Nowadays, many young people simply don't allow themselves to be wronged, and others can't offend themselves at all, otherwise they will carry it to the end. In fact, in life, when others offend you, if it is not a big deal, you don't have to haggle over every ounce. Others may not offend you out of malice, or they may get into trouble because of something. If you don't care about the offense of others, you will become a popular person and win more friends.
During the Great Depression in the United States, factories closed down, and many people lost their jobs and had no financial support. A girl finally got a job as a salesgirl in a high-end jewelry store. On the day before Christmas, a poor customer in his thirties came to the store, dressed in rags and with a sad and angry expression on his face. He stared at those high-end jewels with greedy eyes.
When the girl answered the phone, she accidentally knocked over a ring plate and six delicate gold rings fell to the ground. She quickly picked up five of them, but the sixth one was gone. At this moment, she saw the man in his thirties strode to the door. Suddenly, she realized where the ring was. When the man was about to open the door and come out, the girl cried sincerely: "I'm sorry, sir!" " "
The man turned around and they looked at each other for a full minute.
"What is it?" He asked, his face twitching.
"What is it?" He asked again.
"Sir, this is my first job. Is it difficult to find a job now? " The girl said gloomily.
The man looked at her for a long time, and finally, a gentle smile appeared on his face.
"Yes, indeed." He replied, "But I believe you will do well here."
After a pause, he stepped forward, gave her his hand, and then turned around and slowly walked out of the jewelry store.
The girl watched his figure disappear outside the door, turned to the counter and put the sixth gold ring back in her hand.
Imagine that if a girl scolds or even calls the police, maybe she can get the ring back, but can the girl's "rice bowl" still be saved? The girl stood in the other side's position and won the real sympathy of the other side with the sad words of "neither of us is happy-forever." So, "This is my first job, and it is very difficult to find a job now", a sincere and simple confession, full of fear of unemployment, full of begging for mercy, finally touched each other and successfully got back the sixth gold ring.
It is inevitable to bump into others in life, and it is also inevitable to be misunderstood and suspected by others. Your thoughts, your momentary words, may be magnified and accused by others; Your seriousness and sincerity may be misunderstood and vilified by others. If everyone wants to fight tooth for tooth, fight to the death; Everyone has to defend himself and clarify, which leads to both losses ... then life is not fun.
There are many new things in society now. For example, some post-80s can't get used to the non-mainstream of post-90s, their flamboyant personality, but they can't get used to posing as "big brother" after 80s.
Acheng is a typical post-90s generation. One day, he was riding a bicycle on the road when he suddenly received a phone call from his father, saying that he had to go home quickly, because grandma suddenly fell ill and needed to be sent to the hospital at once. Acheng was very anxious after hearing the news, and hurried to get home by bike. Suddenly, a car flew by, which startled him and almost made him fall off the car. Acheng immediately flew into a rage and swore, but the car had already left.
If things stop here, that's all, but Acheng's character is very determined. Just as the car was about to stop at the red light at the intersection ahead, Acheng quickly rode to the front of the car and cursed the driver indiscriminately. The driver is also a young man of about 30 years old. He kindly told Acheng that he was in a hurry, but Acheng simply ignored him and continued to curse. Finally, the two men inevitably fought. During the fight, Acheng picked up a stone on the roadside and threw it at the driver. The driver was smashed at that time. Things got serious and the two men were taken to the police station by the police.
Let's talk about the Acheng family again. Because A Cheng didn't come back in time, it delayed the time to send grandma to the hospital. As a result, the old man died because he was not rescued in time. The whole family was heartbroken, and Acheng was even more remorseful.
Acheng brought great pain to his life because of his own impulse. If he had been more rational, things would have turned out differently. That's what society is like. Sometimes you have to learn to accept something that is unacceptable. When someone offends you and you accept it, it doesn't mean that you are weak, but that you make yourself stronger by accepting it. A judo champion in China often says when teaching students, "Be as flexible as a willow, not as tall and straight as an oak." That's the truth. You should learn to bend down in the irresistible storm, otherwise you are likely to be destroyed by resistance. Learn to accept, and you will find that the sun is new every day for 365 days a year; Learn to accept, you can enjoy what you have as much as possible with a indifferent attitude like running water, and you will feel that this life is real and rich in texture.
In the early days of automobile invention, tire manufacturers hoped to make a hard tire to resist bumps on the road. As a result, the tire was quickly cut into pieces. Later, they made a tire to absorb all kinds of pressure on the road. This kind of tire can "accept everything" from the resilience of the ground, can support it on the road for a long time without being damaged, and can tolerate many bumps because it can be completely integrated with the resilience of the ground.
If during the long journey of life, you are brave enough to accept all the offenses and injuries given by others, just like a car tire, and accept all the pressures from the ground, then you can stay energetic for a longer time and enjoy a more meaningful journey of life.