His wives are varied, from Plutocratic family to Xiaojiabiyu to advocating widows, and he especially loves married women. Cao Cao was nicknamed "Widow Collection Station" by later generations.
But he only has two wives. One is Mrs. Ding. Although Ding Furen doesn't come from a wealthy family, she is the daughter of a respectable family and the first wife of Cao Cao's legal marriage. However, this wife has a great personality. She may be the first woman in history to propose a divorce voluntarily, and she is also the only strong-willed woman who dares to abandon Cao Cao voluntarily. This makes Cao Cao emotionally unable to cross this hurdle, and is also a woman who has never forgotten her life.
And his other wife is Mrs. Bian, who gave birth to Cao Pi, Cao Zhang and Cao Zhi. The greatness of Mrs. Bian lies in:
First, she gave birth to several good sons. Cao Cao's three most famous sons are Wei Wendi Xelloss, the famous writer Cao Zhi and the gifted boy Cao Chong. She gave birth to two.
Second, although she was born as a "householder", that is, a small low-income family who made a living by singing, she was a well-known woman in China history who knew the overall situation, was righteous and courageous.
Cao Cao's wife is like a crucian carp crossing the river. She is never jealous.
Mrs. Bian is very reasonable and will be a good person. When Cao Cao seized jewelry and other trophies, he always chose them for Mrs. Bian first, and Mrs. Bian chose them every time. Cao Cao asked her why, and she said: Picking the best is greed, and picking the worst is hypocrisy, so picking the middle.
What's this called? This is called decency.
After her son Cao Pi was made a prince, people around him came to congratulate him on his reward. Ms Bian said: Pierre can be Chu Jun, but only because he is old. As for myself, fortunately I can't be criticized as inconvenient to teach my son. What is there to celebrate? When Cao Cao heard about it, he greatly appreciated it.
Third, we should have the qualities and manners of a politician. Cao Cao escaped from Luoyang alone for opposing Dong Zhuo and was arrested in zhongmou county. When the news came, the family was in a mess and the subordinates were ready to disperse. Mrs. Bian stepped forward.
At that time, Mrs. Bian, who was still a concubine, told everyone: The situation is unknown. Why did he panic? Now that you are running away, Cao Jun will go home in the future. Do you have the face to meet him? Besides, when disaster comes, shouldn't we share weal and woe?
Cao Cao was greatly moved by this incident and respected her very much.
By the way, it is worth mentioning her attitude towards her ex-wife.
After Cao Cao divorced Yuan, he married Mrs. Bian. Mrs. Bian still respects Mrs. Ding as a big room and sends people to send things to Mrs. Ding all the year round. When Cao Cao went to war, she welcomed Ding Furen home and served him respectfully, although she was very unfriendly to Mrs. Bian and her son. Ding Furen was also deeply moved.
This is not a housewife, but a politician and a general.
No wonder Cao Cao thinks that Mrs. Bian can be the master of the world.
Besides these two wives, Cao has many concubines. Cao Cao has a hobby, that is, every time he fights, he thinks of his opponent's monarch or general's beautiful wife or widow. He doesn't care about women's honor, and he doesn't care about being cold or not.
For example, Mrs. Yin married Cao Cao with an oil bottle. The little oil bottle was Yanhe, the granddaddy of the famous "false mother" in Wei and Jin Dynasties, and the founder of metaphysics.
However, because Cao Cao was worried about Zhang Xiu's widow, Zhang Xiu, who had surrendered, suddenly defected, and Cao Cao lost his son Cao Ang, nephew Cao An and general Dian Wei. It was this incident that made Mrs. Ding unable to forgive Cao Cao all her life.
Later, my son xelloss and I almost competed for the widow Zhen Fu.
There are so many erotic stories about Cao Cao that he doesn't play by the rules at all.
Cao Cao's concept of mate selection has several characteristics:
1.？ Learn from others and everyone will come to you. No matter where the wife comes from, as long as she is beautiful and knows the customs. Besides, I especially love widows and mature women, and the taste is very strong.
Cao Cao is a hero, he has two brushes. Not only the country is well governed, but also the family is well governed. Although Cao Cao has many wives, he is not allowed to be jealous and lives in his own place. Moreover, he also made it very clear which concubines are and which are worthy of the master's wife, so he made Mrs. Bian, who has a deep sense of righteousness, the first wife and queen.
3.？ This shows that there was no unified temperament of Confucian ethics at that time, and the views on marriage and men and women were relatively natural. This can be seen from the fact that the mother of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty was originally married for two times, and after giving birth, she could be sent to the palace to be a concubine. It can be seen that the moral codes at that time were not so strict and abnormal.
It is normal for men to be lascivious, but it is important to recognize the situation clearly.