treasure of character is at hand.
A long time ago, in Africa, there was a farmer who wanted to get rich. One night, a jeweler came to spend the night. The farmer asked the jeweler a question that had haunted him for years: "What is the most valuable thing in the world?"
The jeweler replied, "Diamonds are naturally the most valuable!" " "
The farmer asked again, "Then where can I find diamonds?"
The jeweler said, "It's hard to say. It may be far away, or it may be right beside you and me. Now I heard that there are diamond mines in the jungles of Central Africa. "
The next day, the jeweler left the farm and went around to buy his jewels, but the farmer was so excited that he didn't sleep a wink all night and made a decision at once.
He sold his farm to a young farmer at the lowest price. Then he left in a hurry to look for the treasure in the distance.
The next year, the jeweler passed the farm again. After dinner, the young farmer and jeweler chatted in the living room. Suddenly, the jeweler looked at a stone on his desk and his eyes lit up. He asked the young farmer seriously where the stone was found.
The young farmer said in surprise, "I found it by the stream on the farm." Is there anything wrong? "
The jeweler was very surprised and said, "This is not an ordinary stone, but a natural diamond!" " "
Later, they found some natural diamonds in the same place by the stream. Later, after investigation, it was found that there was a huge diamond mine under the whole farm.
But the old farmer who went to a distant place for treasure never came back. I heard that he later became a beggar and finally jumped into the Nile and died.
This story tells us that the real diamond is not far away, but around.
And each of us has a diamond mine that we can enjoy for a lifetime. This is our character.
You may never have noticed that a person's personality is actually the greatest treasure, which will determine a person's communication relationship, marriage choice, living conditions, career development and success or failure of starting a business, thus fundamentally determining a person's life.
So, what is character?
Personality is the psychological characteristics of people's attitudes and behaviors towards people and things. Such as mental, calm, strong, persistent, implicit, frank and so on, according to psychological theory, it is generally believed that people's personality is difficult to change.
Although personality is innate and unchangeable, it is still inseparable from the shaping of the day after tomorrow. Suffering from his mind and straining his bones and muscles, heroes have suffered from his mind since ancient times. Born in sorrow and died in happiness is also a different destination for wise men and fools. The initiative to shape character is not in the hands of fate, but in their own hands.
Personality is not absolutely good or bad, but it dominates a person's behavior. Some people are reckless, so they always act in a hurry; Some people are impatient, so they are easily excited when things happen; Some people are resolute, so they always show courage and firmness in the face of difficulties; Some people also show cowardice and timidity. Being brave and strong is of course the perfect character that everyone wants to pursue and yearn for.
However, everyone's personality also contains more or less cowardly elements. Although cowardice can't make people become general leaders in sizing up the situation, nor can they become brave and strong politicians, they are often rich in emotions, keen in observation and delicate in feelings, and they are natural writers and artists.
Li Yu, the queen of the Southern Tang Dynasty, told this history and his personal tragedy with sad lyrics. His weak and cowardly character ruined his life and his country.
Although he did not become an immortal monarch, he also achieved his "great cause of Ci".
Thus, a person's personality can be consolidated, strengthened and improved through self-awareness, and the unfavorable factors in personality can also be controlled and eliminated purposefully through self-awareness. Only by abandoning bad personality performance and promoting good personality can we constantly improve ourselves and optimize the personality structure.
■ 12 typical personality types
Personality is an evolving dynamic system, which is controlled and regulated by self-consciousness. Then it becomes more important to understand the main types of personality characteristics.
Characteristics of brave character
Brave and enterprising, unwilling to yield, dare to say and dare to take risks, such people are born generals and commanders. People with this personality often have a distinct personality and extraordinary charm.
Brave people can often achieve great things, but just being brave without planning can only lead to failure.
-the characteristics of rebellious character
Rebellious character is an obvious character expression anytime and anywhere, and it is a fire-like character. People of this character have always taken naked resistance to the living environment. They don't know how to be circuitous and tactful, and they always confront the environment directly. Therefore, people with this character should be wary of becoming tragic figures, because there are only two endings in the struggle against the environment: conquering the environment and becoming a hero, or being swallowed up by the environment and becoming the protagonist of the tragedy.
It is said that Muhammad once called the mountain, but the mountain didn't come. Muhammad said, "Since you won't come, I'll go!" "This shows that when individuals can't change the reality, they should change their ideas and ideas wisely, and" those who know the times are heroes ",thus showing their personality flexibility and adaptability to reality.
-the characteristics of ideal personality
Ideal character and rebellious character are just the opposite. People with ideal personality always look bland on the surface, without mountains, dew and personality, and people around them often don't pay attention. However, they do things in a variety of ways, which is hard to ponder. When they figure it out, they know they can't be underestimated.
People with this personality, like water, can show different postures according to different utensils. When they are in adversity and need patience, they are full of patience. Once a crisis arises and decisions need to be made, they can show decisiveness without hesitation, and they will make moves when it is time to do so.
This character can be associated with the scene of tortoise and eagle fighting. In the struggle with the slow old tortoise, the fierce eagle did not have the upper hand. The reason is that the old turtle always shrinks his head, and the eagle will never attack its key point, but once there is an opportunity, the turtle will not hesitate to attack the key point of biting the eagle.
Therefore, people with ideal personality are bold and cautious, so they are natural leaders. Although their talents are limited, they know people well, such as Song Jiang, Liu Bei and Tang Sanzang, all of whom are such personalities! So their careers are destined to flourish.
-Characteristics of tenacity
A tough person knows what he can't do. Is to survive in the cracks, is knowing that there are tigers in the mountains. Hardness is an innate characteristic and an indestructible stone. Toughness is tenacious willpower and super endurance.
Laozi said, "If the army is strong, it will be destroyed, and if the wood is strong, it will be folded." Therefore, it is not enough to be firm, but also to be resilient.
Tough character is almost invincible. People of this character are single-minded, never give up, and will never give up until they reach their goals. They will succeed in any career because they never give up easily.
-Honest and frank personality characteristics
Honest and frank personality is not good at circuitous, people are not smooth, and often hit a wall. People of this character hate evil, love to fight against injustice, and are kind, but they don't know the way of the world and can't be human. Their lives are often unsatisfactory, with too many complaints and setbacks.
-Characteristics of fortitude.
The resolute character and the honest and frank character have something in common, and they are both upright. However, fortitude has stronger and more lasting willpower, and people with this character are more decisive and confident.
-the characteristics of cunning character
Cunning people are not bound by any moral norms and can show different faces according to different situations, so they are cunning and treacherous. People with this personality can also achieve great things. They have the same leadership skills as people with ideal personality, but they often do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.
Compared with people with ideal personality, they are less honest and more cunning and treacherous. Although people of this character can succeed, they often have no good reputation.
-mature personality characteristics
A sophisticated person, as the name implies, is a sociable and smooth person. They are smart and capable, and can make ends meet in interpersonal communication. People with this personality are often power-oriented, and they are power-oriented. Once they gain power, their behavior and guiding ideology will be more cautious, so they can't become pioneering leaders.
-the characteristics of cautious personality
People with this personality are always considerate of the things around them and are good at thinking twice before you act. Strong sense of responsibility, smart. Pragmatic, not reckless, good at introspection at critical moments, not dragging others down, not asking for trouble.
But the disadvantage of this character is that it is too cautious to take risks and often loses many opportunities.
-Strong personality.
Many people like to blame their success or failure on luck, but for people with strong personality, they are more likely to believe in their own efforts, they will take the initiative to find opportunities for success, and they have a spirit of self-improvement and a positive attitude. Most people with this personality are easy to succeed.
However, people with strong personalities also have shortcomings. They will boss others around, tend to go to extremes in dealing with interpersonal relationships, envy others, and sometimes even show great self-satisfaction and self-righteousness.
-Characteristics of sensitive personality
People with sensitive personality belong to the self-realization type. They realize their self-worth in the pursuit of goals through their unique imagination and sensitive perception. People with this personality are suitable for occupations with high IQ. They can use their creative thinking, imagination and reasoning ability to create literary works, and they can also serve as military commanders, because they have extraordinary perceptual ability that others do not have.
Ordinary people may not realize one thing, but sensitive people realize its difference early. However, people with this personality also have their own inevitable personality defects, which are more likely to cause unnecessary trouble because of emotional feelings.
Characteristics of self-controlled personality
People with self-control personality are people who don't show their emotions. They can control themselves well under any circumstances and have a strong tolerance for the outside world. People with this personality are also kind-hearted, and most of them can be promoted through their active work or succeed through their own careers.
The disadvantage of self-controlled personality is that it is easy to be too tolerant and let opportunities slip away. In addition, such people are too strict with themselves and the people around them, so they are not easy to accommodate.
These are the common personality traits. Might as well compare your own personality characteristics, learn from each other's strengths, and strive to become what you want to be.
Personality plays a very important role in life, and it can even be said that personality determines fate.
Therefore, in the process of self-study and growth, we should pay attention to the cultivation of good personality, and in the daily life of raising children, we should pay more attention to cultivating children's personality characteristics, guiding and helping children to form good personality, so as to create a good lifestyle.