Giving is an important means in interpersonal communication. Successful gift-giving can properly express one's friendliness, respect or other special feelings to the donee, thus leaving a deep impression on the donee.
1. Gift rules
When giving gifts, we must consider the standards and taboos of giving gifts and choose the right way so as not to send them wrong or make the other party disgusted.
1) Gift standard
When choosing, choose a gift that is practical, memorable and not too corny. If you want to do what you like as much as possible, you must pay attention to originality, highlight commemorative significance, and don't have to overemphasize value and price. Do not advocate giving away large amounts of cash, high-grade goods and precious jewelry at will. In that case, it will not only make the recipient feel embarrassed about taking bribes, but also give people a tacky feeling.
Because of the limitation of personal ability, gifts don't have to be very avant-garde, but they should be as fashionable as possible and not too rustic. Otherwise, it not only shows that your eyes are poor, but also makes the other person feel that you don't value him.
In addition, gifts, especially those on formal occasions, should be carefully packaged to give people a pleasing feeling.
When giving gifts, the most important thing is to look natural, behave generously and behave appropriately. Gifts are usually given to the recipients on the spot after the meeting. At this time, you should get up and stand solemnly, approach the recipient, and pass the gift to each other with both hands as much as possible. If the gift is too big, you can ask others to help you submit it, but it is best for the giver to actively participate and explain it to the other party. If there are many people giving gifts, it is best to give them to the elders first, then to the younger generation, then to the lady, and then to the superiors and subordinates, in order.
If you give a gift on someone's birthday, you can give it after saying "Happy Birthday to you", which means it's a birthday present.
To show that you value each other's attitude, you can say "I chose this on purpose" and "I believe you will like it". Don't say something like "I bought it temporarily and didn't prepare it" or "I don't have anything good, so I'll make do with it", which will make your gifts and intentions lighter and lighter all of a sudden.
If the gift is novel, explain the specific purpose and usage to the other party, so that the other party can know more about the gift you gave. When introducing the meaning of gifts, we should also say a few more auspicious words, so that everyone will be very happy after listening.
2) Gift giving taboos at home and abroad
When choosing and preparing gifts, we should also consciously and actively avoid the taboo of accepting gifts from each other. For example, the following:
Illegal and improper gifts. For example, national civil servants should not give any gifts when performing official duties, even if the relationship is special. When giving gifts to foreign friends, we should also consider not violating the existing laws of the other country.
Terrible gift. When choosing gifts, especially for people who don't have deep contacts, people from other regions or foreigners, we should consciously make the gifts not conflict with the customs and habits of the other place. In any case, we must resolutely avoid giving away items that the other party thinks are immoral. In most parts of our country, the elderly are afraid of the clock pronounced "final", while lovers hate umbrellas and pears pronounced "scattered" and "separated". In the Arab region, alcohol is strictly prohibited, and of course alcoholic gifts are not welcome.
Personal gift. For various reasons, people will avoid certain items. For example, people with hypertension can't eat foods with high fat and cholesterol, and people with diabetes can't eat foods with high sugar content. If you give someone a personal gift, the other person will think that you don't care about him or respect him.
Harmful gift. Some things are not only useless but also harmful to people's work, study, life, health and family happiness. For example: cigarettes, spirits, gambling tools, vulgar books and periodicals, audio-visual products, etc. Giving this gift may please them, but it is inevitable that there is suspicion of intentional injury.
Advertising gifts. Don't give things with advertising signs or slogans to others easily. Otherwise, the other party will be suspected of using cheap labor to promote you for free. And don't give outdated and useless things to others, otherwise it will only prove that you look down on others.
For foreign friends, in addition to the above five points, we should also pay special attention to other taboos, such as:
Don't send medicines, cash, securities, jewelry, jewelry and other valuables. Generally speaking, you can send souvenirs, flowers or buy a small toy for another child. However, foreigners attach great importance to gift packaging, so it is necessary for us to pay more attention to gift packaging.
It is not allowed to refuse gifts. If you refuse for some reason, you must be tactful and firm, and you can't drag your feet.
When dealing with foreigners, especially Europeans and Americans, because of the different cultural backgrounds between the East and the West, don't say something that we think is suitable for self-modesty, such as "it's just a small gift, please accept it" and "I feel guilty about it", otherwise the other party will be unhappy and even embarrassed.
When giving gifts to Americans, you might as well satisfy their special curiosity. You can also send some handicrafts, wine or spirits. Be sure to take out gifts before or after entertainment. Besides, they think snails and horseshoes are mascots.
When you give something to the British, you should give something cheap but meaningful. They think lilies mean death, so you should avoid giving them. They have the habit of opening presents themselves.
For Germans, you can give them unique and exquisite gifts at a moderate price, and so should the outer packaging.
When giving gifts to the French, just send a few flowers that are not tied well, but you are afraid to give gifts when you meet for the first time.
When giving gifts to Koreans, it is best to send a local product of one's own country, nationality and region.
When giving gifts to Arabs, you should choose some valuables, brand-name items or brightly colored items. But they don't like pure and practical things and can't send old things and wine. Besides, I'm not used to giving or receiving gifts the first time I see you.
People who believe in Islam can't give gifts or wine. They think wine is the root of all evil. Don't send women's sculptures and pictures.
It is strange to send flowers to Russians, and sending money is the most taboo. They think it means charity and insult.
When giving gifts to the Japanese, you can consider brand-name gifts, but they are not necessarily expensive gifts. They have the habit of giving their gifts to others, so don't engrave and draw pictures on the gifts for the convenience of giving them away later.